Never Too Far

He should try and understand that these exams are important to you… but at the same time remember that it’s important to balance everything… you can’t completely ignore your boyfriend for exams it’s not fair on him! 

See him in your study breaks!! Manage your time better… you still have to eat, for example! Why not have short dinner dates with him every couple of nights :) 

Hey :)

Well first of all, I think you need to realise that friends who betray you are not real friends, and that in the long run its a lot better for you not to have that negative influence in your life. I also understand how the divorce is upsetting you, but sometimes divorce is for the best; your parents will be happier, and that ll mean a lot more positivity in your life! You have to see your parents as people of their own, as well as a part of your life.An idea for dealing with your breakup is using it to get closer to your mom! You both just lost the man in your life, use it as a bonding opportunity! :)

also read this for your cutting:

http://get-help.tumblr.com/post/53015834698/i-really-really-want-to-cut-right-now-im-just-sick

So after you ended your argument in good terms, next thing you know you’re blocked and removed? Hmm…

I think you definitely need to see her and talk about it in person. Force her to talk to you (even if it is for the last time). 

Just clarify that she does in fact want to end things - don’t make your own conclusions! But it does sound like she wants to break up… and she didn’t handle it very maturely. 

It’s strange that if you say you ended things well last night she would take this path of action… get her reasons at least or you’ll always wonder. 

To be honest if she’s controlling, and after you both agreed to make more effort she turns around and takes control again when she decided actually she’s done… without even talking to you… then you’re better off without her! 

I hope I understood you correctly and my advice is fitting!

Please let us know how it goes, I’d love to know why on earth she would remove you like that… Good luck! 

You need to get medical advice from a doctor!! Sorry we really can’t be of much help there.

-Angelia

As mentioned in our description, we aren’t professionals and therefore can’t give you any medical advice, but we are more than happy to help you through the emotional side of things, if you would like to ask a more specific question. Stay strong lovely xoxo

Long distance relationships are hard… But I would say the only solutions would be sexting, masturbating, and skype sex!! Stay strong:)

-Angelia

Tbh I think in terms of the sexual side LDR’s are quite challenging, but you can always do all the things Angelia mentioned (sexting, skype sex and masturbating), and maybe you can both find your favourite porn videos and send them to each other, so you stay in touch with each others turn on’s, favourite positions etc…also make sure that when you ARE together in real life you have a lot of alone time, and are not with your families or friends or whatever so you can catch up on the sex!

Thats a very good question! ahahahaha!

Hmm…if I were in your place, I would seriously consider the long term effects of any decision you may make. Fast forward 10 years, is it likely you’ll still be with your boyfriend?

If the answer is no, I think its clear where your priorities lie. I’m not saying give the relationship up, but I don’t think you should abandon career opportunities to live with him!

If the answer is yes, I think its time for you and your boyfriend to have a serious discussion! You have to see if maybe theres a way to both leave the places you live and find somewhere in the middle! Or maybe one of you can find another job, thats just as good, but better in terms of location!

Its a difficult situation, and I’m sorry if I wasn’t much help, but just as a side note; it is the 21st century, but its still more likely that the woman is the one who has to give up her dream job for the man. Don’t fall into that trap just because of your gender. I know a job isn’t going to keep you warm at night, but make sure that if someone has to find a new job, its the best choice for both of you!

If you aren’t ready for it to end yet - it means you aren’t bored! It sounds like you really care about him; more than you have for those before him. So its different with him. This means you’re not going to act cruelly intentionally in case he really does leave - which you don’t want anyway! Don’t worry - if its meant to last it will!

Talk to him and tell him that long relationships scare you and tell him you need to take it a little slow for now cos you’re scared you mess up again. Let him know you care about him! And if you mess up accidentally you have to admit you’re wrong and apologize - that’s your best bet of him not leaving you.

Don’t. Don’t cut yourself. Think for one second, of how you’ll feel about yourself when you wake up tomorrow morning riddled with scars. You’ll hate yourself even more. Its an endless cycle sweetpea.Throw your blades away, just throw them away. Every single one. You’re stronger than that. And its probably going to be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but do it. Instead, when you feel like cutting, get up, get dressed, and even though it might be the very very last thing you want to do, go out onto the street and run. Just run and run until you think you’re going to collapse and then keep going.

1) Your lungs will burn, your legs will ache and shake, your heart will speed up so much it will almost be painful. You will still be feeling pain, but it won’t be a destructive pain.2) Hard exercise releases a lot of the same chemicals in the brain as cutting does.3) It will help with your feeling fat, exercise always does. It will also help with your lack of self worth. Look back behind you when you’re done running, and realise that it was your own muscles and bones and body, your own willpower, that got you that far.

Every time you feel like cutting, run. You won’t have blades. Don’t buy new ones. Just run. Even if its 3am in the morning.

Also, it might sound like bullshit, but if you’re prepared to come off anon I can tell you about another tumblr user that I told to do this. They haven’t cut for a while now.

Hope you’re okay lovely, and remember, we’re always here.