George From Greece

FLR Tips is the sister site to FLR Info, where you’ll find introductory information about Female-Led Relationships. If you’re new to this, you should head over there. This site is about the practical, day-to-day aspects of FLRs. It is much more explicit and quite sex/femdom-oriented. Consider yourself warned.

Cunnilingus is pretty much a staple of FLRs. Our men love to perform it on us for hours on end, and we just lie back to receive orgasm after orgasm, night after night. Right?

For lots of FLR couples, this is indeed the case. Most men who are drawn to FLRs and properly starved of orgasms, are extremely happy campers when they get to put their head between their woman’s legs. And there’s no doubt that many women thoroughly enjoy it, too. Properly done, many of us will agree that it feels wonderful and can be extremely satisfying, both physically and mentally.

For others, it isn’t quite so simple. Some women enjoy it as foreplay, but not as the “main course”, at least not night after night. Others enjoy it when they are able to relax, but have certain issues preventing that from happening most of the time. Finally, there are those who feel plenty relaxed, but just get nothing out of it. 

The premise of the rest of this article is that you’d like to enjoy oral sex more, since it is a very practical and natural expression of the power dynamics in an FLR relationship. If you’re happy about not caring about oral sex, that’s perfectly fine - go read another article.

Let’s say that you generally enjoy oral sex, but you don’t find it particularly interesting, and you’d get bored pretty quickly if it was the main ingredient in your sex life. In my experience, this is the most common attitude among women who are new to FLRs, and it’s a perfectly reasonable attitude to have! Here are my tips for you:

Revel in the power your pussy holds over your man. Even if you don’t find it particularly sexually stimulating, you might find it very satisfying as a ritual. Speaking for myself, I feel that being on the receiving end of very frequent and utterly one-sided oral sex is the symbol of feminine rule in our household. And I know my husband feels the same way.

Think of it more as pampering than sex. It certainly doesn’t have to be the main ingredient of your sex life, even if you do it on a daily basis. It can be something you do as a ritual, because you find it pleasant, because you feel it is befitting your type of relationship, because it makes your man happier etc. Whenever you feel like having a different kind of sex, just do so.

Having an orgasm is not necessarily the goal. There are countless things your man can do while he is between your legs, and licking you to orgasm is just one of them. This applies to you as well - you don’t have to stop what you’re doing just because he is down there performing his duties. In fact, it probably has a stronger “FLR ritual effect” if you both treat it as nothing our of the ordinary. So continue reading your book, play with your phone, or even do a little bed-side work. If it becomes pleasurable enough that you want to just lie back and enjoy an orgasm, then you should of course do that, but only if that’s what you feel like.

If you do have an orgasm, you certainly don’t have to end things. You’ll probably be extra sensitive right after you orgasm, so he should learn to ease back to gently kissing you or whatever for a while, but feel free to go for another orgasm or a nice, long period of post-orgasm oral pampering.

Don’t worry about his comfort - at all. If you feel more comfortable being covered in sheets or a duvet, have him crawl under it and stay there for as long as you want, nevermind if he gets hot. If you want to lie on your side or your stomach, go right ahead, nevermind if it forces him to maintain an awkward position to reach you properly. Not only does this free you to be as comfortable as you can, but he will absolutely love you for being selfish and demanding like this. Trust me.

Make the oral sex about power play. Sit on his face, rub your juices all over it, restrict his air flow, have him lick your ass instead. Many women, myself included, enjoy this part at least as much as the actual licking. Using your pussy and ass as “weapons” can be an immensely powerful and enjoyable feeling.

If you don’t actively dislike it, use oral access to your pussy as a reward for your man. Conversely, if you do enjoy it frequently, take it away for a period as punishment.

Focus on other aspects of it. Surely, there’s a certain psychological pleasure to be had from knowing that you have a man who would love nothing more than to go down on you every single night, when your vanilla girlfriends are lucky to get it once a year?

Understand that for a lot of men it’s not mainly about the licking, it’s about having their faces close to the “holyest” of anatomical places. The smell, the wetness, the warmth, the opening up of your legs, serving your needs, the mere symbolicm of it.

Don’t feel obligated to learn to love it. If you do, great - your man will be pleased. If you don’t, there are plenty of other things to enjoy in a FLR, and you can still get it whenever you feel like it.

To me, it’s all about seeing the possibilities rather than fretting about whether you find oral sex satisfying enough.

OK, let’s turn now to those who enjoy (or think they would enjoy) oral sex when everything is just right, but who can’t ever seem to relax enough for it to be just right. This is also quite common, I believe, and can be caused by a multitude of reasons, mostly psychological. I don’t want to trivialise the issues these women are experiencing, but here are some general tips:

Explain the issues to your man and try to resolve them together. He will be more than happy to take it slow if it means there’s a chance he can get more “facetime” in the future.

If you worry about how you smell or look, consider taking your man’s enthusiasm at face value. He most likely doesn’t care, or positively loves how you look and smell.

If the intimacy bothers you for some other reason, try taking your mind off it by doing something else while he is occupying himself. Read a book, browse Facebook or Instagram, play a game, watch TV.

If you feel like you always have to be fresh out of the shower when enjoying oral sex, please don’t. Our type of men generally enjoy quite a bit of muskiness, just don’t overdo it unless you’re sure your man is into that.

See a doctor if you think you have some issue that really does makes your vagina unpleasant to be around. It may be easy to fix.

Beyond these simple tips, I don’t have much to offer. The types of issues that cause some women to find oral sex difficult can be complex, and I am not a professional counselor. Just remember that your man is your partner in this, and he can be a big help if you let him.

Finally, let’s turn to those who find oral sex just plain boring or downright painful. Again, it’s fine if you don’t feel the need to start liking it, this is for those who see the appeal in frequent, enjoyable oral sex, and would like to get there.

If you find oral sex painful, give your man clearer instructions. Have him steer clear of your clitoris, have him gently kiss instead of lick etc.

If the issue is a lack of physical stimulation (not enough friction, a preference for rougher sensations etc.), try giving your man clear instructions. He can use his tongue more forcefully, he can expose your clitoris more fully, he can move his head more vigorously, he can rub his beard against your most sensitive areas and so on. Also see the point about vibrators and toys.

If you need to be filled to feel any enjoyment, have him bring a dildo of your liking on his excursions. He doesn‘t need to move it a lot, it could just be used to get you in the mood.

Make it more interesting. Have him bring a vibrator, a butt plug or whatever else you enjoy, and tell him how to use what he brings.

I believe most women can find enjoyment in oral sex, it’s mostly a matter of finding ways to do it that suit their preferences and temperaments.

Welcome to the Training Section of the Library For Kinksters. Check back often as the library is updated frequently.

NOTE: In areas of gender or identity most articles are transferable. Articles on subs apply to anyone regardless of gender, etc. The same is true for Dom/Dommes - all articles about Doms applies equally to Dommes.

Training

10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs

10 Tips when Spanking a Little

15 Points of a BDSM relationship

30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten

40 Very Important DD/lg Facts

A List Of Books About BDSM

An Instructional Guide to Kinks, Fetishes and the World of BDSM

Age Play: A Short Guide

Asserting Ownership - Posing

Basics of Domination and Submission

BDSM Contracts

BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play

BDSM Roles

Common BDSM Roles

Direction and Acceptance

Discipline & Punishment

D/s and Kink

First Things First - A BDSM Checklist

Etiquette in BDSM Part 1

Etiquette in BDSM Part 2

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind

Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 3 - Structure and Discipline

FAQ For Newbies

Female Orgasm Control

Female Stimulation and Forced Orgasms

Forced Orgasms, With Love!

Glossary of BDSM Terms

Guide To Blood Play

Guide To Bruising

Guide To Jelqing

Guide To Spanking & Impact Play

Guide To Subspace

Guide To Talking Dirty

Guide To Wax Play

Hand Signals For Subs

Hazards of Ignoring in a D/s Relationship

How Do I Get Started In BDSM?

How to Choose and Use a Safeword

How to get your Sub in subspace, a guide for beginners

How to Lace Up Your Corset - A Helpful Infographic

How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest

How To Make A Comfort Box

Ignoring your sub is an act of abuse

Infographic: Anatomy Of A Spanking

Infographic: Tips On Breath Play

Introducing your partner to a new fetish

Introduction To BDSM

Kinky Sex And Bondage Tips For S&M First Timers

Learning To Trust Your Instincts

Matters of the D/s Heart: A Serious and Long Overdue Conversation

Mixing Vanilla with the D/s Spice - Opening Pandora’s Box of the Heart

Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting

Pet Play: How Kittens Can Annoy Their Owners

Pet Play: How To Make Pet Food For Your Pet

Punishments in BDSM Relationships

Rape Fantasy & Resistance Play

Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships

Remission, Revitalization and anchoring of life through D/S

Safewords and Safesigns 101

Safeword Basics

S&M for beginners: Easing into a new situation

SF’s Guide To Safewords

Should you mix personal fetishes into punishments?

Slave Position Training Map

Some Thoughts On Rules

Sting Levels of Impact Toys

Submission Training With Love - A Vanilla Perspective

SubmissiveFeminist’s Guide to Behaviour Modification

Switching It Up

The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility

The Need For Rules and Discipline

Thoughts on Correction

Thoughts on Protocol - “The Invisible Leash”

Topping from the bottom

Training in D/s: Why? (1 of 3)

Training in D/s: How? (2 of 3)

Training in D/s: Thoughts & Concerns (3 of 3)

Trust and D/s

Training Agreement

This Agreement between husband and Wife covers the terms of the training of husband by his Wife to the optimal level of utilitarian and intimate service, as judged by the Wife.  The Wife may use any and all means of enforcement as described herein necessary to achieve the results she desires. It is the intention of both parties that the husband shall become the sex slave of Wife for the term of this Agreement, to be formally trained to serve her, and that the Wife commits to firmly and consistently using whatever force may be necessary to accomplish this goal.

