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We attend and plan our weddings knowing there are certain things we will experience and include. We search for the perfect white dress. We hunt through a number of florists to find just the right designer to create our bouquet. We make our list of who will be our groomsmen and bridesmaids. Often times we spend hundreds of dollars just on our veil. Did we ever stop to ask why? Where did these traditions come from? Did we know that some of them are rooted in the religious, medieval custom and even superstition?

Joining as husband and wife dates as far back to the creation story in the Bible when God created Adam and Eve. The story tells of God joining the two together so they would not walk alone and could have one another for friendship, help and love. Pairing together two by two is as old as the beginning of time. From that starting point many customs were created and today we call that process, The Wedding.

The Wedding Party - The selection of ushers and groomsmen dates back to, believe it or not, an era when a groom would “steal” his bride. The groomsmen were more like a small army the groom would select to fight off the bride’s family while he stole his future love. How romantic!?

The White Dress - White has always been a symbol of purity and is why it is highly chosen as the color of wedding dresses. In the puritan era, blue was actually the color of purity and often blue sashes or blue gowns were worn during the time. This is where the phrase “something blue” comes from when carrying “something borrowed, something blue” on your wedding day.

The Veil - Covering one’s hair or head is a sign of reverence in many religions and still continues today. In weddings it represents innocence and modesty. In some ancient cultures the veil covered the entire face and only after the marriage was the groom allowed to see whom he was marrying!

The Bouquet - Everyone loves flowers! During many eras brides would choose flowers that had meanings of love for their wedding bouquets; flowers like forget-me-nots (forever love), lily of the valley (purity), and white roses (true love). But in medieval times, it was often fragrant herbs that were chosen, not flowers, to drive away evil spirits from the wedding.

The Rings - Wearing wedding rings symbolizes the bond between a married couple. The reason the ring is placed on the fourth finger on the left hand or “the ring finger” is because the ancient Romans believed the vein in this finger went directly to the heart. The symbolism is evident!

As you plan your wedding or attend a friend’s beautiful day, know that the many experiences you are blessed to be included, have an ancient tradition rooted in many years of love, belief and faith.

Written By:

Melissa Prestinario

Wedding Coordinator

Memorial Church Stanford University

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It’s time for CAKE! Ever fascinate your perfect wedding cake on your Big Day? You may have browsed thousands of wedding cakes on Pinterest, but you still have difficulties of choosing The One when you actually look for it in a bakery store. Here is some tips for you to go closer to your dreams!

1.Choose a reputable bakery store.

A reputable bakery store is the very important beginning to realize your cake dream. You might see all those fancy photos online, but you have to make sure what they really like in the store. Take your besties and visit several local bakery store before your final decision. Remember to talk to the staff in the store and better to have a taste of their cakes.Most dedicate bakery store would have a nice and professional staff help you with the cake choice and design. They will have a nice place for you to sit down and talk about the details.  If you do not like any part of the whole visiting experience, you’d better have a second thought before you make a decision.

2 Give yourself enough time

3-6 month in advance would be a good timing for final deciding your wedding cake. Once you have known your wedding theme and the color, deciding wedding cake would be more easier and efficient. Make sure do not let yourself still hesitating in the final two month of your wedding planning because you will have to so many things during that period. In order to be less stressful, the earlier the better!

3. Don’t assume--- TASTE!

You have you like the taste of your cake not only the outlook but also the taste of your cake. I’m sure you want every guest to enjoy our sweetest moments as well as your sweet cake. Arrange a cake tasting before your final order. Try to taste all of them since it varies when its formulation, frosting are different. Pick the flavor you like and enjoy the rest part of the expecting time.

4 It’s always about Design.

“OMG, these cakes look amazing!” You might be amazed at different cakes online and dreamed of your own cakes. When it comes to your wedding, what design would you use on your cake? If you have a planner and designer, it would be much easier for you. Follow the professions’ guide and provide them your color and theme. If you don’t know how to express yourself, a lot of brides now are using Pinterest to make a board for inspiration for their vendors too! Remember to share your boards to the Bakery and discuss the detail of the cake with them.

Brides, wanna be stunning on your wedding? it’s the time! Front-and-center floral is classic while a bit of dainty flower is still elegant. Add some garden-fresh hair accessories to you and build your romantic dream!  Here are some stunning ways of wearing those cute, nice and romantic things in your hair.

1.Wow Crowns

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2.Plaited Petals

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The only thing more beautiful than a side-swept braided hairstyle is one embellished with miniature blossoms.

3 Around an Updo attachment

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4.Baby's Breath Stunning

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Absolutely stunning with these little cute Baby’s Breath!

5. Subtle is Everything

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Pokémon Go has taken the world!

Is your boyfriend also one of them? Are you still out of his world? No worries! Let me tell you why you should let your boyfriend play Pokémon Go, and I will tell you how you both can enjoy the game together and have some fun!

1. Guys playing Pokémon Go are loyal to the game and YOU!

Have you noticed that your sweet heart checks the app when he is walking, eating, meeting and even pooping? He wants more Pokémon, more evolves and more gyms. Do you think they still have time going to the bar and chat with other girls? Yay, peace of mind!

2. Let him say YES to SHOPPING!

A shopping mall usually has many Pokéstops. What’s Pokéstop? Check these blue & pink spots in the picture.

