Something about Obsession I don't see many people talking about which is how Nikki is set on a pedestal of "not like other girls"
While the issue begins clearly in the start of the movie with Ian sabatoging Bear's confession which gives Bear a distorted view on what Nikki would like I think his distorted view of her is a bigger issue
While granted we don't get to see much of real Nikki to confirm or deny how she would feel about certain things, I do think the phrase "Nikki would hate that" gets used to often for different things.
She did say she lost her crystal necklace I do genuinely think she would have appreciated if Bear bought her a new one. However, Bear just goes Nikki would hate that after hearing one potential option. Like there would've definitely been one that she would've liked if he truly knew her. Heck even just her favorite color if she isnt into meanings for crystals.
Most of what we see of Nikki is these assumptions the only potential evidence we see of Nikki being picky? (The right word isnt coming to me) is when she was making fun of the Pina Colda. Which to be fair is a very odd choice for a normal bar night so I am on her side for that. [Tangent at bottom about the bar scene]
I also think this lack of understanding is part of why fake Nikki is such an empty shell. I know a lot of other people have already made posts analyzing fake Nikki so I won't go over it too much. However, I think that a lack of understanding plays a crucial role in why fake Nikki cant be like real Nikki. Bear and even Ian and Sarah only know surface level Nikki. The director has confirmed that fake Nikki is the manifestation of Bear's Wish and the violence of the wish aside, how can the wish manifest deeper meaning if he doesn't know Nikki on that deeper level?
No one in the friend group understood Nikki on a level that made it possible for us to really understand what she would like or dislike, all I know is that she is more then the phrase "Nikki would hate that"
I also thing that even if she didnt like Bear as anything more then a friend I do really think that if Bear confessed saying things like when he was practicing with the waitress Nikki wouldn't have reacted with hostility like Ian suggested. Not saying that Bear deserves a chance but just that I don't think Nikki would have reacted badly to it even if she did end up rejecting him if he spilled his honest feelings.
Speaking of situations where Nikki would have had a willing choice to be with Bear, I still don't think Bear would've been happy if she did give him a chance. He couldn't understand Nikki before dating and I think he would've been disappointed to find out more about her because of this pedestal he has her on in his mind.
Sorry for the ramble, this has just been bugging me a lot because they made her seem like she would get upset easily and she seems very easy going and kind when she's not getting bullied by a nickname she was tormented with in high school, which is 100% valid to be upset about and Bear should have known better about. And he would've known better if he knew Nikki more then he trusted Ian.
[The bar scene tangent below]
One of the biggest points I see is Bears lack of commitment and I think the fact that he gets a shot but doesn't finish it highlights it well. Yes he hates alcohol BUT there is a solution that doesn't involve wasting Nikki's money on a shot he only takes a tiny sip of. One option being commiting to not taking a shot or one that ive seen used irl which is having a shot of something else. Like at one point in a group I was with one of the people wasnt drinking and the bartender offered a shot of water when we did a round.

