Recitals

Husband admits that he had difficulty staying focused and completing tasks that he knows he should complete.

Husband admits he has not provided Wife with the affection, support, love, and deference she deserves and wishes to be trained to treat her as the superior She is.

To remedy past faults and any other faults Wife identifies, husband desires to submit to his Wife’s authority and desires to give his Wife all tools necessary to forcefully correct his behavior and train him to serve the Wife as she sees fit. Training tools at her disposal specifically include, but are not limited to, orgasm denial, humiliation, restraint, and corporal punishment.

Husband acknowledges that Wife undertakes the duties and role herein described at husband’s insistence and that Wife did not compel or coerce husband’s participation.

Husband acknowledges that the purpose of this Agreement is to provide complete satisfaction to the Wife and that she shall have no responsibility for husband’s satisfaction.

In consideration of husband’s commitment to be trained, Wife commits to physically discipline husband to compel his specific performance under this Agreement.

Wife is willing to undertake the training and discipline of husband as described herein and enthusiastically administer whatever discipline is necessary to train husband.

Husband wishes to be trained and disciplined by Wife according to this Agreement.

Term

The term of this Agreement shall be for one year.  If the Agreement is not cancelled by either party at the end of the first year, it shall become permanent.

Signing Bonus

In consideration of Wife’s execution of this agreement to train husband as specified in this Agreement, husband will pay Wife $500 at the time of signing and $59 per month thereafter, payable at the beginning of every fourth weekly discipline session (see below).

Chastity Device

Husband will wear a locked chastity device acceptable to Wife at all times, except as provided herein.  If requested by Wife, husband will acquaint Wife with the various models and types and agrees to obtain and be restrained in any device specified by Wife.

Numbers shown below represent the Minimum Punishment Penalties which accrue during the week for specific infractions.  One MPP = 1 stroke of the whip. MPPs earned during the week must be worked off during that week’s punishment session.  Each week, husband automatically accrues 10 MPPs simply because he is Wife’s trainee.

Hygiene

Husband is responsible for daily cleaning of device.

Husband will notify the Wife immediately of any concerns regarding function or cleanliness of device.

The Wife will supervise at least one removal of device in a seven-day period for cleaning and shaving.

Husband agrees to all terms of release as set forth by Wife, including restraints if deemed necessary.

Husband agrees that during release for cleaning he will shave accordingly to keep genital area free from hair. 10

Husband agrees that he will immediately re-secure device after all cleanings unless specifically ordered not to by Wife. 20

Both parties acknowledge that a release from device may be permitted for medical or extreme discomfort issues. However during such release no sexual releases are permitted and husband agrees once medical condition is rectified immediate return of the device will commence without delay.

Keys

Wife will retain all keys to said device and all other devices, locks, restraints.

Husband will not attempt to defeat the device in any way or possess any keys.

Wife will make one emergency key available to Husband for use in medical emergency, doctor appointments, and any other situation in which excessive bodily harm may be present to Husband.

Husband agrees that in such emergency he will notify Wife immediately and that no sexual release is permitted. If self-release is attempted and/or carried out, punishment as outlined in the contract will be applied.

Husband agrees that once medical condition has been rectified Husband will re-secure device immediately and notify Wife of said action. 10

Sexual Release

Husband shall have no sexual release without the explicit permission of Wife. 20

Wife agrees that husband will be entitled to at least three releases in any sixty-day period, provided his service meets the requirements set by Wife. Releases will be for a period of no less than 8 hours but no more than 24 hours.

Wife is given sole discretion of how releases will be carried out.

Husband acknowledges and agrees that Wife has certain sexual needs that may need fulfilled and such releases for Wife do not constitute a release for Husband.

Husband agrees to immediately and enthusiastically satisfy Wife by any and all means Wife requests for sexual and sensual gratification. 10

Husband agrees that sexual releases may be accompanied by being restrained as determined by Wife.

Husband agrees that Wife may release husband for the means of sexual play but that no orgasm is permitted unless Wife specifically permits one.

Husband must always ask for permission to ejaculate. 20

Husband agrees to use any sexual aids such as (but not limited to) strap-ones, vibrators, dildos, and other artificial aids to satisfy Wife.

Husband agrees that Wife may use devices mentioned above in addition to other restraints on Husband and Husband will have no say in objecting to such devices. (Although begging up to a point will be allowed, once Husband is told by Wife to stop, the expectation is compliance. Failure will result in punishment both immediate and future.)

Non-Sexual Releases

Husband agrees that Wife may release Husband out of good nature and that such a release from device is not grounds for sexual release.

Husband agrees to abide by all directions from Wife during such releases. 10

Husband agrees to re-secure device upon command from Wife. 20

Attire

As deemed of value in training by Wife, or for her amusement and humiliation of husband,

If husband is caught by Wife wearing panties, he will receive an immediate 10 strokes.

Wife agrees that she will not require clothing that would be detrimental to normal public wear or that would otherwise affect public opinion, interfere with work duties, or that would unintentionally cause public humiliation for Husband.

Husband acknowledges that Wife may adorn herself in various clothing to tease and/or torment Husband and that Husband is not entitled to a sexual release because of such adornment.

At any time, Wife may blindfold husband and use permanent markers to decorate husband’s genitals in any way she sees fit.

General Understandings

Both parties agree that every day life decisions such as child development, household finances, and other marital decisions outside the bedroom will have no effect on terms of this Agreement, and that such decisions made can have no impact on the terms of this agreement.

Husband agrees and understands that Wife may use various methods to tease and torment Husband at any time. Furthermore, Husband understands that he has no say in such teasing and that Wife may continue at will and, in fact, husband desires that his limits be tested in this area.

Wife understands that she is free to receive any form of sexual gratification needed from Husband during periods of confinement and husband promises to provide same, enthusiastically and to the best of his ability. 10

Husband agrees to disclose truthfully, when ordered by Wife, any and all fantasies he may have in mind. 10

Husband is aware that rewards  -  up to and including sexual release  -  are given for good behavior including but not limited to performing duties as specified by Wife, pampering, dinner dates, gifts, massages, and other methods.  Penalties shall accrue if these events are not forthcoming. 10

Both parties agree that modifications to this agreement may be needed during the period of this agreement and that such modifications can be made unilaterally by Wife.

Penalties and Punishments

Wife agrees that husband’s deviation from contract will result in mandatory punishments and discipline to obtain desired behavior.

Breach of contract by Wife will constitute a cancellation of contract without penalty to Wife.

Cancellation of contract will result in immediate release of Husband from device.

Breach of performance by Husband will be handled at the discretion of the Wife as outlined below.

Unauthorized removal of device will result in a certain thirty-day period of lock up and denial for husband. Absolutely no sexual releases will be allowed for husband during this penalty period and husband may not discuss the subject of sex.

Unauthorized removal of device that includes a sexual release will result in a certain forty-five day period of lock up and denial for husband. Again, absolutely no sexual releases will be allowed for husband during this penalty period. Additional punishment may be added as determined by Wife

Husband agrees that additional restraining, flogging, private humiliation, servitude, and any other means of punishment may be administered by Wife at any time to correct or punish infractions from contract or simply for Wife’s entertainment or at her whim.

Husband agrees that failure to accept punishment for infractions is means for immediate termination of this agreement and that such refusal could lead to other detrimental behavior on part of Wife. 50

Rewards

To reinforce correct behavior, Wife may, from time to time and at Her total discretion, reward husband for good behavior by allowing him a certain number of minutes to masterbate under her supervision. Husband must instantly strip completely when ordered to and wife must keep all her clothes on.  Wife will give husband the key to unlock his chastity belt and start the clock. The husband is never allowed to ejaculate during reward sessions, but may get as close as he likes.  As soon as the time is up, the chastity belt must be replaced.  The husband is never told how many minutes he has.

If keys are not already in the Wife’s possession, upon signing of contract husband is to immediately secure said device and hand over all keys to Wife. Terms of this contract commence upon transfer of keys.

Miscellaneous terms and conditions to further clarify the relationship

The Wife is expected to use any and all means at her disposal to motivate husband to willingly and eagerly serve her for her pleasure and submit to her will.  Failing that approach, she may use whatever force is necessary to deepen his worshipful submission to her, which is the goal of this Agreement and the sworn duty of the Wife.

To insure a successful marriage and to assure the husband is properly trained to meet the requirements of the Wife, the husband will agree to the following regarding the penis, which will now be called the “marital penis”:

The Wife will have complete ownership and control of the marital penis.

The Wife will decide if and when the marital penis will be allowed to ejaculate. She may deny giving permission for any period at her sole discretion.

The Wife may hint at or even promise relief, but in most all cases change her mind later and refuse.

The Wife will decide the method used to cause the marital penis to ejaculate. She may, for example, have the husband masturbate in her presence, or She may choose Her preferred method applied by Her or Her designee.

The husband is not permitted to ask for any sexual favors, such as rubbing of the marital penis, insertion into any animate or inanimate objects (except as described below), licking or sucking unless directed or initiated by the Wife. 10

The husband is not permitted to touch the marital penis without permission, except to shave his penis and balls under the Wife’s supervision.  The husband must keep his genitals free of hair at all times. 10

The husband will wear a chastity belt when ordered by Wife. Wearing the chastity belt symbolizes the Wife’s absolute domination and control of the marital penis.

The husband is not permitted to touch any Female or expose himself to any Female unless directed to do so by the Wife.

Husband agrees to purchase and use according to Wife’s instructions any disciplinary equipment that Wife feels may be necessary to further his training and obedience.  Husband must subtly bring the existence of such training materials and equipment to the attention of Wife.

As training progresses, the Wife shall raise her standards of performance, adjust MPPs, and make any adjustments she feels necessary to achieve A+ behavior in husband.

