When I was in high school, like most of us, I was told who to be.
Or, based on how I looked, people would treat me a certain way because that's who they wanted me to be.
For example, since I'm six foot, half islander, it was automatically assumed that I was going to play American football.
So I played American football.
I sucked at American football.
But because nearly every person my size was playing American football, not only was I trying to play, I was trying to be the quarterback.
Goodness!
I was spending all my time and energy trying to be something that I didn't want to be.
Can you say - exhausting 💅
Now I'm 38.
And I'm realizing choosing to do what you think people want you to do, and just being who you are are two different things.
It's scary to think I could have lived my entire life this way - doing the things I thought people wanted me to do, instead of just being me.