Trust me. He views every shopping mall and park as a chance to level up.  He will be so happy going out with you while he can catch some rare Pokémon. Make sure you find a “Lure Module” when you want to try on some nice clothes, so that he can capture Pokémon for the 30-min Lure Time; otherwise, he can’t help stopping walking...I bet...lol...

3. Playing Pokémon turns exercise into games.

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Believe it or not. It does help with his health and six packs - 5x increase of his daily steps ! Unlike other video or computer games, in order to collect more Pokémon, incubate the Pokémon eggs and explore new gyms, he has to go to different places and walk around. 

4. Play the game with him. It helps you bond!

I’m not a super gamer. But Pokémon Go is a really easy-to-start game. Go catching your cute Pikachu!!! We're more likely to cooperate with someone in our real lives after we’ve played a social game with them involving a cooperative mission, like fighting in a Gym!

Catch 'Em All！

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Many women dream of their wedding from birth. We have fancy crazy ideas, we have romantic thought, we dream a lot. Normally we don’t think wedding planning a “man” stuff since men are always into those sports, beers and stuffs. However, sometimes it’s just lonely and frustrated with so many decisions to make. 

Here are some realistic approaches for brides to get your groom involved:

Budgeting: If he does good in Math and likes to be surrounded with numbers, he can definitely help you with the wedding budget. "Simply put, the man likes to be in charge of the money," says Samantha Goldberg, owner of Gold Events, in Bridgewater, NJ. Easy tools like LadyMarry can help you with wedding budgeting and its mobile App can be even more convenient for your groom to look into that by using his piece time.

Wedding music and DJ: It’s a party and everyone shall enjoy this. Your groom might have his best taste of music, so get him on board to pick the best music for your wedding. It’s also the biggest chance to show how brilliant of him in front of all your guests. If you appreciate his taste on music, just let him to play. It’s your wedding, it’s your party, just have some fun.

Catering: If you are not that good at food tasting and tired of try different catering vendors, it’s better to let your groom to make the decision, especially for the wine part. Food and drinks make your wedding more pleasant. Ask him if he wants to make the choice. Maybe they'll gladly help plan a self-gratifying, self-indulgent, all-night feast catered to your exact expectations.

Photography:  “Men want to make sure they won’t have to pose for too many photos, and they don’t want the photographer to be invasive of their space,” says Goldberg. Ask him if he wants to work with the photographer to keep your best moments more memorable.

Negotiating: Feeling stressful and unconfident about negotiating the details especially for the pricing? You might already have some approaches to your wedding vendors, but you need someone to help! If your groom negotiating well at his works or even more persuasive when your guys are arguing, he might be a helper to stand out and present your ideas. Since he might already be in charge of the whole budgeting, it’s also better to let him negotiate the price.

Photographers! You'll spend your entire wedding day with these persons and if you're at ease, you'll not only enjoy yourself more, but they'll also get better shots. Win-win! Aside from your gut instinct, ask these questions before choosing your photographer team:

How many of the photos will be retouched and color balanced? Is that done before I see the proofs?

Why you shall know: Some photographers will polish all your photos, while others will show you untouched proofs and work their magic only on the images you order.

How many weddings have you shot? How about this year? How about my wedding day?

Why you shall know: You only have one chance to get amazing wedding photos, so you'll want to hire someone who knows how to get those shots under pressure (means photography shall not just be their hobby). And ask if they have two weddings on the same day. If yes, you need to plan it in advance to make sure they can arrive and get ready for your wedding on time.

Do you shoot both digital and film?

Why you shall know: If you're obsessed with the dreamy quality of film, go with a pro in this medium. In addition to asking how many weddings they've shot in total (see above), let them know how many you want taken with film.

What percentage of photos do you shoot black and white?

Why you shall know: Many photographers do a mix of both color and black and white. You'll get a sense of their style and how your album might look by asking what balance they usually go with.

What exactly is included in your packages?

Why you shall know: When comparing fees, check the number of photographers you will have, whether prints, film processing, albums and proofs, as well as extra coverage such as engagement shoots, travel expenses are covered.

How many hours of coverage do we get? What is the charge for overtime?

Why you shall know: If overtime is going to cost you a ton, you'll be able to plan their hours accordingly. For instance, if you have six hours of coverage but your photographer charges a huge hourly rate for overtime, you might have them leave after you cut the cake instead of after the last dance. 

What is the payment plan?

Why you shall know: check if they require a deposit (which is usually 50%). And it is good to ask if you can have a discount when you pay the total before a certain date.

Will you be my actual photographer, or will it be one of your associates?

Why you shall know: It is better to meet the master photographer on your day in order to make an informed decision. And make sure they have a back-up plan if the master photographer is ill on your day.

Will there be a second shooter or any assistants? Is there an additional fee for each (if applicable)?

Why you shall know: We recommend you have a second shooter, so that he/she can cover more ground and can give you two perspectives on major moments (for instance, one can shoot the groom's face when he first sees his bride and the other can photograph the bride as she walks down the aisle). But this may cost you extra.

How long after the wedding do we get to see the photos?

Why you shall know: You'll want to see photos ASAP, and it usually takes around 30-60 days. 

Do you need to coordinate with my videographer and stylist? 