The husband is not allowed to put a lock on his balls. 10

To insure a successful marriage, the Wife has the following rights:

The Wife has complete ownership and control of the marital penis and She and only She will decide when it will be touched, rubbed, sucked or placed into or on any object whether animate or inanimate and when or even if it may ejaculate.

The Wife requires the husband to wear a chastity device on the marital penis that may eliminate engorgement of the marital penis, touching of the marital penis, and has absolute control of ejaculation.

The Wife has the right to deny ejaculation for the entire term of this Agreement or to deny ejaculation until husband’s training is completed.

Should the Wife instruct that the marital penis be allowed to ejaculate, in order to reaffirm and strengthen the submission of the husband to the Wife, the Wife has the right to dictate the method of recycling of the ejaculate. The husband must always ask for permission before any ejaculation and agrees to follow Wife’s instructions.  Wive will intentionally deny permission in most cases.

The Wife has the right to dictate any method of recycling of the ejaculate in any way She sees fit to further the husband’s submissive training and obedience through the use of humiliation.

The Wife has the right to demand sexual pleasure from the husband at any time without any reciprocal duties, which may include but not be limited to cunnilingus, fornication and body worship.

Since the Wife no longer needs the marital penis for satisfaction, She may seek other means of satisfaction.

Upon demand, the Wife has the right to have Her pussy licked clean by the husband.

Wife may instruct husband to be the dominant one and act accordingly, at her whim.  Husband must comply.  Wife must provide specific instruction or training in her desired rendition of this role. 20

At any time indicated by the Wife, but without the suggestion of the husband, the husband shall immediately strip and kneel before the Wife, or take any position demanded by the Wife, either restrained or not.  

The Wife has the right to administer punishment spankings at anytime, for any reason, including no reason at all. 20

To maintain discipline, the Wife will spank the husband at least once a week during the scheduled discipline session.

Dress Code

To insure a successful marriage, the husband’s dress code is as follows:

For her entertainment and to further the humiliation necessary to strengthen the training, the Wife sets the rules that dictate what her husband shall wear. For example:

The husband may be required to remove all clothes after a set time of day or after a particular trigger time, such as after dinner.

The husband may be required to wear clothes that allow him to be exposed after a set time of day or after a particular trigger time, such as after dinner.

Sexual devices such as butt plugs, chastity devices, rope binding, handcuffs, etc. are considered clothing.

Wife may, for her entertainment, require husband to wear a slave collar and leash, an apron, or thong

Instructing the husband to wear clothes only suitable for women or sissified men. This may include under clothes such as panties or bra or over clothes such as a dress or skirt.

When alone at home and the temperature is adequate, husband may be instructed to wear only his apron.

The husband is required to advise the Wife when his workday is easy and he is available to service the Wife.

To insure a successful marriage, and to train the husband to meet the Wife’s high standards, the Wife will punish the husband for any of the following infractions. This is a minimal guide only and does not limit the Wife to decide to punish for other infractions or for her entertainment:

Not following instructions or not completing job assignments to Wife’s satisfaction. 10

Making any reference to sex, submission, or being a slave on Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday, except that he will present himself on demand to his Wife for punishment and job assignments at her command. 10

Not satisfying his Wife when directed to do so. 20

Not following the dress code. 10

Complaining or forbidding the Wife to have sex outside the marriage as is Her right. 50

Touching his penis. 20

Ejaculating without permission. 50

Asking for sexual favors from any Female, including the Wife. 20

Failure to anticipate the Wife’s needs for comfort and affection. 10

Failure to read his Wife’s mind in regard to any matter. 10

To insure a successful chastity marriage, the Wife may punish the husband as follows. This is a guide only and does not limit the Wife’s choice of punishment which is only limited by the Wife’s imagination:

Spanking

Whipping

Binding him to the bed or other object for extended periods of time. During this time she may spank or whip the husband’s body. The penis or balls may be bound and/or stretched with any device the Wife chooses. This will possibly increase the size of the substandard puny marital penis.

Restraining him with ropes, belts, chains or handcuffs

Prolonging the husband’s chastity period

Applying pressure to the husband’s balls to create discomfort. Since the husband does not own the marital penis and balls, the level of pressure exerted on the balls is entirely up to the Wife’s discretion.

To insure a successful chastity marriage, the husband acknowledges that the following are privileges, not punishments:

Satisfying his Wife, whenever and however She demands.

Allowing the Wife to withhold her permission for his ejaculation to improve the marriage by making him more attentive and responsive.

Cleaning his Wife’s pussy with his mouth on Her demand and after intercourse.

Dress code including chastity devices.

Punishment administered by his Wife or Her designee.

To insure a successful chastity marriage:

The Wife has the right to change or add to this contract at will and the husband must comply with the new conditions as if they were in the initial agreement set forth here.

The husband does not have the right to change any conditions under this contract without the prior written permission of the Wife.

To enforce compliance with this Agreement through possible humiliation, the Wife has the right to expose the existence and content of this Agreement and the slave status of husband to anyone.  Wife may order husband to drop his pants and show the chastity belt. 50

The husband must be completely naked when signing this Agreement and the Wife must be fully clothed so that the new power relationship is clear and established.

Upon signing this Agreement, husband will provide Wife with a set of permanent markers, blindfold himself and present his genitals to Wife so that She may decorate her property appropriately.

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Husband’s Signature    _________________________________

My Masters rules are:

The proper way of things.

i.e the way it will be

As My slave you have no rights; in fact you have nothing at all.

You will take your place in  fully recognizing the truth of My Supremacy, My Superiority and your own lowly status.

You will obey My commands eagerly to the letter without questioning any of them and you will accept My authority and judgment of your servitude. My word is law and My whip is the implement of its enforcement.

You will spend all your waking hours learning to exist exclusively for My pleasure, comfort, and glory and that of all masters .

You will not allow your mind to wander even for a moment from Me and when it is not occupied in My service you will remember that all you do is at My whim and command. Even the basic privileges for you to eat and sleep, are mine to command.

Do not expect to be cared for in the normally accepted meaning. In My world you will be valued for what you are (a slave) provided your servitude is acceptable. Understand that it will never be perfect in My eyes. You are considered nothing more than an object of My property. You will never forget that you, as a slave, are merely My plaything, a work horse and toy existing only for My service, amusement and pleasure. In your role as My slave I need merely to look after your welfare. You will be kept fit for purpose.

From this moment you will be known as “slave”. If there are, at any times, more than one  slave present you will be known as “slave S” or simply “S”.

All of the following rules which are for guidance in your servitude to your superior will apply from henceforth. I will expect absolute adherence to these rules in every detail.

Any failure on your part to follow the rules in every detail will result in punishment administered spontaneously or extended over a period of time determined by me.

       Slave Rules      

applicable to S, slave of

master

RULE 1

I make the rules and can change them and add to them at any time

RULE 2

slave has no entitlement to discuss the rules or question them in any way.

Appearance

RULE 3

Nakedness for a slave is an overt sign that the slave owns nothing. slave will therefore never be permitted clothes in the house unless there are visitors who are unaware of its status and may be embarrassed.

RULE 4

If we have been away from the  home, on return slave will, after any other routine duties, immediately remove its clothes and kneel at my feet to await instructions.

RULE 5

The following (highlighted in red) will be worn at ALL times with the single exception of when passing through airport metal detection equipment.

a stainless steel collar. This will be permanently locked in place.

A thick stainless steel ring around the base of its cock and balls.

a stainless steel chastity device, 24/7/365. This will be locked in place.

stainless steel wrist and ankle cuffs..

Rings piercing Its nipples and penis head.

A chain between its nipple rings.

A heavy steel cock ring-butt plug combination, locked behind its chastity cage.

(This will be worn for periods of up to 12 hours for anal training).

slave will be branded with My initial, such branding to be repeated yearly on its birthday.

slave will have its international slave registry number tattooed  at the back of its neck and on its buttocks.

RULE 6

slave will shower, shave its face, head, under arms and pubic area first thing daily.

RULE 7

slave will keep its whole body free from hair using an electric epilator.

BASIC RULES OF RESPECT

RULE 8

slave will treat all  masters as its superiors.

RULE 9

slave will address Me as ‘Master’ and all other  masters as ’Sir’.

RULE 10

In the presence of  masters slave will be on its knees unless carrying something or performing a task which requires it to stand.

RULE 11

slave’s eyes will be always lowered so that it looks only at its superiors’ feet.

RULE 12

slave will remain silent unless spoken to.

RULE 13

slave will never turn its back on a master.

RULE 14

If slave meets a master anywhere in the house whilst carrying out its duties it will immediately kneel, nose on the floor, until He has passed and is out of sight.

RULE 15

If I or any master enters the space where slave is working it will remain kneeling, position 2 until it is ordered to resume its work or carry out some other command or until I leave.

RULE 16

slave will accord all  masters the same respect as it accords Me

RULE 17

slave will obey all commands from  masters as if directed by Me

RULE 18

slave will beg permission to do anything that is not a direct order from me.

RULE 19

slave will adopt certain postures in different situations as a sign of its submission and respect for its superiors. These postures will be assigned numbers. If slave hears any of these numbers it will immediately adopt the required posture.

Postures.

1 on its knees, nose on the floor, arms straight outstretched towards Master, buttocks raised, thighs spread as wide as possible. This is its normal posture in the presence of any  male.

2 kneeling upright, hands folded tightly in back, shoulders pulled back, chest forward, belly sucked in. knees will be spread as wide as possible (at least 90 deg), head bowed down to chest.

3 as position 2 but with forehead and nose on the floor.  This is a kneeling bow.

4 Buttocks on heels, knees spread as position 2. Hands grasping ankles, hips thrust forwards and upwards, head forced right back.

This is a position for punishment.

