Welcome To My World

Me at the beginning:

About three weeks in:

Finally reaching the end:

Totally cool: “Hey, do you want to be exclusive?”

Red flag: “No one but me is allowed to touch you.”

Totally cool: “It makes me feel weird when you flirt with other people, can we talk about that?”

Red flag: “If you loved me, you would stop being friends with them. You KNOW it makes me jealous.”

Totally cool: “I hope we’re together forever. I’m so in this for the long haul.”

Red flag: “If you ever left me, I would kill myself.”

Totally cool: “Your mom is really unkind to me, can we try to minimize how often you bring me when you visit her?”

Red flag: “Your mom hates me, you need to stop talking to her. She’s trying to ruin our relationship.”

Totally cool: “I love you so much, oh my god.”

Red flag: “It’s a good thing I love you so much, because no one else would. You’d be alone forever without me.”

Other important red flags to keep in mind: someone who wants to jump into emotional/financial co-dependence very fast (like moving in together right away, or becoming each other’s only confidantes right away) and won’t take no for an answer; someone who tries to minimize how often you leave the house or interact with other people; someone who threatens you or themselves or your family or pets or possessions or financial future; someone who uses guilt to keep you from leaving a relationship.

Very important reminder: You do not need a reason to leave a relationship. Neither does the other person (or people). A relationship is over when one of the people in it says it’s over, period. Obviously it’s kind to take the end of a long relationship seriously, but abusers and manipulators have lost the right to that conversation. Lie if you need to–your safety is much more important than their feelings.

Is this what you guys think it means when GMO comes up in conversation?

Do you know what else is a GMO?

Dogs. Literally ALL dogs have had their genetics modified to make them more docile, loyal, trusting, energetic, obedient ect.

Ears of corn used to be the size of your thumb. Through selective ‘breeding’ we chose the strains of corn that were the biggest, fastest growing, most resilient ect. Ect.

THAT is a GMO. I don’t know where the idea that genetic modification meant they’re injecting your food stuffs with chemicals to change its DNA. That’s not how it works.

However, they ARE spraying your veggies with pesticides and that is something you should be worried about.

“I like your dress!” is acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! You’re gorgeous!” is also acceptable. “I like how your dress clings to your ass, sexy!” is NOT acceptable. “You! In the red blouse! Nice tits!” is also not acceptable.

Let’s put it like this.

If your “compliment” refers directly to:

a person’s ass

their genitals

their breasts (or lack thereof)

how much you want to have sex with them

how you want to have sex with them

wanting to have sex with them against their will

seeing certain parts of that person’s anatomy (sexual or not) in a specific, sexual act

calling the person a name that is considered ‘degrading’ or involves profanity

‘pet names’ on a stranger

then it is not a compliment, it is catcalling, and consequently, is harassment.

So as I was saying. There’s a line. “Hello, beautiful.” is alright. But “Hello, beautiful. Those lips look perfect for sucking my cock.” has crossed that line.

so gentle