Why you shall know: This pair will need to coordinate and stay out of each other's way -- easier to do if they have a good rapport.

Have you ever shot at my venue(s) before?

Why you shall know: Your shooter should be aware of any lighting needs or issues specific to the space. If they haven't ever worked in your venue, they should be willing to check it out beforehand.

Will you follow a shot list? 

Why you shall know: Most photographers will welcome a (short) shot list to make sure you get the specific pics you want. The list usually includes around 10-20 people!

Can you show me some samples of the prints and album?

Why you shall know: get a sense of what style of the prints and albums you will have.

Do you own the copyright to the photos?

Why you shall know: If you're a social network addict, not being allowed to share some of your wedding photos online may be torture -- better to know about this ahead of time. Most of them will allow you to post online and keep the advertising use of these photos for themselves.

How about your equipment?

Why you shall know:Not only will you want to determine if you'll need to supply additional lighting (either hiring a lighting designer or having the venue supply it), but you'll want to be sure the equipment they bring won't be too bulky or obtrusive.

What will you wear?

When it comes to the big day itself, the work doesn’t stop. There are tables to be set, deliveries to sign for, timing to be determined, and vendors to direct. Hiring a day of wedding coordinator can be very helpful.

What is a Day of Coordinator?

A day-of coordinator (or “DOC” for short) is a planner who is hired to help you with the big day. Some refer to the DOC as a Month-Of Coordinator or Event Manager. They are usually wedding planners who offer day-of coordination as one of their planning package options for couples who love planning on their own. DOCs are typically hired several months before the wedding date and start working with you a 3-6 weeks before the wedding. Here is the service most will provide:

1. What services do you offer and what scope of work is covered before wedding, during the event, and post wedding?

Note: Be clear on what is offered within a standard proposal, what add-on options there are and if you can add on services when need arises at a later date, and what is not covered too. 

2. How do you charge your fees?

Note: Is it a flat service fee based on scope of work, hourly rate? Are there any surcharges for other circumstances e.g. extended hours, additional coordinators etc?

3. Are there any restrictions on consultation hours?

Note: Check if there are any limits on number of meetings and duration of meetings.

4. Do you work alone or with a team? 

Note: Ensure your coordinator is there from start of preparation till end of the wedding to avoid miscommunications should someone else fill in as coordinator on your Big Day.

5. How many weddings do you do in a year? For my wedding month, how many events will you be handling?

Note: This gives you an idea on their experience and level of commitment, and also gives you a gauge if the coordinator is able to handle your wedding successfully based on their capacity of resources.

6. What happens in the case of an emergency?

Note: Let’s face it—no matter how much planning work you do together, things can happen. So definitely ask your coordinator for a back-up plan if she/he is not able to make it to your wedding. A good coordinator will have a back-up plan for every scenario that comes up, including her/his own illness or emergency.

7. How do you communicate with clients?

Note: Before hiring your wedding coordinator, make sure you know how you’ll be keeping in touch with each other. Does email or phone work better? How does she/he feel about meeting in person? It’s also a good idea to find out how often you should be expecting to communicate with your planner. Some brides do better with weekly check-ins, while others want be involved as little as possible. If your coordinator works part-time (some have full-time gigs and do weddings on the weekend), make sure she or he will be available when you need to contact her/him.

8. What is the average size of weddings do you plan? Do you have any experience in destination/yacht/intimate/large/ministerial scale of weddings?

Note: You can ask based on your expected style/type of wedding you are planning to have.

9. How many years of experience do you have as a wedding planner and in a full or part-time capacity? How many weddings have you planned?

Note: You would not want a newbie to use your wedding as an experiment. Weddings are once in a lifetime. Always ask for client testimonials or any past clients you can have a chat with. Feel free to speak with wedding vendors to get feedback on planners as well.

10. Do you have any questions for me?

Note: Your coordinator should be asking you lots of questions as well. You’re both trying to get to know each other and see how well you’ll work together—Your coordinator should be just as concerned as you are about the success of your wedding. And if not? Don’t hire her/him.

Good Luck and may you find the right Coordinator best suited for you!

First of all, what is LadyMarry? 

LadyMarry is an online virtual wedding planner who helps you plan a wedding in a professional way for free.  You can:

Get a customized checklist month-by-month

Organize all your wedding information on-the-go

Ask the virtual planner about any questions of wedding

Checklist

You will have three views of your checklist:

1 ) Timeline      2) Category     3)  Timetable (website only)

Timeline: you can either check off the tasks or click each task to learn more tips. Tasks are customized month by month.

Category: All the tasks are re-organized by category. You can easily track each progress at a glance, and click the photos to learn in details.

Timetable: Drag and drop each task to reschedule the plan. (website only)

Organizer

Organizer helps you organize your wedding costs, vendors and notes.

Cost: You can schedule the next payment to a vendor. You will get a notification before the payment due date. All costs will be summarized with a total.

Vendor: No matter a candidate or the one finally signs the contract, you can add the vendor contact, pricing and interview notes here for later check and discussion.

Note: Write down whatever you’d like to take a quick note. Who will be the Maid of honor? What’s the color theme...? You can also brainstorm the guest list, the vows, toast, etc.

Planner

LadyMarry is a virtual planner that you can ask her anything about wedding. Most of the communication happens through emails and text messages. 

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to contact us via [email protected]. 