5 standing, legs spread as wide as possible, arms folded tightly in back, chest forward, stomach sucked in, head bowed to chin

6 as position 5 but with body bent forward with head level with knees. This is a standing bow.

7 as position 5 but with hands placed on top of head. This is a position for both punishment and inspection.

8 standing, legs spread as wide as possible, body bent forward from waist to grasp ankles.

This is a position for punishment.

9 kneeling as in position 2 but with hands held in front, palms together as in prayer.

This is the supplication position slave will use to beg for permission to speak. slave remains in this position until spoken to.

10 flat on its belly, legs spread wide, arms stretched out towards Master

MOVEMENT AROUND THE HOUSE

Rule 20

Crawling

Crawling on all fours will be its normal method of movement anywhere in the sight of any  male, unless in public view. slave will crawl only with its nose rubbing the floor. slave will be expected to keep pace with Master whether leashed or not

RULE 21

entering My space on its knees.

Slave will enter the room crawling.

It will crawl to a position directly in front of Me,

kneel up in position 2, and then bow.

If carrying an object held it its teeth it will present the object to me.

Finally it will adopt position 1

Rule 22

Entering My space on its feet  

slave will only ever do this if it is carrying an object too large to be carried held between its teeth.

eyes are to be cast down looking only at My feet.

slave will halt in front of me and adopt position 5 then bow..

Once upright it will kneel in position 2, holding the object it is carrying for Me to reach.  

Its arms are to be straight and its head is to be bowed between them.

When I take the object it will remain in position until I click My fingers, if I do so it will adopt position 1.

Rule 23

leaveing My space on its knees

This will be its normal method of leaving My space. slave will crawl backwards until it is about to leave My sight. Bow and then leave the room.

Rule 24

Leaving My space on its feet.

slave will do this only when carrying a large object and it is not possible to crawl.  slave will walk backwards until it is about to disappear from sight.  It will bow and then leave the room.

RULE 25

STANDING BOW

slave will adopt position 5. then bend forward from the waist lowering its head to the height of its knees.  Finally it will adopt position 5 again.

RULE 26

Kneeling bow

slave will adopt position 2, bow to position 3. then adopt position 2.

PUNISHMENTS

RULE 27

slave will be punished for any deviation from the rules. This punishment may be instantaneous or deferred until later at My discretion.

For punishment slave will adopt position according to number given.

RULE 28

The  ‘ONE, TWO, TEN RULE’

For all acts of servitude I will, at any time, assess its performance on a scale from 1 through 10. (10 being perfect).

For each mark below 10 slave will receive a number of strokes of the cane or whip.

How many strokes awarded for each point below 10 will be decided by Me depending on My degree of dissatisfaction with slave’s servitude, the maximum number being 10.

As a guide

For sloppy adoption of any posture :-             1 or 2

For lateness or failing to bow :-                       2 or 3

For incorrect speech :-                                              3 or 4

For inattentiveness whilst serving :-               4 or 5

For unsatisfactory sexual servitude

or actual disobedience :-                               up to 10

However the final number is at My discretion.

Note that these are the number of strokes for each point below 10. Thus the maximum number is 100!

If performance does not improve after the application of this rule the number of strokes will be increased.

When I inform slave of my assessment slave will confirm its acquiescence by performing a kneeling bow and kissing My feet.

slave will offer no excuses and remain silent.

RULE 29

There are no excuses for unsatisfactory performance. slave will offer none.

RULE 30

When I inform slave of any dissatisfaction it will adopt position 2 and bow.

RULE 31

Following punishment slave will perform a kneeling bow twice then, crawl forward and kiss My feet. Then it will adopt position 1

RULE 32

FETCHING AN IMPLIMENT OF PUNISHMENT

slave will carry implement held between its teeth. It will crawl to a position in front of me and adopt position 2, it will bow and crawl forward to present the implement to Me. slave will crawl backwards, bow again and adopt position 1

COMMUNICATION

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acknowledging a command

RULE 33

When I give slave a command slave will acknowledge the command by kneeling up and performing a kneeling bow. It will remain so until I give a signal to obey the command.

It is unlikely that the signal will be anything other than the click of My fingers. However I may add further instructions e.g. ‘you have five minutes’.

slave will then crawl from the room

RULE 34

If standing slave will kneel, bow, and  wait for My signal to obey. slave will then crawl from the room.

RULE 35

Asking permission to speak

slave will adopt position 9 and wait until spoken to.

RULE 36

REPORTING COMPLETION OF TASK SET

slave will adopt position 9.

When spoken to slave will say

‘Master,  slave has completed its task’.

RULE 37

SPEAKING

In response to a question slave will begin every sentence with ‘Master’ or Sir’.

It will never use  the word  ‘you’ or ‘your’.  It will use Master’ or Master’s

It will always refer to itself as ‘slave’.

DUTIES AS WAITER

RULE 38

slave will prepare and cook any meals as directed.

RULE 39

slave will serve all meals at times and in places decided by Me. Menus will be decided by Me.

SERVING REFRESHMENTS

RULE 40

Refreshments are to be served on the small circular tray

slave will stand, position 5 and bow.  It will then kneel in position 2 and hold the tray within My reach. Its head bowed.

it will maintain this position until dismissed.

RULE 41

SERVING AT TABLE

slave will assist each master present to his seat, bowing both before and afterwards.

To serve a dish slave will approach, bow and set the dish down on the table. It will then bow again. When everyone is served slave will kneel in position 2

RULE 42

FILLING GLASSES

If anyone’s glass is empty, slave will stand, bow, refill the glass, bow again and kneel. If the master places his hand over the glass this signifies his wish to have no more. slave will bow and kneel.

RULE 43

REMOVING EMPTY PLATES

slave must pay attention throughout the meal. Empty dishes must be removed immediately everyone has finished the course.

slave will stand, bow, collect the plate, bow again and walks backwards towards the door.

RULE 44

AT THE END OF THE MEAL

When everyone rises from the table, slave will adopt position 3 until all have left the room. slave will then carry out instructions as ordered.

When completed slave will report same to Me.

RULE 45

slave will eat from a bowl on the floor after serving Me and any  masters and after reporting that the kitchen is clean and tidy.

RULE 46

Prepared food will never be reheated for slave to eat.

RULE 47

If slave is permitted to eat with masters it will be on the floor, kneeling or on its belly. It will be attentive to the needs of those at table, i.e., empty plates/glasses etc.

RULE 48

slave will drink only water.

GENERAL RULES.

DOMESTIC DUTIES

I may wish to retain some domestic chores for Myself but any domestic chore will be carried out by slave at my command.

slave will be ready at all times to immediately stop what it is doing and attend to the task he is ordered to do when summoned.

RULE 49

slave will keep the house clean and tidy. It will clean tidy and hoover all spaces at least once per week.

RULE 50

slave will tidy all bedrooms and make all beds on a daily basis.

RULE 51

slave will launder all clothing.

RULE 52

slave will keep my shoes/boots clean at all times

RULE 53

slave will clean any shower or bath after my use.

RULE 54

Discarded clothes in my bedroom are to be carried to laundry crawling with clothes held between slave’s teeth.

RULE 55

slave will iron My clothes and any other masters’ clothes as directed.

MISCELANEOUS DUTIES

RULE 56

slave will light cigarettes for all  masters.

RULE 57

slave will kneel holding ashtray if required

RULE 58

slave will act as table as directed

RULE 59

slave will kneel or stand holding a lamp for any  male.

RULE 60

slave will kneel or stand holding a sunshade for any master in the garden.

RULE 61

slave will act as footstool for any master

RULE 62

slave will lick the boots of any  male on demand

slave has no access to furniture; its position is on the floor.

RULE 64

slave may not use any toilet seat. Those are for the comfort of masters.

ROUTINES

RULE 65

MORNING TEA

slave will bring my morning tea as prescribed at exactly 07,30. Anything more that 30 seconds late will result in punishment.

slave will put the tray down and kiss my feet reverently beneath the bed clothes.  As I awaken slave will adopt position 5 holding the tray.

When I click my fingers slave will bow and serve the tea kneeling at the side of the bed, position 2. slave will wait until I replace the cup onto the tray. It will stand, bow and wait to be dismissed.

RULE 66

BREAKFAST

If I require breakfast in bed slave will serve it at the time stated. Lateness of more than 30 seconds will result in punishment.

Breakfast will be served on a large tray in the same manner as morning tea. slave will pay attention to any changes in My requirements

RULE 67

Whilst I shower slave will set out My clothes as directed

RULE 68

Following My shower or a bath slave will dry My body softly and reverently

RULE 69

slave will run My bath at any time as directed.

RULE 70

slave will soap and rinse My body in the bath

LEAVING THE HOUSE

WHEN I GO OUT

RULE 71

If I am going out slave will fetch the shoes/boots I have specified and wait in the lobby on its knees

RULE 72

slave will assist me with shoes/boots having first kissed each foot.

RULE 73

slave will fetch any coat and other things I require as directed.

RULE 74

After handing them to me slave will kneel position 2, bow and kiss my feet. slave will then adopt position 3  in the lobby until I have left the house and closed the door

WHEN I ARRIVE HOME

RULE 75

I will expect to see slave kneeling in the lobby when I open the door. slave will crawl forward, bow and kiss My boots. It will then kneel in position 3 for instructions.

RULE 76

If slave has been chained up whilst I am out it will perform this gesture at the end of its chain as I approach.

WHEN SLAVE IS PERMITTED TO LEAVE THE HOME (accompanied)

RULE 77

slave will beg Me for clothing which I may direct.

RULE 78

slave will walk one pace behind Me to My left

RULE 79

slave will open all doors for Me and all  masters

RULE 80

slave will carry all object for Me. E.g. shopping, valise etc

RULE 81

slave will never sit in public without permission it will wait for a signal from Me.

RULE 82

slave will never initiate conversation

RULE 83

Unless others can hear slave will use normal forms of address and speech patterns.

