don’t start dating your crush if
the attraction is purely physical (wanting to bang them =/= romantic compatibility)
you feel pressure to change or hide parts of yourself to get them to like you
aspects of their lifestyle make you uncomfortable (i.e. alcohol/drug use, people they hang out with, etc.)
they invalidate or belittle your identity or your passions (i.e. “Bisexuality means you’re confused!” “Writing can’t be a real career!” etc.)
they never stop talking about their exes
they only talk to you to vent their emotional baggage
they routinely ignore you without explanation
they’re only interested in conversations about themselves
you put effort into getting to know them, but they don’t seem to care about getting to know you
you constantly worry about their approval or pleasing them
no matter how much you like someone, basing a relationship around worshiping or trying to fix someone or fueling an inferiority complex is unhealthy and leaves you vulnerable to toxic and emotionally draining relationships. attraction is strong and we do dumb things when we’re infatuated with someone, but please remind yourself that your own well-being should always take priority over any potential romance and run far away if anyone, especially your crush/partner, suggests otherwise.
jacobvanloon
blakekathryn
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