Welcome to LadyMarry. And look forward to seeing your unique and sweet wedding in the near future! 

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I know it’s a lot of pressure to look good and feel sweet in front of the camera, but engagement photo session should be fun!

Below are 6 tips to help you cross one more thing off your wedding checklist.

1. Be Yourself

My favorite photos here are the ones where the couple looks and feels like themselves. Bring at least one casual outfit with you. Want to wear high-heels for your beach photo shoot? Swap them for flip flops, which will help you look more natural and relaxed.  Just reflect how you look everyday - your natural beauty that your partner loves.

2. Consider Your Hobby 

Think of your surroundings and your hobbies, when picking out your outfit. It’s also better to discuss the details with your wedding photographers to make sure they are comfortable to shoot under a particular situation.

3. Differentiate from Surroundings

If your photos are in a desert, a gray or light yellow dress might camouflage you with the background. A complimentary color, like a red dress, would pop against the gray. If you’ll be in more of an urban setting — let’s say in front of an abandoned brick building — try bold hues to contrast with the gritty background.

4. Coordinate with Each Other

It doesn’t mean to look like Mr. and Mrs. Identical, or become the Bobbsey Twins. Think about styles and colors that complement each other and stick to those hues, say lemon yellow and gray, or peach and turquoise. 

The same goes for how dressy you’re planning to be; if you’re going for a formal look, then both of you need to be formal – while her in a ball-gown and him in shorts and a t-shirt might seem weird.

5. Leverage Your Location

Depending on whether your engagement photo session is outdoors or indoors, think about what looks will best set off the backdrop of your photos. If possible, bring your pets with you to upgrade the sense of happiness, and you will feel more natural in front of the camera too. 

6. Avoid Flashy Accessories 

Keep your jewelry, watches, rings from being the flashy distractions in your pictures. If possible, you can ask your partner to help hide it by hands in a photo.

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We see a wide variety of family shapes, sizes and dynamics from the users of LadyMarry, and we’re often asked about the most appropriate order for both the processional and recessional. So today I thought I would share with you some general guidelines for the big entrance and exit so that no one feels left out or that their thunder was stolen. As with most wedding “traditions” these are guidelines, not a black and white how-to so take notes but feel free to tweak this as necessary for your bridal party. 

General Guidelines:

Traditionally, ladies are always on the left side of their escort, however it is also acceptable for the lady to stand on the side she will be seated. For example, the mother of the groom (MOG) may walk in on her escort’s right side because she will be seated on the right side of the chapel.

If there are ushers/escorts, the lady will be walked in first on the escort’s arm, with her husband following behind.

In circumstances of divorced families, the mother of the bride or groom is traditional given precedence and therefore walk in after the father and stepmother have been seated. They also traditionally get to sit in the front row unless the parents are on good terms, in which case they may choose to sit together.

The wedding party may process in separately or in pairs. 

Child attendants are the last ones in before the bride, depending on their age, they may walk in together or separate but it’s really not too important because they’re usually so cute they can get away with anything at this point.

Processional Order (if present):

Groom’s paternal grandparents

Groom’s maternal grandparents

Bride’s paternal grandparents

Bride’s maternal grandparents

Groom’s parents, MOG may be escorted in by the groom with her husband following behind.

Mother of the Bride (MOB), often escorted by a son or another male relative but may also be escorted by the Father of the Bride who returns to the front of the church to escort his daughter, the bride.

The Wedding Party: Beginning with the officiant followed by the Groom, his best man and groomsmen in their standing order. After they are in their places, the bridesmaids begin filing in in reverse order; beginning with the last bridesmaid in line and ending with the Maid/Matron of Honor.

Children attendants

The Bride and her father, or whomever she chooses to be her escort for the day.

Recessional order (Essentially the reverse of the Processional order):

The Bride and Groom

Children attendants

Honor attendants (Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor)

The rest of the bridal party in pairs

The Bride’s Parents

The Groom’s Parents

Grandparents may also recess but often stay seated because the bridal party returns shortly for pictures and this eliminates any excess walking for those who may not be as mobile.

Music Choices for the Processional and Recessional:

Processional:

Seating of the Families and Entrance of the Bridal party:

Beethoven’s 5th Symphony

Air on the G String by Bach

Arioso by Bach

Four Seasons by Vivaldi

Greensleeves- a traditional English folk song

Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring by Bach

Ave Maria by Schubert

Entrance of the Bride:

Air on the G String by Bach

Canon in D by Pachelbel

Bridal Chorus by Wagner**

Recessional:

Festive Trumpet Tune by German

Fanfare by Lemmens

Toccata by Widor

Rondeau by Mouret

Wedding March by Mendelssohn**

I hope this post serves as a guide and resource to your big day! 

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Tasked with throwing an epic bachelorette party? Before you hit "send" on that group email, polling everyone on what they think you all should do, read these planning pearls of wisdom from maids of honor and brides. Follow their stress-less advice, and you're all guaranteed to have an amazing time!