RULE 84

In the presence of others slave’s speech will be polite and respectful

When slave is allowed to leave the house (unaccompanied)

RULE 85

slave will beg Me for clothing, which I may direct.

RULE 86

slave will present itself and kiss my feet before leaving

RULE 87

slave will always return on or before the time directed

RULE 88

On its return slave will immediately strip naked and present itself to me, position 1. When I click my fingers slave will kneel, bow and kiss my feet.

WHEN SLAVE IS REQUIRED TO PERFORM TASKS OUTSIDE THE HOUSE REQUIRING CLOTHES.

RULE 89

slave will beg Me for clothing and dress as directed, it will present itself for any final instructions, kiss my feet and exit my space.

RULE 90

If slave has need to ask Me a question in order to complete its task it may do so without removing its clothes. However all other rituals must be observed?

RULE 91

When slave has completed its task it will immediately strip naked, and present itself in the normal fashion.

It will adopt position 9 (supplication). When acknowledged it will adopt position 2 and report on the completion of its task.

DUTIES AS SEX SLAVE

RULE 92

slave will be required to perform any act of sexual servitude to Me and to other masters if directed by me.

RULE 93

slave will submit to anal rape  in acceptance of its status and the sexual dominance of its Master and all other masters.

RULE 94

slave will spread its ass cheeks with its fingers unless its hands are cuffed, as a sign of submission and subjugation to the master’s cock.

RULE 95

slave will thoroughly clean any master’s cock or other device used for anal rape, with its mouth and tongue as soon as permitted .

RULE 96

slave will be required to use its hands and/or tongue when performing massage of any part of Master’ body or that of any master.

RULE 97

slave will be required to offer its mouth or anus for the most intimate service to Me or any master at any time.

RULE 98

After the performance of acts of sexual servitude slave will kneel, bow and kiss the feet of the male who has used him. Such homage to the male form will continue until slave is ordered to the floor. Slave will kneel, bow 3 times and adopt position 1

RULE 99

Acts of sexual servitude will be deemed as completed only when I or any master orders slave to the floor.

The slave accepts everything written above and enters full slave servitude from this moment.

Chastity…

If Your husband/boyfriend or special gurl or sissy has asked You lock him in chastity, You may think he is asking you to do some sexually perverted, kinky, thing that You don’t understand and don’t want to understand because it is sick and perverted. The fact is, he is not sick and perverted, he just wants to have fun, sexually.

There was a time in Your marriage when sex was fun and exciting for You, too. Wasn’t there? He just wants to get that back again. He is not asking You to do anything that is difficult, or perverted. He is asking You to play a game with him. A sexual game in which You control when and how he has sex. That’s all. So give it a chance. You may be surprised at how much fun You, Yourself, can have

Chastity is an amazing fetish. Most people think it’s some kind of punishment or chore, but it isn’t. The feelings you receive from abstaining from orgasm are just sublime. Guys feel aroused right up until the point where they orgasm, then everything is reset to zero after orgasm they’re no longer turned on and in order to become even remotely aroused they have to wait again for the feelings to kick in.

Well, what if they didn’t orgasm. What if they didn’t masturbate every evening? What if they abstained from orgasms altogether? Would the feelings of arousal increase and increase? Yes. Yes they would. Which is why chastity is an immensely popular fetish.

Chastity popularity

It is such an intimate act to show trust in his partner for a man to hand over the key to his “crown jewels“ and to allow him to be locked up, to await “HER” pleasure. It is quite surprising that so many people have dabbled with the man wearing a chastity device, and they are the second most often bought sex toys after vibrators.

Chastity - A Joint Decision

For chastity to work well it has to be a joint decision. If you’re both eager to try chastity then the belt or device you choose should also appeal to your wife. It’s no good you buying an expensive belt and she hates the sight of it.

Some women find the transparency of the CB-6000, CB-6000s or the Curve nicely displays the enslaved penis, many would-be keyholders like the quality and hygiene of a stainless steel device. Other women like the thought of the traditional Florentine style belts believing they are more secure.

Others initially prefer to go for something like the Stallion Guard as a low cost device to experiment with before deciding on a more secure belt or cage. There are keyholders who like to allow and see the penis fully erect whilst it’s encased, belts and devices most suited to this concept, known as “penile negation”, include the Samurai and Caterpillar cock cages from Mr S. Neither of these 2 devices can be considered long term wear, however, they’re an ideal purchase as an additional chastity device to your collection, and allow your keyholder the opportunity to employ different techniques of teasing.

Some keyholders love these devices because they relish the sight of a fully erect, straining cock unable to escape.

Chastity and Masturbation

All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their pursuit of young women.

However, as men grow older masturbating usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days. Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing you.

Your being the source of his sexual pleasure will change his feelings, he will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share.

This isn’t as kinky as it sounds

If your sex life to date has been restricted to intercourse and perhaps mutual masturbation, chastity play can sound like something pretty weird. It isn’t. Nothing has to change about how you make love; what changes is when. The partner who wears the chastity belt has given the partner who has the “key” the ability to decide when sex can take place. Since most chastity devices effectively prevent masturbation, it means one partner gives the other control of all orgasms. This can be a great deal of fun for both people.

Chastity play allows you to take sex out of the bedroom in a subtle way that only the two of you will know. For example, if a woman has her male partner locked up, they can agree on “rules” he should follow, such as “he must always stand when she enters the room.” If when they are out with friends he forgets, she can smile and hold some fingers up and he will know he stays locked up that many more days until he can get release.

If you don’t think this is incredibly hot to both partners, just try it! You won’t believe how exciting a dull relationship can become overnight. Take a few minutes and use your imagination. Fun, huh?

Chastity Devices

Chastity devices have been used throughout the ages in order to prevent sexual intercourse. Classically, chastity has been forced upon someone using a belt type mechanic, but in recent times, more concealable and localized devices are able to be used in order to prevent the ability to touch and interact with sexual organs. In addition to the modern interpretation of how to perform chastity, a sexual fetish has developed. Individuals now enjoy the prospect of being locked up and unable to perform sexual activities unless the other person who’s chastised them allows it.

Chastity and Confinement for Men

Chastity for men is the most common form, with blocks of specially formed plastic being placed around the penis with a small lock attached for keeping it closed. Some male chastity devices make it impossible or highly painful to experience an erection, aiding the experience of being denied sexual pleasure. One major element of chastity is the understanding that eventually, the device will be removed. The sexual fetish is undesirable if the wearer believes that they will never be allowed to experience an orgasm again. As expected, chastity is an exchange of a power dynamic, with one person assuming the role of being in charge and the other being submissive and completely subject to the will of the other person.

Chastity for couples

Male chastity is not just for men, nor is it just for women who want to control their men. Male chastity is for couples! Both the submissive male and his partner stand to gain from incorporating male chastity into the relationship. The relationship as a whole stands a great deal to gain as well.

Taking control of one small aspect of your relationship - The sex. By utilizing a chastity device, you are taking the first step toward controlling your partner. He may or may not be keen on the idea. If this is your idea, you may have to incorporate a little tease and denial to get what you want….it will work.

If you can both agree to give male chastity a chance, then be realistic about it. Start out slow and easy. Don’t plan on more than a month or even a week for a trial period. Remember, this is just a trial period. If you don’t like it, don’t get any enjoyment from it, don’t see how it can improve your relationship, then you can always quit.

Couple chastity

If you’re in a committed relationship, but you want to really turn up the heat in your sex play, then chastity could be the answer for you. Many couples engage in chastity as a means of getting back the desire they felt in the early days of their relationship, when they couldn’t wait to have sex, and it lasted for hours not minutes. A time when they were always on each other’s mind.

Chastity is also a choice for many couples when the man has been unfaithful, or has been caught masturbating to internet porn. He may choose chastity as a way to demonstrate his commitment, reassure his partner, and enhance their relationship. This is a precious pledge for any man, and the thought of this alone can be incredibly arousing for both partners.

There is no doubt about it, chastity play results in superior sexual satisfaction! Trying to earn a release, the bottom will be much more attentive to his partner’s needs. Without being distracted by his own selfish wants, his sole focus is pleasuring his Keyholder. He will demonstrate his ability and affection to his partner, going above and beyond in the hope of an ultimate ‘release’.. Remember; the couple that plays together stays together!

Chastity and relantionship

There is no one right way to practice chastity, but most agree that a man who practices chastity is expressing profound respect for their partner and women generally. Chastity is a challenge well worth undertaking because it can help lead to a transformation of a man’s relationship with his partner. Almost every account of a chastity regimen notes that the man becomes much more attentive to the needs of his partner, serving her better both sexually and in a myriad of other ways that are pleasing to her. The many religious traditions that use chastity/abstinence as a key element of their spiritual practice and service orientation are definitely onto something..

Primary benefits of enforced male

1. It prevents him from masturbating. Male masturbation is a filthy habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and disrespectful to women. Chronic masturbation has the effect of substantially diminishing a man’s natural sexual desire for his wife of girlfriend. It unfortunately teaches him that his orgasm is primary, and hers is secondary.

2. Because he can’t even get an erection without her permission, it instantly changes the dynamics of the relationship.

3. It keeps his sexual focus and energy on his wife or girlfriend.

4. It will substantially increase his desire to orally service his wife or girlfriend.

5. If he’s never been an ass-eater, after having his penis locked up for a few weeks, he will be.

6. It serves as a constant reminder to him of her authority.

7. Because it makes his orgasms entirely dependent on her generosity, it positively incentives him to honor her, respect her, and motivates him to please.

8. It gives him the time and opportunity to substantially improve and perfect his oral skills.

9. It reinforces the idea that pussy is a precious gift that must be earned, and is to be savored and appreciated on those rare occasions when he does get it.

10. It teaches him that sexual activity with his wife or girlfriend doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with his penis.

