Honesty. Truth. Appreciation. Communication. Those are all aspects of mutual respect. You never put your masculine down. You always support him no matter what. You show that you respect him by trusting him. Trust his actions. His judgement. His decisions. Instinctively, trust him. Show no doubt.
The biggest mistake that women make is that they demand respect. You should never demand anything from your masculine. That is degrading to you and to him as a masculine man. Don’t belittle him…ever. If you are feeling disrespected in any way, then you communicate it to him by being open and honest. Bottom line is that you need to let him know. He is not a mind reader! It’s simple.
There is this guy I know. Out of all the men that I know, he is the most masculine man I have ever met…ever. He is truly conscious and aware of himself, his energy, and what flows through him and that’s so sexy. I have an unmeasurable amount of respect for him and what he stands for. He has so much greatness, creativity, energy, and knowledge in him that it’s almost not human; it’s God-like. I value his opinion and feedback a lot. I asked him a few questions about respect and what it meant to him and this is what he had to say...
What does respect mean to you?
“Means Trust. They believe me when I say something or do something in regards to them. They trust my intentions even if they don't understand them. Another way of looking at it, its about having enough authority with someone that they listen to you.“
When a feminine woman shows her respect for you, how does that make you feel? What shows up for you? How do you handle it?
“Oh definitely makes me feel bigger energetically. I feel a greater version of myself, like expanded. Women are powerful yet they bring such a different energy to the table for us as men so it has a very profound effect on us when we are given that respect.
An obvious example to this is seen in many relationships where the woman doesn't respect the man. Every one from a mile away can see how diminished that man's presence becomes, it's like his whole being constricts. Some of these men even show body language equivalent to a turtle ducking in his shell. It's very suppressing and damaging to a man to NOT be respected.
So what does show up for me when a woman gives me respect is relaxation. It allows my presence to relax into the moment and even in how I am interacting with her or the other people around us even. The interesting thing about this is that it relaxes me into my power. I don't feel slacked off as much as I feel eased about assuming my power. It's actually a great feeling, so that greatness shows up in my presence as well.
I handle a woman's respect with honor. My intention is to revere and appreciate the gift it is. It does so much for me, why wouldn't I? And it has the profound side effect of inspiring me to show up more fully for that woman. I think respect is actually one way, a real way, women can make men better. Men have to do whatever they have to do to grow up from a boy and women really can't impact that journey for men as much because it is so personal for them, BUT AFTER THAT... in dealing with a mature masculine man, this is a sure fire way to support his growth and success. And anytime a man expands because of the energy of a woman, she always receives this expanded energy of a man back in the form of nourishment. Whether it's sexually (him fucking you like a God instead of a man) or respectfully (praising you from the greater power he now embodies, making the praise stronger or more touching than it had ever been before).
Also, in terms of how I handle it. It's important to never insult it. I will play with it out of the lightness of my heart but will never dishonor it in any way. Because I know the precious emotional currency that respect carries.”
How do you show your respect to the feminine? What does showing your respect to her do for you?
“I respect the feminine with my presence. I believe that in the respect the feminine is merely looking for the realness of a man, free of the bullshit. She wants to feel a sense of emotional awareness
that communicates care. She wants to feel the presence of my attention. She wants to learn the groundingness of my strength. My respect communicates all that. A sense that she's okay, she's received and allowed to be, this is what happens when I show respect.
For me, showing my respect allows a woman to be more radiant and that impacts me tremendously. It inspires me. It enlivens me. It makes life more fun, joyous, creative and way less serious. Men have tons of pressure on them to succeed, provide, be all kinds of archetypes so receiving the energy of a feminine Goddess is a breath of fresh air for us. As a man, I receive this energy bountifully when I give the gift of my own powerful respect to a woman. It's absolutely a win-win. The dynamic of masculine-feminine is meant to be a positive vortex I believe. It's a dance that, when flowing, brings about all sorts of beauty and life in both of those counterparts.
It's a dynamic of nourishment and sustenance, and it's meant to work for us not against us. That should be reason alone, for an individual, to clear out their crap and make themselves available for such an opportunity. Instead of not facing your demons enough to get yourself in the space to make a good choice here and just jumping into any relationship that has more potential to fail & damage you than nourish and inspire you.”
What happens when a feminine woman that you respect tells you she's lost respect for you or vice versa?
“ One, I ground myself because it can be unnerving for a man to hear that. Two, I ground myself more because seriously that shit can throw me off and skipping this step is the biggest mistake men make in responding to the feminine. If men adequately ground themselves and their powerfully masculine energy before they go any further with the feminine woman, they've already won the game for both the masculine and feminine parties. Third, I ask directly how that's occurring and what it looks and feels like for her, that she lost respect for me. Fourth, I shutup and fully receive the message I get back. Fifth, I dig deeper to see if there's a secondary layer to her feelings and the situation that may be a more accurate truth of what's occurring. Sixth, if it's THE feminine woman in my life, such as a girlfriend or significant other, I fuck the shit out of her. Touch in the context of relationships is very important. Because the need to communicate shit like this in the first place arises from the fear of the loss of intimacy or human connection to begin with. So it's not the "thing" aka the "issue" that matters as much as restoring the intimacy and connection between the people involved. By the way, fucking the shit out of her isn't the only way here--hugging, holding, kissing, any way that simply shares emotion via touch works.
All the while I'm going through this, I always maintain the presence of my masculine groundingness because I know it creates the environment of positivity.
Another note about this. I would be sure to not take all this so seriously at the end of it all, lot of the times the problem is in how personal we take things to start with when interacting with the feminine or vice versa that we just shoot ourselves in the foot and complicate it for no reason. The faster both people can bring the "issue" back to zero, make it the nothing that it really is, the more you get back in the flow with your relationship to that person and vice versa.”
“The beauty you see in me is a reflection of you.” - Rumi