Choose a Creative Party Theme

"Throw her a bachelorette party that she will enjoy, not one everyone else thinks she should have." —Christine Piotrowicz

"I decided to go with a neon and neutral theme. The bride is a personal shopper for J. Crew and she was having a huge neon-and-neutrals moment, so I played off of that. She didn't want a 'typical' bachelorette party where everyone wears black and sips their drinks out of phallic straws." —Alexandra Hansen

Photo Credit: Appletini Photography & Design

Incorporate the Bride's Interests

"We've all been friends for over 20 years and we're in our mid- to late thirties, so we wanted to throw Stacey a bachelorette party that was more intimate (and mature) than Vegas, for example. Also, the bride loves wine and wanted a relaxing weekend. We rented a beautiful ranch house in Santa Ynez wine country. The picnic with all eight girls at the last winery was my favorite part of the day." —Amber Sanchez

Get the Guest List from the Bride

"Ask the bride-to-be for a bachelorette guest list. Make sure everyone you invite is someone she feels comfortable 'letting loose' with. You want her to be surrounded by people she wants there. If she hasn’t talked to her third cousin in 12 years, she probably doesn’t need to be there." —Christine Piotrowicz

Streamline Communication

"I handled all of the research and negotiations for the events of the bachelorette party weekend. After all the research was done, I e-mailed the bridesmaids with the different options we had. From there, we worked as a group to finalize everything. I chose to do it this way because we felt it was better to have one person gather all of the info. That way, there wasn't double work being done and communication was only coming from one person, so it didn't become too overwhelming." —Lucy De Nobrega

"Keep it simple and enlist help. Be patient when you are planning a trip with multiple, busy women. Be open to suggestions and advice from other attendees!" —Amber Sanchez

Photo Credit: Rapture Photography

Book Early

"We saved money on plane tickets and travel costs by booking early. This allowed us to splurge on a classy suite at the new Cosmopolitan, a hotel in Las Vegas. So worth it!" —Irrum Doss

Distribute a Detailed Itinerary

"Create an itinerary so that all the guests know where to be and when to be there, especially if you are planning an out-of-town bachelorette party. Ours included all the details for the entire weekend. For example: Night one, lingerie masquerade party; day two, pool party; day three, brunch with Bloody Marys. All the girls said they loved knowing everything that was planned, including what to wear to each event!! This also helps guests feel more comfortable spending money, since they will know exactly what they are paying for." —Lucy De Nobrega

"Print out all of your confirmation numbers and bring them with you in case of any unforeseen mix-ups." —Irrum Doss

Photo Credit: Jill Olson/Simply Viewed

Leave Some Wiggle Room in Your Schedule

"I definitely recommend not over-planning the weekend. Have plans for dinners, showers, supplies (e.g. crowns, sashes, favors) but let the fun happen organically. I left an open schedule for everyone to relax, lounge by the pool and catch up. We had a blast!" —Alexandra Hansen

Take Budget Into Account

"Take into account what the bride wants to do, but also the price point of the girls that are going. No one should go broke from all of this." —Laurel Niedospial

"If you are staying overnight somewhere or planning to go to dinner and expect every girl to contribute, include the price in the invitation." —Christine Piotrowicz

Photo Credit: Joe Krummel Photography

Send Printed Invites

"My sister and maid of honor, Kristina Degiovanni, came up with a really sweet invitation design that I helped assemble. We picked Ryan Gosling because he's great to look at...no other reason. My sister thought it would be a neat idea to have part of the invitation hidden under his boxers, so you'd have to lift them up in order to see the text.

Also, don't just use save-the-dates for your wedding day! Since all of my friends have pretty busy schedules and their weekends tend to fill up fast, my sister sent out save-the-date magnets so that everyone would be able to plan around the date." —Amy Olmschenk

Decorate!

"Make it special and think about the little details that could be used to make the party different from all others. Keep with the theme and go crazy. Remember, you don’t need to buy everything — get crafty and make decorations." —Christine Piotrowicz

Wear Special Outfits to Stand Out

"The bride wanted to have a theme for our night out but she didn't want to wear a typical white dress and veil. Instead, we had all the guests dress in white and she wore an aqua blue dress, which made our group really stand out." —Lucy De Nobrega

Or, Try Props Instead

"Extras make things interesting! We brought boas for the girls, and it really made all of us feel like celebrities when we were walking through the casino in Las Vegas, where the party was held. Bystanders even thought we were entertainment hired by the hotel.

Also, bring some fast flats (our photographer told us about this one!). With all of the walking you do, it's nice to give your feet a break. Plus, they roll up and fit just about anywhere." —Irrum Doss

Photo Credit: Rapture Photography

Don't Involve the Bride in Everything

"With all the efforts and excitement that the bride and groom face while planning a wedding, it is a welcomed (and necessary) gesture not to have to worry about a single detail. The bride has enough on her plate, and the surprise is half the fun!" —Melissa Copson

"If I could give any bride advice about her bachelorette party, it would just be to relax and hand over control to those offering to plan and host the festivities. This should not be a stressful occasion, so don't go into it with expectations, and let your friends and family treat you as they see fit!" —Caroline Pennington Gillem

Give Her a Surprise She'll Never Forget

"I loved that my bridesmaids didn’t tell me where I was going; they just had me pack a bag and jump in the car. Just make sure the date you choose for the party works for the bride-to-be. Her calendar might be filling up with wedding to-dos, so double check with her before booking or planning anything." —Christine Piotrowicz

"Surprise the bride and get out of town! Nothing says 'I love you' like a surprise and it certainly wouldn't hurt to use a blindfold. Who knows when you will have the opportunity again to get away with a great group of girls?" —Melissa Copson