11. It deepens his submission to her, and will cause him to worship the ground she walks on.

12. It will significantly improve his attitude, and make him more generous, caring, kind, respectful, and loving. It will help soften the sharper edges of his me-first masculinity. It will make him more of a listener than a talker.

13. It helps prepares him for the eventuality of anal penetration, and getting the strap-on. Because his penis isn’t being sexually stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning other parts of his body into erogenous zones, particularly his anus and his prostate. With patience and persistence, he can be trained to orgasm from stimulation in that region via your finger, or the strap-on.

14. If his orgasms are consistently controlled and severely restricted, he will eventually get to the point where he will do just about anything to cum. You’ll be amazed by what he’ll do for you.

Chastity -  power to the woman

This voluntary act in which the man shows his trust and hands over the key to his most precious possessions to her who will then decide when he is to be released. This is an action which gives enormous power to the woman in a relationship, or the supervisor on our course and it is a gift from him to her.

It is a sexual act which frees him from the ability to pleasure himself and frees him to learn how to please his partner and thus be allowed pleasure himself.

It sounds from this description a strange and “kinky “activity, but surprisingly the approach has wide acceptance as a method to improve male performance and pleasure.

The Mental Game of Chastity

The power exchange exists in the realm of the minds so to the submissive male, being denied can provide him with more mental pleasure and more mental fulfillment than a physical orgasm.

The aroused and denied male will spend more time in subspace and thus his mind will be on a mental sphere where the female rules supreme in his life and he is much more eager to serve the female.

The mental stimulation should touch a man’s psychological triggers, which will stimulate him sexually. It is that mental stimulation that causes an intense power exchange and that can make sex more pleasurable for the woman both physically and mentally while at the same time fulfilling the male need to be dominated.

Chastity and BDSM

Chastity is a fantastic pawn in the BDSM game. It is a great tool for tease and denial, and can be implemented as an incredibly effective punishment/reward scheme. Dominants that have never fully engaged in chastity play, will have almost certainly at some point employed a ‘permission to cum?’ policy. So, what’s the difference? Well chastity play takes this concept one step further and gives the Key Holder full control over their slave’s orgasms. Many people who love to engage in BDSM have not yet discovered the joys of chastity

Locked in Chastity for BDSM

Key Holder is a term used to describe the dominant woman in a male chastity agreement. Many couples are into BDSM and male chastity is one of the many methods that these women use to dominate their men. Some men are more turned on the more they are ordered around.

The woman will tease the man while he has a male chastity device on and she is the only one who has the key to open it and award him with a release. Discuss it with your partner in detail and decide if you want your chastity to be long term or short term.

If you are just starting out, you should ease into it before you commit to being locked in. If you enter into it before you are ready it will likely prolong the process.

“be careful what you wish for”

There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them…”be careful what you wish for”.

If some of the husbands were given a choice to go back to their old ways they would, but none of the wives would.

Chastity Rules

Basic Rules for beginners. The key is to be very strict and follow every rule.

1. Take control of his orgasms • He must wear a chastity device 24/7. • You should lock his chastity cage and only you should be the “KeyHolder”. You can also use a numeric padlock. • Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing. • Emphasize that he will never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm OR erection! without your permission. • He must experience ruined orgasms.  This emphasizes your control and stimulates his frustration. • He may only cum when wearing a buttplug and your panties. You may also gag him. • Peg him, make him cum like a real sissy • Milk his prostate • Always restrain his hands(handcuffs or rope) when letting him out of his cage. Many guys will resist after an orgasm or take control when you edge/ruin them.

Everytime you let him cum, you must ruin him. After that you make him eat his cum. You can edge him and forbid him to orgasm. You have to learn him that he may not orgasm. If he does then you have to make him eat his cum. 

Ruined -> Eat it Accidently -> Eat it

Only tease and edge! Edge every day!

2. Chastity devices • Make him buy secure permanent devices like the jailbird, holy trainer or metal cages with urethra plugs. Make sure you get the right size so he cannot escape. You can make many devices escape proof with medical glue. The best option is a PA. It is recommended to glue his foreskin with superglue so he won’t attempt to escape. This does not damage the skin but lays a sticky layer for 1 week. • The best devices can be worn 24/7 and only need cleaning every other day. He can clean it in the shower by putting soap in his cage and apply a full jet of the shower head right in the cage. it will clean his penis thoroughly. No need to take him out • Shaving can perfectly be done while wearing the device. Just move it a bit to reach the hard to reach spots. • If he has to clean his penis manually for a reason. Do it under supervision or tell him that only you may touch his penis. He is not allowed to play by himself. • Draw you name on his dick before putting him in the cage. That way you can check if he cheated or not! For him it is mind boggling not touching a body part for over a month when he used to touch it every hour.

3. Get into his head! • Learn his fantasies and what turns him on. • Tease him with his fantasies whenever possible. • Make him wear your panties all the time. Skirts, stockings, socks everything to make him remember he’s your slut at work or wherever he goes. • Make him sign these rules without letting him read it. He may experience the joy of chastity. • He must promise he will follow the rules strictly. You may threaten to leave him if he doesn’t. He will make up his mind soon enough. • Explain to him that he will only receive prostate orgasm. Sissies should cum like real girls. • Make him shave his WHOLE body! Nothing better then feeling a soft body next to you in bed at night. It will grow back so he has to maintain it.

4. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible. • Taunt him.  Dress sexy • Talk sexy and dirty to him. • Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating. • Fondle him or let him fondle you. • Make him wear a buttplug or prostate massager everytime you go out. • Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual. • Make him give you orgasms frequently. • Edge him • Milk his prostate

5. Make him do something humiliating and learn when he will do anything for you. • Tease him to the edge then command the most humiliating activities.  He will do them. • Make him wear a butt-plug for a time. • Train him to submit to your strapon.   • Make him be naked when you are not. • Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum after your ruin his orgasm no matter where it is deposited. Sit on his face after a creampie or feed him off your hand or french kiss him!

6. No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to taunt him. • Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private). • Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear. • Make him shop for lingerie or toys for you. • Leave notes with instructions like: “I want to see you caged and plugged with these when I get home”

7. Control your own feelings of guilt.

• He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your    permission. • If you feel he deserves an orgasm… Ruin it! • Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one. • Full orgasms should be for very special occasions (no more than 3 or 4 per year).

Extra sissy rules:

• A sissy must wear panties. He does not own any male underwear. Take away his underwear and replace it. • A sissy may wear a bra and pink or brightly colored tights or leggings. Leggings and nylon are mandatory! • A sissy must sleep in lingerie. If he does not have any, he must sleep naked. • When alone, a sissy must dress as a girl. Good sissies wear lipstick while alone. • A sissy always keeps himself free of facial hair, and is otherwise well groomed. He must always be presentable, ready to please.  • Good sissies shave their legs • A sissy must never touch himself sexually without explicit permission from his Master or from his Muse • A sissy must wear as many lovely pink girly things as possible • Sissy must be in panties and a bra minimum at all times. • Sissy must keep shaved clean below the neck at all times. • Slave is not to masturbate with out permission, and when permission is given, it must be done in a slutty humiliating sissy way that reinforces my position.   

Some text to make him horny:

‘I love thinking about your cock in that cage

I’m thinking about you inside me right now, maybe I’ll let you tonight

Fancy a blow job? He replies yes. Shame you’ve got that cage on.

How are you going to convince me to unlock you tonight honey?

I’m really horny. Come and give me an orgasm, at least one of might as well

a list of tasks with ‘unlock cock’ as the final one lol

When I reformed our relationship into a wife-led marriage, my husband surrendered his power to me and accepted that corporal punishment would be a part of his future. To make our new dynamic as realistic as possible, true inequality had to be created and maintained, so I instituted domestic discipline into our marriage.

In the past, whenever he did something to anger me, our relationship would suffer and neither of us would be happy. Instead of dealing with the issue in a timely manner, hard feelings would fester and my resentment toward him would build. Instead of communicating my displeasure and disappointment in him, I would give him the silent treatment so he wouldn't even know why I was mad at him. I somehow expected him to read my mind or figure it out on his own.

When I took charge of the marriage, I decided to find a better way. With due consideration to his ideas and input, I designed a corporal punishment plan which I feel suits our new relationship dynamic the best. I created rules for us to live by, guiding him towards the behavior I expect from him. Some rules are minor, and some of them are zero tolerance, with serious consequences if broken.

The new way is so much better for both of us as problems are dealt with promptly ensuring no resentment builds. Before I punish him, I scold him, so he always knows exactly what he is being punished for eliminating any need for the silent treatment.

The minor day to day transgressions are taken care of during his weekly maintenance spankings which are done over my knee. However, broken zero tolerance rules must be dealt with in a stern manner.

These harsher punishments are rare and dealt with differently than scheduled maintenance spankings. For one thing, he doesn't lay himself across my lap. He has created, with his own hands, a purpose built spanking bench custom fit to hold his body at the correct height and angle for me to swing the cane or the strap comfortably while administering discipline. I love that he built it himself with such high quality as it shows he is committed to our new lifestyle and is fully invested in proper corporal punishment.

After fetching the implement bag, he puts leather cuffs on both his wrists and ankles. He walks up to the front of the bench and loosely clips his ankles in place to ensure he won't accidentally kick me when the pain gets intense.

He then puts on his leather deprivation hood and laces it tight followed by the ballgag. When this is done, he bends himself over the spanking bench. His hips are hugged on both sides by padded risers that prevent his torso from rocking off of the bench sideways keeping his bottom always lined up in the correct position to perfectly receive the next stroke, even if he is thrashing around. A hole is cut out where his genitals are, letting them dangle freely underneath, so that he can't hump against the bench and distract himself from the pain.

