the garden of death

,, Death is not a lover. “

the garden of death, osddid system

helloo you can collectively refer to us as laika, lirika, or any of the names listed on our prns.cc

we primarily go by shi/he however we usually don’t care very much what pronouns you call us collectively

we are very happily taken by our partner system, @nos-somnus and are not looking for another.

we are also minor bodied, do not be weird

rentry

The concern you guys have for El does not come from a place of wanting what's best for her. You are forcing your incorrect assumptions onto her despite what her canon behavior is telling you. That is absolutely ableism and infantilizing.

Additionally, kindly tag posts like these Anti Mileven. It's fandom courtesy especially on Tumblr.

I never said El couldn’t express discomfort or didn’t want affection. My point is that cognitive ability and social/emotional development aren’t the same thing, and El had JUST come out of extreme isolation and trauma. That creates a huge gap in experience and understanding, especially in something as complicated as romantic relationships.

Saying she might not have been ready for a relationship that quickly isn’t me trying to deny her agency or dictating what she’s allowed to want. I’m acknowledging context and pacing. A person can want something and still not fully understand the situation they’re in yet, especially when they’ve had no normal social development and the only person guiding them is also a kid figuring things out.

Someone can have agency and be vulnerable at the same time. Someone can genuinely want something, and still be in a situation where they don’t fully understand the social or emotional implications yet

Moreover, “she didn’t object” is a very slippery slope, trust can change the context and reaction under discomfort massively, Mike was, at the time, the only person she trusted and her only source of social information. Plus, she didn’t know what a kiss was, of course she wouldn’t seem uncomfortable with something she doesn’t understand the emotional weight of

I’m not saying Mike was malicious or that El is helpless. I’m saying the situation had a big imbalance and could have gone terribly, which is part of why it’s worth discussing.