Photo Credit: Lin & Jirsa Photography

Bond Over a New Experience

"The pole dancing class was a blast…and also very challenging! It was great to see some of the shyer girls really come out of their shell. They ended up being the best ones!" — Alexandra Hansen

Play Games

"One game we played is that each guest brought a pair of underwear that represented themselves, and I had to guess who brought it."—Esther Kim Wang

"If some of the girls don't know each other that well, games can be a great icebreaker. We played a balloon game where everyone paired up and had a balloon in between them that had to be popped. The last pair to pop their balloon was eliminated that round. We made sure to pair people up who didn't know each other as well — it's a pretty quick way to get to know someone!" —Amy Olmschenk

Be Trailblazers

"We did dare to-do lists: For example, Dance and sing to a bald man, get a pair of men's boxers, do three shots in a row, etc." —Irrum Doss

"My bridesmaid Sam surprised me with cute bachelorette paraphernalia (i.e. tiara, phallic balloons, flashing rings, and a shot glass necklace) and then left a trail of the aforementioned balloons at each location throughout the night, 'leaving our mark.' We ended the night with a ride back to the hotel in an Escalade and a stop-over for Mexican food." —Esther Kim Wang

Safety Comes First

"Arrange rides if your party includes alcohol. Rent a bus, catch some cabs, arrange a limo, ask your brother if he can pick you all up in his large SUV...any ride will do. Just drink responsibly and make sure everyone gets home safe!" —Christine Piotrowicz

Photo Credit: Rapture Photography

Take Fun Photos

"I worked with an Etsy seller to make mug shot boards for everyone to take that Saturday morning. You can personalize the signs by creating specific 'crimes' for each girl. The 'morning after' photos were hilarious!" —Alexandra Hansen

"I took individual photos with each girl. It was nice to get a chance to laugh and be silly with each of them. I think that each photo series we took perfectly captures our individual relationship." —Laurel Niedospial

Consider Hiring a Pro

"Hire a photographer! There are so many fun moments that a camera phone simply can't do justice." —Irrum Doss

"I decided to hire a photographer for a couple of reasons: I wanted to do something different that would stand out, be memorable, and be meaningful to the bride. The weekend comes and goes so quickly; it was the perfect idea to capture the moments before the weekend was over." —Lucy De Nobrega

Start a New Tradition in Your Social Circle

"My bridesmaids saved money on my bachelorette party by utilizing items from previous parties that we've planned. We have a storage bin that we open each time we plan a girls-only party. We also have a tradition of decorating risqué cupcakes on all of our bachelorettes. It's always fun and hilarious to see what everyone creates...the winner always gets a prize!" —Melissa Copson

Get the Groom Involved

"Plan on having the groom do something special for the bride, like surprising her with flowers, champagne, or chocolate-dipped strawberries sent up to the room with a personal note. We did this and it really made the bride enjoy her weekend that much more, knowing that her hubby-to-be was thinking about her. She felt so special!"  —Lucy De Nobrega

Photo Credit: Lin & Jirsa Photography

Give Out Fun Favors

"Have favors. You don’t need to give each girl attending something expensive or extravagant, but they are putting out some money to celebrate with you. It is nice to give them a little something to know it’s appreciated they are there." —Christine Piotrowicz

Gift a Keepsake for the Bride

"I will cherish my guest book always! Every girl who came to celebrate for the weekend had their own page where their face was Photoshopped onto a different Barbie. It was so funny and a great way for each girl to write me a special message." —Christine Piotrowicz

Don't Forget to Thank Your Bridesmaids

"Carefully choose those who will be a major part of your wedding. My personal attendant, Kelly Martin, maid of honor, Jill Olson, and my parents were all my saving grace. Without them, I would probably be in an insane asylum." —Ann Marie Violet Seurer

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How do you stay calm at the altar? I'll tell you the secret: not only how to stay calm at the altar but also how to have a truly joyous wedding day. After counseling thousands of women over the last 14 years through their engagements, I can tell you with a fair amount of certainty what it takes to be a blissful bride. But first I'm going to tell you what most women do that nearly ensures that they'll be a wreck at their wedding.

Most women believe that the engagement is the time to plan their wedding. Sounds logical, right? You get engaged and within hours you set a date, book the location, secure a photographer, set up your wedding website, and begin making the countless lists of details that, when checked, will secure a fabulous wedding day. Most women focus on the externals -- the flowers, the dress, the rings, the colors -- believing the cultural message that has been told to them them since they were little girls that a perfect wedding translates into a perfect marriage and a perfect life. They're not consciously thinking about this equation; they don't have to since every media message has inundated them with this false belief, and as soon as they pick up a bridal magazine, the message is reinforced: If you plan a perfect wedding, you will look beautiful on your wedding day and live happily ever after.

The message is a lie, and I'll tell you why: a beautiful wedding and a calm bride actually have nothing do with perfect centerpieces. Who remembers the centerpieces two weeks after the wedding? When you think of the beautiful weddings you've attended in your life, do you remember the color of the napkins? Do you even recall what the bride's dress looked like? Not likely. A calm bride and a beautiful wedding are about what's happening emotionally, inside the bride and between the couple. When the bride is connected to herself and her partner, everybody feels it. We love weddings not because they're externally beautifully affairs but because they remind us of the highest aspects of ourselves, they fill us with hope, they elevate us to a realm slightly outside our normal, daily existence, and quite simply, they open our hearts to love.

