Songs of Stardust

The Wretched of the Earth

Discourse On Colonialism

Making Space for Indigenous Feminism

Settlers: The Mythology Of The White Proletariat from Mayflower to Modern

Red Skin, White Masks : Rejecting the Colonial Politics of Recognition

Borderlands/La Frontera

As We Have Always Done

An Indigenous Peoples' History of the United States

Books I couldn't find on the archive but still recommend you purchase or check out at the library:

Some yuris I've been enjoying lately and would like to recommend 😌

Her Tale of Shim Chong - a princess and a beggar kind of a story in which they get close together because they both live in an environment that's adverse towards them. It has a very "us against the world" kind of falvour

Getting to Know Grace - very heavy in intrigue and drama, it begins vaguely toxic, relationship between a lady of high social class and her servant that beings vaguely toxic but it has a sweet development

Love Thy Neighbor - age gap relationship between a married woman (whose husband left her in debt) and a student who's saved her life. R18+

Dear Flowers That Bloom in Days of Yore - a veeery sweet story about schoolgirls who roleplay "Class S" kind of a relationship. There is one chapter about a side couple that's incredibly toxic and dark so you get the best of both the wholesome and toxic worlds with this one :')

The Delinquent and the Transfer Student - very silly, simple and sweet, and rather humorous. I really like it visually though, I love the contrast with which the girls are drawn, and it has this kind of a classic shoujo art style

Run Away With Me, Girl - romance between woman who's unhappily married and her childhood girlfriend. It's really well written, it's written in a mature way about characters who themselves aren't behaving in a mature way, but the story gives them time to experience life and grow, it's really really lovely

Pale Blue-green Color Saudade - this one is still on going, but the premise is very interesting; childhood friends who both found themselves at the rock bottom of their lives decide to spend a year drawing a manga together, and if they can't accomplish that they will commit suicide together. Despite that, their relationship is very gentle and loving

On a Leash - a proper furry yuri :') The women have both beast forms and human forms, and their relationship starts very toxic but has a healthy development. Very action-focused.

Interested in taking tech privacy more seriously in our current..situation? It can be ridiculously overwhelming. When I set the intention to work on having a more private tech set up this year, it felt honestly kind of impossible. I'm not "techy" - I know some HTML/CSS from my neopets days and that's kind of it.

So I wanted to share some resources that have helped me along the way.

The Cyber Cleanse

This is a 21-day guided series to taking stock of where you're at and moving toward a more private set up. It's very easy to follow. Some of the steps may take a while - I haven't finished everything on the list - but it's been key to helping me understand how the component parts of privacy fit together.

Privacy Pack

This is a site that helps you visualize what services you're using that could be security risks and what some of the common alternatives are. It's constantly being updated so even for the categories where there aren't many options, it's worth checking back later for more. By having the names, you can poke around and research to see what's right for you.

Into to the Fediverse

Corpo social media is a privacy nightmare. They don't just collect what you post but they stitch it together with your real world travel and purchasing behaviors and manipulate you to stay on their platforms longer. What if there were social sites that *didn't* do that? There are! It's called the Fediverse. This linked video will get you up to speed. Neocities is also worth checking out!

I'd also recommend The Hated One on YouTube with a hefty dose of take what works. He's got some very good tutorials on phone privacy, how VPNs work, and other basics for those who like a video format.

It's process. Anything you can do helps you and people around you - so it's not just people the government hates using privacy methods and making it easier to target folks.

instead ask:

is it SINCERE

was it CATHARTIC

was it FUN TO MAKE

is it MADE BY ME

You cannot optimise your way out of being human

You can take every supplement, superfood, and nootropic going, and you'll still have days when you're ill, when you're tired, when you make stupid mistakes for no good goddamn reason.

You can read every book on non-violent communication, or gentle parenting, you can go to therapy, and be ever so mindful about the people you fill your time with, and you're still going to experience conflict, and misunderstandings, and grief.

You can plan your schedule 24/7 in carefully calculated 3 minute increments to ensure maximum productivity, but that train will still be late, that project will still run over, you'll somehow still never get around to learning that language, or that instrument, or that sport.

You can do your cardio, and track your macros, you can carb-load, or keto, or whatever the fuck dumbass extreme diet is this week's fountain of youth. You can do crosswords, and sudoku, and keep up a 12-step nightly beauty routine, but you're still going to age. You're still going to live through the gradual dissolution of the self, both physical and mental - and that's if you're lucky.

There is no one right way to live your life. Everyone you look at who is somehow managing to live the life you imagine is perfect for you has sacrificed something important to you, or has resources you don't.