Once in place, he stretches forward to the extent of his reach and clips his wrist cuffs to the anchor ring in front of him. With his body stretched out taut, the muscles in his buttocks are tightened which adds to the effectiveness of the strokes. Although he is restrained hand and foot to the bench, he is still allowed a little wiggle room because I thoroughly enjoy watching him struggle and fight the restraints when I punish him. I've seen plenty of videos of dominant women caning or strapping their submissive and have trained him not to flinch or make a sound. How utterly boring.

My husband knows it's in his best interest to struggle against his restraints and scream, moan and grunt into his ballgag through the pain allowing me to fully experience his suffering. If he doesn't, I assume that I'm not swinging hard enough and put a little more effort into the next stroke.

With his ballgag strapped firmly into his mouth, no safeword can be spoken. With his wrists only clipped, not locked in place, he can free himself from the spanking bench in lieu of using a safeword. I will not swing an implement unless both wrists are properly clipped in place. The fact that he can free himself also keeps his punishment ultimately consensual as he can stop it anytime.

He doesn't know which implement I will employ until the white hot pain of the first stroke impacts his ass. Never in a hurry, I allow plenty of time for him to fully experience and appreciate the distinct pain of each stroke separately, giving him time to react, and for me to savor his reaction. I wait until the intense sting fades and he settles down, deciding he isn't going to free himself from the spanking bench (signalling his consent to continue) and has had sufficient time to feel dread for the next stroke he knows is coming. With random lengths of time between each stroke, he can't anticipate when the next one will land. When lining up for the stroke, I never let it touch his skin.

There are various reasons why his deprivation hood is used during punishment. When his sight is cut off and his hearing is diminished, it enhances his sense of touch and prevents any distractions, allowing him to concentrate his attention on the pain. This allows me to apply lighter strokes while still getting the desired outcome, resulting in less marking and irritation afterwards, as he has to be able to sit at work on Monday.

If he can't hear the implement cutting through the air, he can't anticipate the next stroke. I want to catch him off guard every time.

Another reason I hood him first, is because if I see his face, I will go easy on him and not deliver what I promised in disciplining him. The hood helps me to temporarily objectify and disassociate from him.

There is one more important reason I hood him.

It is to hide what I have come to accept about myself but don't want him to see. I have learned that I have a definite sadistic streak and administering corporal punishment has become a very raw sexual experience for me.

Nothing gets me hotter, faster, than swinging the cane or punishment strap and witnessing the reaction it causes. The struggling against the restraints, the screams, the whimpers, the moans, OH GOD, the moans. I feel so POWERFUL. It feels amazingly primal for me.

My husband knows that I get turned on from this, but has no idea how much it affects me. With him blindfolded, he can't see how excited I get. With his reduced hearing, he can't hear my soft moans as I play with myself while watching him struggle with the pain after each stroke.

He doesn't know that I strip naked when I cane or strap him. The effort of swinging the implement combined with the excitement his reaction stirs in me (my heart pounding in my chest the whole time), causes perspiration and my vagina to lubricate profusely, so it's best to be undressed.

Being naked also adds to the raw sexuality of the situation and allows me to apply nipple clamps to my breasts. The chain sways back and forth with the motion of my arm swinging the cane, creating intense stimulation as the clamps bite painfully into my nipples, helping me to share the experience of his suffering. Meanwhile, my fingers have complete access to roam my other erogenous zones. Isn't it ironic that I have become a partial painslut during HIS beatings?

It will always remain my little secret that some of the best orgasms I have ever had were from playing with myself while thrashing him. He will never know that my hottest fantasies often revolve around caning him into complete submission.

Those are just fantasies though. The reality is that I will only administer harsh punishment when he has broken our agreed upon rules and has earned it. But when he deserves it, why shouldn't I take as much pleasure from the experience as I can?

I simultaneously love and hate how obedient he is, as I love how he complies to my every want and need, but my sadistic side often wishes I could experience administering hard corporal punishment more often.

After he has received his final stroke, I let him lay there for a few minutes to compose himself. I remove my nipple clamps and massage my tortured nipples with one hand and touch myself elsewhere with the other, savoring the intense sensations, with explosive results.

When I've recovered myself, I take his hood off, and I immediately go into mommy-domme mode. After all, now that he has been fully corrected, he is my good boy again, but is still suffering the after effects. I suddenly feel an intense need to nurture him.

We both need aftercare, and what seems to work best for us is adult nursing. I feed him some water from a baby bottle and put him to my breasts to suckle for a while. I don't produce any milk, but dry suckling has a very calming effect for us both and we feel so close and intimate with each other. While on my breast, he will stare up at me with a look of total love and devotion, and I will kiss his forehead, pet him, and tell him what a good boy he is. I want to make it all better. After enduring the clamps, my nipples are quite sensitive, so his gentle suckling feels amazing.

Sex denial – Selectively the mistress can deny the submissive sex for a period. It can be for days or weeks depending upon the seriousness of the activity that prompted the punishment. Most libidos will start to peak after 2-3 days, so 4 days to a week is a good punishment. Note: this doesn't mean he can't still give YOU orgasms.

Chastity cage – A small device that fits and locks over a flacid penis so that the submissive cannot get erect. It isn’t painful when sized correctly yet prohibits him from orgasming at all. With sex denial he can still masturbate, but with a chastity cage on he cannot. Having a chastity cage on by default also makes it impossible to deny or disobey any command/punishment without more time between orgasms being added, so it is a highly recommended toy for subs and dommes.

Ruined orgasm only – Over a period of time he may only have ruined orgasms. He is to remain in a chastity cage and his mistress will only allow him out of the cage so she can deliberately ruin an orgasm for the sub.

Leashed collar – The sub has a collar placed on him and a leash. The leash is tied to something immovable like a wall mount or something heavy and immovable like a table leg. That way he cannot move beyond a prescribed circle. A mistress can make him do it naked for added effect.

Vibrating butt plug – Why not make them clean an area of the house while being naked and a vibrating butt plug.

Soap in mouth – Put a bar of soap in his mouth and make him walk around with it for a good time.

Naked exercise – Put him on an exercise regime for a few days or a week but make him do it in the nude in the front room while you watch TV or something. Get him doing press ups, burpees, star jumps and sit ups, all while you keep an eye on him.

Furniture – Make him a  piece of furniture for a while. A footstool is common so you can put your feet up while you watch TV, and help yourself to a glass of wine.

Food in a pet dish – Of an evening, when some food has been prepared your sub can eat it out of a pet bowl rather than dine more like a human with you. For extra effect you can place it on the floor and make him eat it from there.

Bland food – Instead of anything interesting to eat like lasagne or beef risotto, make them eat something healthy and very untasty every night for a week. Like boiled cabbage, mushy cauliflower, or couscous and broccoli.

Pointless chore – You can think of many of these I am sure, like count how many pages there are in my bookshelf or something, but a good one is get the sub to count out how many grains of rice are in a cup, a bowl or a 1kg bag of rice. Takes ages and is utterly useless.

Excessive chores – For a week they are to do every chore in the house, from making beds, to laundry to keeping all the rooms clean and dusting.

Cold shower – Make them wash, and clean for a good length of time under a cold shower. The colder the better and you can make him have a week of them for extra effect.

Anal plug – Not vibrating but get him to wear one if he is doing chores, making a meal or just throughout the day or a shopping trip. Or even work if he can do that.

Clean with a toothbrush – Make him get the kitchen, bathroom and utility room taps clean with a toothbrush. Or make him clean the bath with it, something that makes the whole job much longer.

Humiliating masturbation – Make your sub naked and tell him to masturbate into something that is a bit humiliating. You can place him in next to the TV and have him ride a dildo so you can have two shows to watch. With a shoulder stand against a wall you can even make him cum onto his own face/mouth.

Announce when horny – He must tell you when he is feeling a bit frisky or has an erection. Every time, no matter where. Texts to you while he is at work, and informing you if you are present.

Punishment chores – Like making your sexy shoes shine like they were done by an army soldier, or laundry and making all your work clothes clean with a roller for picking up dirt and hairs. Just keep adding to a list of stuff that he has to do if he is being punished.

Remove discretionary spending – Disallow him to spend any money on himself for a period of time, like a week or two. He won’t be able to order anything, or order a new book, or clothes, or even candy until punishment time is over.

Floor sleeping – Can work with a couch as well, but for a few days or a week he has to sleep on the floor next to the bed like a dog.

No use of furniture – Any furniture in the house he is not allowed to use, even including the bed. So he has to watch TV while sitting on the floor and has to dine standing up.

Permission to use bathroom – For whatever period the mistress desires, the sub will have to ask permission to use the bathroom. Say no occasionally and make him ask you again in 10 or 15 minutes.

BJ practice – Mistress can have a strapon or a dildo she uses to make her sub practice the art of deepthroating. Make him show you the practice and how well he is coming along in achieving a gag reflex avoidance.

Mouth gag – Get a mouth gag, and put it on your sub. He can have a whole day with that in while you go about your day. If you like his company and voice you can lock a gag on before leaving for school/work so he is only punished while you're gone.

Boot kissing – Make him kiss your feet every evening or upon snap demand. Keep him doing it, even during mealtimes, and make it inconvenient. Tell him to do it at 3am if you like.

Cum drinking – Have him orgasm into a container and save it. You can put it in his coffee and make him drink it, mix it in with some food, or freeze it into special ice cubes for his drinks.

Orgasm ratio – Have a ratio for orgasms for an extended period of time like 5 to 1, or 10 to 1. Meaning you have to receive 10 orgasms before he gets a single one. You can make yours a luxurious pleasure but makes his quick and sordid like into the toilet/urinal.

Even in the most secure relationships where effective communication between partners seems to come easily, it can be incredibly hard for a person to tell their partner, the one they trust and trusts them the most, their deepest desires and sexual fantasies. Why? Fear of rejection of course.