And yet we tell women to spend their engagements obsessively focused on planning a perfect day. We guide them down a path that usually results in disconnecting from themselves and their partners, spending a boatload of money, and showing up on the wedding day looking like a ghost of themselves. The reasons for the perpetuation of this lie extend beyond the scope of this article, but suffice it to say what everyone intuitively knows: when you fall prey to the cultural pitfalls and turn into bridezilla, you create misery for yourself and everyone around you and do nothing to prepare yourself or your partner for a beautiful day and, far more importantly, a healthy foundation on which to begin your marriage.

So what's the antidote? What's the secret to a calm bride and truly beautiful day? The secret is fourfold:

1. Remember that the engagement, while on one level is a time to plan your wedding, is really about doing the emotional work that will allow you to transition healthfully into marriage. This means allowing yourself to feel grief that your single lifestyle and identity is over, fear about the unknown and uncertainty of marriage, vulnerability of opening your heart to the biggest commitment you've ever made, and a host of other uncomfortable feelings. Is it joyous and exciting as well? Absolutely! But for the sensitive soul, for someone who has struggled with transitions in the past and is no stranger to fear, grief, and anxiety, you will have to make room for these culturally undesirable feelings if you're going to experience joy and excitement.

2. Stay connected to your intention about your wedding day choices. Are you planning a wedding to impress others or to prove something to yourself or your community? Or are you planning a wedding as an expression of your and your partner's values and love? Planning a wedding can be a highly creative experience, but only if your intention is to express yourself instead of prove yourselves.

3. Stay connected to your fiancé. If it's not about the two of you, what is it about? Many women become so obsessed by the planning that their groom becomes an accessory in the whole affair. What I like to remind brides-to-be is that the only thing that truly matters on your wedding day is that both of you show up, not only physically but emotionally as well. If you spend your entire engagement obsessing about planning the perfect event, you're going to feel completely disconnected from yourself on your wedding day and you're going to look at your groom like he's a stranger. Is that really how you want to feel? The details are simply the container designed to hold the two of you as you transform from dating partners to husband and wife and celebrate your union. In other words, the details are the accessories, not your groom.

4. On your wedding day, let yourself feel whatever feeling arises. Wear waterproof eye makeup so that you can cry when you need to cry without worrying about your face! When you try to stuff the tears because "happy brides don't cry on their wedding day", you stuff the joy as well and end up looking and feeling like a zombie. It's normal to feel sad that your single life is ending! It's normal to feel sad when you let go of your dad's hand at the end of the aisle or when you dance with him at the reception! It's normal to feel scared, anxious, and numb as well. If you attach onto any of these "negative" feelings as meaning that there's something wrong, then judge them and push them down, you create a wall around your heart which doesn't allow the joy and calm to enter either. The wedding day, like all transitions, in a microcosm of life, so expect to feel every emotion times a hundred, allowing them all to flow through you so that you can be present to experience one of the most joyous days of your life.

If you follow these suggestions, which sound simple when outlined as a four-step process but are actually a 180 degree departure from the mainstream model that seduces you at every turn to externalize your motives and pursue perfection, you will find the true calm and bliss on your wedding day that you're seeking.

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What You'll Need In Order to Get a Marriage License

If you're planning to get legally married, there is one thing you mustn't forget – the marriage license. A marriage license is sort of a permit, kind of like a driver's license. It says that you are legally allowed to marry, although obtaining one does not mean that you ARE married. The rules and requirements for obtaining a marriage license vary from state to state and from country to country. To make sure that you have all your ducks in a row, contact your city or town clerk's office who will direct you to the right information.

Many towns now have websites with all marriage license requirements spelled out.

Some things you will want to know:

When:

Find out if there is a waiting period, and for how long marriage licenses are valid. You'll likely need to apply in the week or two before your wedding.

What documents you'll need:

Most states require birth certificates, proof of citizenship and/or residence, and a driver's license or other photo id. If you have been widowed or divorced, you should bring along a copy of the death certificate or divorce decree.

Fees and how to pay them

If there is a fee, you'll probably need to pay it with a money order or cashier's check, although some states are cash only.

Is a blood test required?

Some states still ask for a blood test.

residency requirements

If you are having a destination wedding, or getting married in a state other than where you live, you'll also want to find out about residency requirements (how long you must be in the county before you can apply).

Basic Step-by-Step Procedure for Getting a Marriage License and getting Legally Married in the US:

the bride and groom bring identification, necessary paperwork, fees, and sometimes blood test results to the county clerk.

The marriage license is either mailed or picked up by the bride and groom.

There is sometimes a waiting period, depending on your state.

You are married by someone legally allowed to do so in your state.

That person, usually two witnesses, and sometimes the bride and groom sign the marriage license.

The marriage license is returned to the county clerk's office.

About a week later, copies of the certified marriage certificate can be purchased from the clerk's office.

It's really not that complicated a process, but it seems so since the laws vary so greatly from state to state. Here is an overview of what popular wedding destinations require.

New York Marriage License Requirements

Where to apply 

A town or city clerk

Fees? 

