fuck my stupid baka life

i have a reoccurring condition called chostochondritis, where the cartilage that connects your sternum and ribs becomes inflamed. can be as minor as a bruise or as severe as a heart attack!

i have AMPS, so its more like five heart attacks.

a lot of people think im just overreacting when i say my chest hurts too badly to do (xyz)!

an AMPS awareness thingie might be nice too. its not just in my head!!

- m/f ship between a nonblack man & a Black woman

- it's either canon (e.g. mel/jayce arcane, arthur/guinevere bbcmerlin) or entirely plausible (e.g. prism or coupé/robert dispatch)

- fanbase overwhelmingly pairs nb man off with another nb man and disengages from the Black woman character, shunting her into a background wise & sassy caretaker role (for which there is a name) or leaving her out of fanworks entirely

- fans who do this ^ claim it is an expression of love and admiration for the Black woman character, actually, bc the nb man (who may be her canonical partner) "can't handle all that" (he may be perfectly competent and engaged; she may be totally low maintenance; it has no bearing), she's just too wonderful (too much) and out of his league (lacking in flaws and interiority and fan appeal)

[PT: You're allowed to make being queer your entire personality. /End PT]

So many queerphobes say "why do you have to make being [insert identity] your ENTIRE personality" and I hear many LGBTQIA+ folks respond "we don't."

But what about those who do? What is wrong with that? What is wrong about centering your queerness in your life?

You're allowed to make:

Being gender non-conforming, Being cusper, Being nonbinary, Being a trans man, Being a trans woman, Being nonbinary fingender (feminine gendered), Being nonbinary mingender (masculine gendered), Being lingender (androgynous gendered), Being ningender (neutral gendered), Being gendernull (null gendered), Being aginspec (demigendered & nongendered), Being xingender (xenine gendered), Being ouingender (outherine gendered), Being aingender (aporine gendered), Being multigendered, Being multidirectional, Being unlabeled, Being culturally gendered, Being transsex or altersex, Being intersex, dysex, or ersex, Being gay, Being diamoric, Being mspec or abro, Being aspec, Being polyamorous or ambiamorous, Being non-partnering, Being autospec, Being nonrose (queerplatonic, alterous, sensual, etc) oriented, Being objectum,