You love that person and want to be with them forever. Nothing would hurt you more than them leaving you and the last thing you want is for them to think you are a freak or sexual deviant, and leaving you because of it. The fact that it’s taboo makes it exciting, but it’s risky. For some, the risk is too great, and they keep these desires a secret from their partners forever.

Even if you finally become brave enough to confess these fantasies and kinks to your significant other, and they say they are fine with it, are they really? Are they just tolerating it or do they truly accept it? It can feel kind of selfish to ask your partner to engage in these fantasies, if you don’t know for sure that it’s also their thing. You will worry that they may eventually grow tired of having to indulge in your kinks and feel like nothing more then a fetish dispenser, something you can read people complaining about on online forums all the time.

So if your submissive partner bravely tells you their fantasies and you actually want to make them happy by sharing and indulging in them, what’s the best way to set their mind at ease and show that not only do you accept the fetish, but actively enjoy it yourself?

Use the force. Tell them that not only are you going to allow them to do it, you are going to make them do it! Forcing your submissive partner to do it will prove to them that their kink is indeed your kink too and will allow them to stop worrying about potential rejection and start truly enjoying the experience.   It will be much more exciting and intimate because you are actively taking a role in it, not just remaining passive and letting them indulge in their kink alone. No matter what kinky thing they are into, they will enjoy it twice as much if you force them to do it. You don’t have to force it all the time, but you should occasionally to spice things up and show a higher level of acceptance for what they like. Some things are tame, others are quite kinky, but all are more fun and exciting when you use the force.

Forced Kissing

What’s better than kissing your subby hubby? Grabbing him forcefully and pushing him up against the wall, taking his mouth with yours. Don’t forget to keep your hands busy fondling, feeling them up and pinching those sensitive nipples. if he doesn’t surrender completely, a gentle slap across the face will remind him who’s in charge.

Forced Cornertime

Whether for punishment or control, cornertime is great. You can just order him into the corner and I do it that way for punishment, withholding any extra attention from him. But when I do it for control, I will lead him into the corner by the hand, kiss him passionately, and gently force him nose first into the corner and handcuff his wrists behind him. It’s much more memorable, fun, and intimate for both of us this way.

Forced Bondage

My husband has always had a penchant for bondage and feels loved and wanted when restrained. I want him to feel really loved and wanted so I will stalk him around the house and when he least expects it, will show up with restraints in hand and demand his instant surrender. We have a rule that he is forbidden to ever refuse my restraints. If I want him gagged he will be gagged. I love locking his hands in fistmitts. It is so frustrating for him and makes him quite helpless.

Forced Confinement

Being locked in his cage is so much more sexy and enjoyable for both of us when I lead him into the room, remove all of his clothing myself, make him get down on all fours and using my hand on his forehead, push him backwards into his cage. I usually bend down and kiss his forehead before closing the door and locking it. There is something so satisfying  about locking him in his cage knowing that he is so completely under my control. I love how helpless it makes him. He cannot meet any of his most basic needs, like food, water, or go to the bathroom. As soon as the door is locked, I make him put on a diaper, as I have a policy of never unlocking him for bathroom breaks.

Forced Chastity

Ask any male who’s into chastity, and they will tell you it’s much more exciting when your wife or girlfriend actively locks his penis up herself instead of just ordering him to do it himself. I take it a step further by helplessly restraining him any time the chastity cage comes off, and never giving him any chance to touch his own bare penis. Some women allow supervised masturbation, but not me. I am, and will forever be, the source of any sexual pleasure that he is allowed to have.

Forced Oral

He really enjoys giving you pleasure in this way but it will be so much better for him if you forcefully make him do it. Don’t be afraid of a little hair pulling. It shows enthusiasm and will encourage him to put in more effort. Even if he is doing a great job, give him a little slap across the face and demand even more from him. When orgasm is near, feel free to take over and just grind yourself into his face. My husband loves it.

Forced Crossdressing

I once read online that any time you put pantyhose on a male, he will get an erection. I tried it on my husband and indeed, he was as hard as I’ve ever seen him. I was never interested in men who crossdress as it wasn’t my thing at all but seeing him so sexually aroused by it got me going too and now I enjoy dressing him up. It is a guilty pleasure for him, but with me making him do it, it makes it okay for him as he can justify it in his mind that he is doing it for me.

I have bought several satin bonnets and headscarves online in lovely pastel colors that he wears around the house and at bedtime.

It has been over 4 years now since he went a full day without his toenails painted, and I have a strict rule with harsh penalties for removing nailpolish from himself.

If he wears jeans, he has to wear pantyhose underneath, as I don’t allow rough textures like demin to touch his bare skin.

I bought him satin panties online, a set of seven pairs with the day of the week embroidered on, and punish him if he doesn’t wear them or wears the wrong pair on the wrong day of the week.

I have been high heel training him for years, starting with 2 inch heels and graduating him up an inch every year. He just recently started wearing 5 inch heels.

In the future, I want to buy him a corset and start waist training him.

Forced to Wear Buttplug

When he least expects it I come at him with a plug already prelubed, bend him over and insert it. It stays in until I remove it myself.

Forced Hair Removal

I shave my husband once a week. I restrain him standing, and taking my time, I take all his hair away from him. I prefer him completely hairless so I force him to be hairless. Much prettier now that I force him to wear women’s underwear and accessories.

Force Feeding Him Healthy Food

He doesn’t like vegetables very much so to ensure he stays healthy and eats enough, I make him eat them for a whole meal once a week. I cut them up in bite sized chunks, and make him eat them off of a plate on the floor without using his hands, like a dog. I stand over him with my riding crop ready in case he needs encouragement to eat every last bite and lick the plate clean afterwards.

Forced Bottle Feeding

My husbands doctor told him that he wasn’t drinking enough water each day, so I fill baby bottles full of water and schedule him to suckle them twice a day. He will be punished for missing his bottle time. I make him hold the bottle with both hands until it is empty. It’s humiliating and fun for him.

Forced Petplay

The Lock Maze is a fun and infuriating bondage game.   I have played this game for years and enjoy it immensely.

Warning: This game is only for people who are willing to pay attention to details.

Before you start, you’ll need:

Padlocks for the Lock Maze - Lots of padlocks that look alike but are keyed differently. Not only must the padlocks look identical but their keys must have a hole large enough so that they may be locked on the shackle of the lock itself. My experience is that six to eight locks is enough for most scenarios.

Lockable bondage gear – gags, hoods, cuffs, etc. as you prefer

Other Padlocks - More locks and keys apart from the Lock Maze for use on your lockable bondage gear

A Lockbox - A padlock-able room, toolbox or other lockable box to put the keys to the Other Padlocks

Overview

The basic idea of the Lock Maze is to mix around the key/lock pairs, then lock each padlock with another lock’s key attached to a different place in your room, house or yard. One key and one padlock is left over. The extra key starts you off on your search through the Lock Maze and the extra padlock locks the final “treasure chest” containing keys to any handcuffs, gags, etc. that the player might be wearing during the game.  

Once the game is set up, the bound player must travel to and retrieve the first key and try it in one lock after another until one of them opens, yielding a second key. That new key must then be tried in the remaining locks to find the next match and so on until the final lock is reached yielding the keys to the the bondage gear.  

Sounds simple, doesn’t it?  The rest of this article gives step by step instructions.  Follow them closely and you can’t go wrong…

Step by Step

Step 1: Buy a bunch of identical looking but differently keyed padlocks.  They must look identical but the key to each lock must be unique.  Buy good quality locks so you can trust them.  Buy a lock with a big enough shackle so it can be locked in a variety of places are your place space.  (Short pieces of chain also work nicely for attaching the locks to different places.)  How many padlocks should you buy?  Six or eight is a good number.

Step 2: Line up the locks in a row opposite their two matching keys.  Take one key from each lock and save it on your emergency backup key ring.  If this is to be a self-bondage game, put your emergency backup key ring in a place where you will be able to get to it but not easily.  Suspending it from a block of ice is a good idea as is putting it in the mailbox in front of your house.  Any other duplicate keys to be used in the game should be placed in this key ring as well.

Step 3: Place the keys to your other locks in your lockbox.  These are the keys to the locks that will be used on your bondage equipment.  The lockbox will be locked using the last padlock in your Lock Maze.

Step 4: You now should have a row of locks and a row of keys across from them.  

Make double sure that the keys match the locks.  

Step 5: Now carefully SHIFT the row of locks so that lock 1 is now across from key 2, lock 2 across from key 3 and so on.  

This will leave you with a lone key at one end and a lone lock at the other.  

Step 6: The lone padlock locks up any other keys to be used on the bondage equipment into the lockbox.   Lock this lone padlock on your lockbox now. 

Step 7: The extra key on the other end of the row will be the start of your maze. For example, suppose you are going to build the lock maze using an entire house.  You will start the game by placing handcuffs, anklecuffs, etc., in a room at one end of the house, and place this extra key at the other end to create an “initial goal.”

Step 8: Once the extra lock and extra key are taken care of, we once again have a row of locks across from a row of (non-matching) keys.  They match the next padlock over from them.  Place the key on the shackle of its (associated, non-matching) lock.

Step 9: Mix the lock-key pairs around until you can no longer remember their original sequence.  (Don’t worry too much if you mess this part up.  This worse that will happen is that you create a short cut in the maze and your adventure will end sooner than you had expected.)

Step 10: Place the lock/key pairs around your play space.  Attach each to a different place in the play space.  Be sure to lock each corresponding key on the shackle of its lock.  In your house or apartment, you can attach locks to handles of furniture, cabinets, anywhere the lock will lock.  Short pieces of chain give you more options for where to attach the locks.  Be sure to place some distance between the locks so that the player will have a way to travel.

For the truly adventurous, keys can be placed outdoors but consider the risk!

Note: If you’re using more than six locks, you may want to draw a map to remember where all the locks were placed.