Approximately $35-$50

Documents needed 

Documents showing both identification – such as a driver's license or passport – and age – such as a birth certificate or naturalization record.

Marriage License valid for: 

60 days

Waiting period or residency necessary:

24 hours waiting period; Non-residents cannot obtain a marriage license if said marriage would be void in their state. Hawaii Marriage License Requirements

Where to apply

Department of Health marriage licensing office

Fees?

$60 cash

Documents needed

If you are 19 or older, a current driver's license. If you are 18 or younger, you need to show a certified birth certificate. (If you are 16 or 17, you'll also need the written consent of your parent or guardian.)

Marriage License valid for:

30 days

Waiting period or residency necessary:

None

Las Vegas Marriage License Requirements

Where to apply

The County Clerk's Office

Fees?

$55 cash

Documents needed

Identification such as a driver's license or ID card, proof of age, Social Security Number

Marriage License valid for:

Indefinitely

Waiting period or residency necessary:

None

Florida Marriage License Requirements

Where to apply

The local County Clerk of Courts

Fees?

$93.50

Documents needed

Driver's license and document showing Social Security number

Marriage License valid for:

60 days

Waiting period or residency necessary:

Three-day waiting period between application and the effective date of a marriage license.

California Marriage License Requirements

Where to apply

The County Clerk's Office

Fees?

yes, vary by county

Documents needed: 

Valid picture identification such as a driver's license. Some counties also require a birth certificate.

Marriage License valid for:

90 days

Waiting period or residency necessary:

no

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You've made the decision to ask some of your closest female friends or relatives to support you as bridesmaids through the wedding process. Now comes the hard part of picking out the right bridesmaids gifts for your bridesmaids. You want each of your bridesmaids to feel special for being a part of your big event but you don't want to break the bank. Here are several ideas for giving that perfect bridesmaid gift to those great women you're lucky to have in your life.

I have been a bridesmaid several times over and probably the most common gift I have received has been jewelry. The great thing about jewelry is your bridesmaids can wear it on the wedding day to add that additional touch. I would recommend choosing something that works well with the bridesmaid dresses but also something that they can wear again. An engraved charm bracelet with her initials on it is a great idea and adds an elegant accent to her ensemble. For a little more color, choose a swarovski crystal bracelet which also includes an engraved charm to add that personal touch. A simple necklace or earrings can be a nice gift as well.

Another idea to add to jewelry is a personalized jewelry case. You can wrap it up nicely with the jewelry inside. Instead of a box, you can also give an embroidered jewelry roll. These are great for your friends that are always on the go but need something to keep their jewelry organized.

Traveling has become more difficult with all the new regulations regarding how you pack your bags that it is nice to have some help with the organization. Give your bridesmaids a personalized travel case to carry all there beauty necessities wherever they go. Or for something a little more compact, apersonalized toiletry bag is a great alternative carrying case for all your small things. A trendy luggage tag is the perfect finishing touch and dresses up any suitcase.

If your bridesmaids are like most women, they probably wear makeup. Most women have some sort of cosmetic bag to carry it all and if they are like me, they have probably had the same one for a while. Why not give them something fun and new that they will definitely use like a custom embroidered cosmetic bag in the season's hottest color? Match the bags to your wedding colors and the bridesmaid dresses for a special touch.

Another bridesmaid gift that I have gotten in the past is a personalized picture frame. The bride put a great picture of the two of us in it and engraved a personal thank you note on the outside of the frame. It is definitely a gift that I still show off on my shelf at home.

Most women these days have a membership to a gym or like to have some sort of physical activity in their daily routine. Giving them a personalized tote bag that they can use to carry all their gym clothes is a thoughtful idea. Even if they don't use it as a gym bag, it can be a great everyday bag. For those yoga enthusiasts, a personalized yoga bag is a sure winner.

I have always been the type of person who plans a trip to the last detail but then can't find my keys on the way out the door! So I love the engraved photo keychain I got as a bridesmaid gift one year.. Now I can keep all my keys together (and they are easier to find). It has been a very useful, and practical gift.

For the professional women in your bridal party, another practical gift is a personalized business card case. You can find some fun and elegant styles that are perfect for each woman. Fancy pens are also a great addition to anyone's desk. Blown glass pens are a unique gift that anyone can use.

I have come to appreciate a nice glass of wine, especially after a long day! Giving your bridesmaids an engraved wine box is a classy and personal gift that your wine lovers will appreciate. If you are under a tight budget, a personalized jute wine bag is a great alternative. You can include a bottle of her favorite wine in the box or bag. If your bridesmaids prefer cocktails, try personalized martini glasses or a set of engraved drinking glasses. Again, with each of these, you can include a drink mix (or bottle) of each person's favorite drink.

Themed weddings are a lot of fun and you can carry the same theme throughout the day and even for you bridesmaids' gifts. For instance, if you are doing a Christmas wedding, give your bridesmaids holiday ornaments. An engraved photo ornament is great because you can include a picture of you and your bridesmaid and it can be something that she can keep and use for years to come! Another example is with a beach themed wedding. You can give beach towels or a personalized beach bag. Either one of these items would be a great practical gift that they are sure to love.

As you plan your wedding, each decision can be consuming. Hopefully these bridesmaid gift ideas have made this decision a little easier for you!

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