vent abt the patriarchy and medical neglect
Pro-natalism* and medical misogyny (/transmisandry/exorsexism) are so intertwined it's downright disgusting.
When I was in my early 20s I was diagnosed with severe endometriosis, cysts around my fallopian tubes and fibroids. Every doctor I went to agreed that it would be the most logical step to do surgery, and since I can't take hormones, perform an endometrial ablation and salpingectomy. Easy, right? *incorrect buzzer* wrong.
I had to wait another TEN YEARS to find someone who'd actually help me because "aw but what if you want to have kids one day! :)"
I never wanted children, my wife signed several documents, my fucking psychiatrist vouched for me - none of it mattered to them.
Ten years. Ten years of excruciating pain, iron deficiency, not being able to walk properly, hospital stays, ER visits. Just because they thought I'd someday be feeling the urge to give birth. Spoiler alert: My Uterus is so severely damaged, it'd tear. :)
At age 32 I finally, finally found a doctor who helped me.
And I, at long last, got some peace, quiet, and, unfortunately, because of those 10 years and the "treatment" I had to endure, an irrational hatred for everything related to parenthood and procreation.
(I'm working on it, but medical trauma is a thing.)
No, pissing on the poor tumblr User, that does NOT mean I wish harm to parents and their kids. I hope they all live long and prosper, I acknowlege their need for liberation and support, and I really want them to be happy. Maybe, someday, I'll join them and we'll all live happily ever after. This is a me thing.
For now tho, I'm going through it every other month. So please let me vent a bit. I'll be okay.
*meaning: The assumption that everyone wants to be/should be having children. The patriarchy is a big pile of ass nuggets.