hazelnut

I want to relapse

sleeping to the sound of rain

lying on warm grass

dreamy music

cozy places strung with fairy lights

cookies out of the oven

films that make me nostalgic

petting a happy dog

forehead kisses

being in the sun

an introductory guide to watercolour painting

apple cookies

boss the basics - how to make bread

cherry pie pastry envelopes

cream cheese strawberry cookies

create your own hanging garden

crochet cat paw chair socks

crochet easy coin wallet

crochet strawberry coaster

cute crochet mushrooms

crochet wildflower coasters

dandelion and daisy cookies

diy chive vinegar

diy jewellery organisers

diy rose oil and rose water

easy homemade potpourri

edible glitter chocolate bars

floral bath salts

frog macarons

handmade floral gift ideas for any occasion

homemade deodorant

how to make daisy salve

how to make dandelion oil and ways to use it

how to make diy fairy wings with cellophane

how to dry herbs

how to make heart shaped pot holders

how to make an ocean diorama

how to make seashell string lights

how to make a terrarium

how to preserve flowers in resin

how to press flowers and leaves

how to sustainably tap a birch tree

how to turn wildflowers into crystallised candied sweets

lavender body oil

lavender cookies

lavender honey lemon cake

lavender lemonade

lilac honey recipe

map coasters

moon and stars baby mobile crochet pattern

painting an acrylic cherry tree forest

pinecone picture frame ornaments

rose ice-cream

sand art terrarium

strawberry and cream handbag crochet pattern

strawberry and orange personal pouch crochet pattern

strawberry butter

strawberry, elderflower, and dandelion wine

tanzhong milk bread

the art of japanese bookbinding

the free coffee that grows all around us

vintage floral nail art

white chocolate cherry fudge

wild violet vinegar

4 types of drawing clouds - acrylic painting

5 ways to grow food without a garden

8 cute and easy hairstyles from japanese fashion magazines

10 copycat cleaner recipes

10+ things to make with violets

12 homemade gifts for book lovers

13 crafts made from recycled jars

19+ flavoured butters

21 household problems you can solve with bicarbonate of soda

30 cleaning hacks

Oh, yes.

A few years ago I went to pick up a woman I met on OKCupid for a date, and a friend of hers was there. They kind of over-explained “Oh, she just showed up to say hi” and there was a vague nervousness in the air that even my autistic ass was picking up on. Her friend was playing conspicuously with her phone. I went “Ah, the safety. Need to get a picture?”

Dead silence for about a second and a half, then the friend took a picture, looked at my date, and said “Have fun” and walked out the door.

(I would ordinarily have been clueless, but I’d just been asked to be the safety the previous night.)

My advice to male-presenting folks: recognize that this not your problem. By which I mean, this sort of security check isn’t a problem for you. It doesn’t hurt you. You aren’t being insulted or disrespected. And if you treat it like what it is– a reasonable adaptation to an unreasonable situation– and just roll with it, your dates will be more comfortable, and you will have a better time as a result.

The same applies to phone calls mid-date. Let them answer the damn phone without drama.