Cornelia Grimsmo

Start in the small. Start with changing what you spend your alone- time on. No one will be there to judge. I have always been a very positive person, but I found it hard to spread that. I felt I was pushing my point of view on others if I spoke out loud when anyone was being negative. So I started with working on positivity on my own first - listening to guided meditations. Taking in what these mindful, positive people spoke about I realised I could be a light in someone else’s life by voicing my opinion and pointing out the positive in any situation. I also wrote lists of things I was grateful for and gradually built up enough confidence and belief in the positive in the world until I felt strong enough to speak up. lovelove

I don’t think you need to know exactly what it is, as long as you do things everyday that seem meaningful to you. Finding joy in helping others is one of the most meaningful things, but you won’t be able to do that before you help yourself first. So I believe working on self growth and self love is the beginning of finding your purpose. When people tell you to “Work on yourself” it means stepping out of your comfort zone, opening your mind, being self aware, living in the moment and getting new perspective which leads to you being more connected to your true self. ♻ Read♻ Watch documentaries♻ Volunteer♻ Get a job♻ Travel♻ Try something new♻ Build/create something♻ Say yes♻ Spend time in nature♻ Talk to strangerslovelove

Work from the inside:♢ Meditate (find guided meditations on self love on youtube for example) ♢ Be conscious of your thoughts. What are you spending your time thinking about? Are they negative thoughts or positive? When you catch yourself thinking negative, rather think of the solution and how you can deal with the problem, and after think of 10 positive things in your life right now.♢ GRATITUDE. I Can’t stress this enough. Gratitude will be your greatest superpower through life. Life IS RIGHT NOW! So you better start finding the light in every moment, or else you’ll wake up at your death bed realising that THAT was it, and you didn’t appreciate ALL the good things life has to offer. Work from the outside:♢ You absolutely DON’T need to surround yourself with negative people. Be conscious of who you spend time with.♢ Unfollow social media accounts what only focuses on the exterior or have an unhealthy relationship with food/their body. Follow diverse looking people with different interests and who care more about finding joy everyday than what they look like or what brand they’re wearing. ♢ Find some kind of activity you enjoy. Exercise is SO good for mind, soul and bodylovelove

♡ Do romantic things/fun activities alone or with friends that you wish to do with a partner♡ Pay attention to the love around you. It IS everywhere; in friends, family, nature, animals, strangers and most importantly in yourself♡ Treat yourself and others the way you want your relationship to be like. So surprise someone, write cute notes, be a good listener, show up, compliment, share your secrets, pamper yourself etc. ♡ Never ever ever EVER chase someone.. Pay attention to and work on your own life: Start taking action in the direction of your dream life and your dream partner WILL be manifested effortlessly. ♡ It’s not necessary to plan your life out, but to have an idea of what you want to FEEL like every day you wake up will be the most powerful thinglovelovelovelovelove

☽ Do some research about the place☽ What supermarkets are near you☽ Where are the best places to eat out☽ Sign up for a yoga class if you’re into that☽ Find out where people go out in the weekends☽ Reach out to people on social media who live in the area☽ Read blogs from the area☽ Have lunch with someone you know who has been there to ask about the place or just someone who has lived abroad to hear about their experience, it will make it less scary when you know someone else who’s been through the sameNo matter how much research you do it won’t replace actually walking around in the area, getting to know locals and experiencing a new place for real, but I believe it can make it less daunting to have an idea of the place before you move. The most important thing when moving to a new country is befriending someone. They can give you all kinds of tips, introduce you to others, show you places.. etc. That’s what you should focus on :) Good luck and enjoy!lovelove

When you’ve been working on your inner life for a while you’ll realise that home isn’t defined in a physical space; a country or a house. But it’s a feeling you get when connecting to your true self.You belong to you. No one can be you better than you, so dive into being YOU without trying to be someone else and that’s when you’ll fit in. There’s a place for everyone on earth. We’ve been delt different skills and mindsets for a reason. You have a purpose! Align your purpose with your personality and you’ll find where you belong. lovelove

You’re SO young!! you’ll realise that in a few years. Please don’t stress with it. You got many, many years of being involved with guys, so enjoy this time of your life with friends, family and especially being just YOU. You don’t need a guys approval, be better than that. Fill your days with lots of fun, learning new things, laughing, reading, watching movies, working on your talents. Then when you get your first kiss it will be special and you’ll have a wonderful, unique story. Instead of being desperate and go for a guy you don’t really like at a party. -- Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but what’s the fun in it? You want butterflies in your stomach and want it to be a good experience you’ll remember forever.lovelovelove

It actually changes between a few different ones every time I imagine it. One of them is me having the perspective of a baby in a womb haha.. Kinda weird. But everything is comfortable, perfect temperature, the light is dimmed and the noises are muffled. Another one is a big house with a lot of rooms. And I picture myself walking through the different hallways opening all the closed doors, opening windows, turning on the lights etc.. There are so many places inside of us that we forget to visit and befriend. So I guess I imagine this house being all the different sides of me that I want to explore and get to know, Hope that helps when you’re building your own inner home :)https://www.amazon.com/How-Build-Your-Inner-Home-ebook/dp/B01B7TYX1Olovelovelove

I guess my “life goal” is to do what makes me happy, and make sure that whatever that may be has a positive affect on other people, animals and the planet. I want to create my own family; have children, adopt more pets, build a home with someone I love. I want to be creative; write, film, act and direct.I want to continue to learn new things every day, grow as a person and get even more connected to my true self. I got a lot of smaller and bigger goals in all areas of my life, but these are the main ones :)lovelove

Hm. But that is life; putting time, effort and energy into something you’re interested in. Sometimes it works out, sometimes not. You should be happy that the person said straight out that he/she isn’t interested, because now you know. And you can move on. It’s so common that people don’t say anything and make you hang around waiting - which is the worst thing ever. Just know that when someone isn’t interested in you it doesn’t have anything to do about you not being good enough. You can be the best version of yourself and still just not be a good fit for another person.It’s nothing to be embarrassed about, he/she wasn’t a good fit for you either and you won’t settle for something half ass. You only accept being in a relationship with someone who has no doubt about wanting to be with you!Just start with finding love and respect for yourself and you will attract people into your life who will feel the same about you.lovelovelooooove