I get it. I do! This mortal coil is wrapped so tight around you that you can't breathe if you stop a moment and let yourself be aware of it. There is a book on the shelf in your local library right now that would change you as a person if you read it, but you never will, because it's one of a million and there just isn't enough time.

You are an animal, just electricity in meat. The product of millions of generations of 'just good enough'. Let yourself be that. Learn to be just good enough. Let yourself lie in a sunbeam like a cat. Let yourself search for small pieces of joy like a magpie. Feel every transcendent and wretched inch of your humanity and howl at the moon like a wolf when there's too much of you to fit inside your skin.

mourn

grieve

start fresh in every way possible

see more places

look at things from different angles

return to a sense of childlike wonder

find parts of myself i’ve hidden away for other people’s comfort

Attracting satisfaction – professionally, mentally, physically, sexually, and spiritually – is the secret of strong, seductive women.

Indulge in every aspect of your being:

Spend 20 minutes planning the next day

Focus on your most important 1-3 tasks that will generate the most impactful results

Read for least 30 minutes every day – self-development, to build a new skill set, stay updated on your industry

Set 5 main quarterly goals (work, finances, health, relationships, self-development)

Nourish your body with whole, plant foods and plenty of water

Take long walks daily

Do pilates, yoga, or other low-impact exercises to move and tone your body

Invest in clothes that make you feel your best – for the boardroom, bedroom, and everywhere in between

Find a beauty routine (hair, skincare, nails, makeup, perfume) that makes you feel your best

Make time every week to further explore your sexuality

Meditate for 10 minutes daily

Write down 3 affirmations that feel most powerful for you

Keep a reading list that you update regularly

set goals for self development

plan brunch & dinner dates with friends

read 5-10 books

indulge yourself more in your hobbies. do what you love unapologetically.

have more rest days without guilt

reflect on last month. what can you do differently that’ll help your overall state of being? physically, mentally & spiritually

stay off social media

do the butterfly hug method for bilateral stimulation. tell yourself all the things you wish you were/are told. ♡

make slight adjustments to your morning and night routine. keep it interesting.

schedule routine appointments (health, pamper)

get on top of deadlines.

say affirmations every morning & night

be more kind to yourself

stay firm on your boundaries, make adjustments as needed.

stand up and show up for yourself.

walk with your head held up high and shoulders back. don’t cower.

prepare for any upcoming events

learn a new skill

try a new recipe

journal often

explore new places. meet new people and make friends.

keep your thoughts in check. what you focus on grows.

daily walks

meditate, stretch.

declutter your environment (digital, physical space, social circle)

GOAL 1#: HEALING FROM PAST EXPERIENCES AND SITUATIONS

Unexpected? Yes. But I really feel like I can’t move on until I heal my past. There are things I still regret, my selfharm scars, for example. There are also things I need to let go of, like my last relationship and the man I once loved. And then there is that mean little bitch called social anxiety. Regina George of all mental ilnesses, luv. And I really hope I can beat her too.

TRY:

→ reading a self-help book

→ keeping in contact with friends

→ meeting new people

→ opening up about mental health

GOAL 2#: BALANCED DIET

TW: TALK ABOUT FOOD

I know, this is tumblr, but wait… I’m not going to starve myself this time! Actually, this goal has NOTHING to do with calories, bmi, or body weight. Instead, my main focus will be on healthy food choices, eating 3x a day and keeping myself hydrated. I just think I need to improve my diet so it won’t get extreme (talking about both sides).

TRY:

→ eating less sugar

→ cutting energy drinks

→ eating more greens and protein

GOAL 3#: MORE PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

Even while struggling with ed sheeran, I didn’t do anything to move my body. The lack of physical activity was, and currently still is, questionable at best. So for my next goal I will try and change myself. I know, this one is going to be HARD. But I wan’t to feel good mentally & physically so the only way out is getting that daily dose of precious dopamine.

TRY:

→ riding a bike once a week

→ walking for an hour

→ youtube workouts

GOAL 4#: BETTER SKINCARE/BODYCARE

Nothing makes a woman more powerful than smelling, feeling and looking like a goddess. That’s exactly why I’m listing skincare and bodycare as something of high importance. Even though my skin is mainly clear, I feel like it’s time to push for more. I’m talking about face masks and body scrubs, getting manicure, having my brows and lashes done REGULARY, getting a nice tan, taking some time off for a spa day. It’s time to start treating myself like a true princess. 

TRY:

→ new lash extensions

→ hot manicure

→ going to a spa

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