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humans need community love, community support, networks of friends and family (found or blood) to get all our emotional needs met!!

the love of one person will never be enough, because one person cannot be all things to u!! humans need the love and support of a variety of people with a variety of perspectives and strengths in a variety of roles in our lives!

if you are lonely and you need to feel loved it can be tempting to try to get everything from one person but tbh relationships crack easily under that kind of pressure!

It’s important to seek out more connections! Try finding interest-based clubs or activity groups in your area, and show up and talk to people when you go to them! Talk to your neighbours more, learn to make small talk - that’s how people get comfortable enough with you to move on to real stuff!

If you have family you even vaguely like, call them more, make time to see them and check in on them. Offer to help people out - wash a sink of dishes for an elderly neighbour or offer to keep an eye on the kids of a busy coworker. Volunteer! Take a class just for fun! Anything to get you out and among people to start making connections is good for you, even if it takes hard work!

on loving your siblings

The unseen sokka running the camera and interference

Kataras headwrap that is clearly inspired by a protective bonnet thats simultaneously completely unrelated to the characters original design and yet immediately recognizable

'Coolin w the avatar'

The practical effects

Momo

The descent into screeching from zuko

This is very important to your self esteem. It’s not just “feeling” positive things about yourself. Part of it, which hardly gets talked about, if ever, is doing esteemable things. Meaning, having something tangible that you can point to and say, “hey. I did this. I’m proud of this. There is work and attention and effort put into this and I deserve to praise myself and receive praise from others for it”.

A kid who plays soccer and guitar and makes up dance routines with their siblings and has their drawings hanging on the wall will have much higher self esteem than the kid who only watches tv all day. One kid has done something. Learned things. Tried and failed and emerged victorious and it feels good. So when they walk around feeling hot about themselves, it is earned and it makes sense. It’s not a ‘fake it til you make it’ situation. Authentic self esteem, not just saying whatever affirmations in the mirror everyday until you start to believe it, is earned by doing something positive with your life.

Go cultivate a skill. Go practice something. See something to completion. Get a hobby or two. The human condition craves the experience of doing something well and feeling pride. Stop neglecting that part of self esteem building.

What a terrible burden for children to bear—to know that they are the reason their mother stopped living. What a terrible burden for our daughters to bear—to know that if they choose to become mothers, this will be their fate, too. Because if we show them that being a martyr is the highest form of love, that is what they will become. They will feel obligated to love as well as their mothers loved, after all. They will believe they have permission to live only as fully as their mothers allowed themselves to live.

If we keep passing down the legacy of martyrdom to our daughters, with whom does it end? Which woman ever gets to live? And when does the death sentence begin? At the wedding altar? In the delivery room? Whose delivery room—our children’s or our own? When we call martyrdom love we teach our children that when love begins, life ends. This is why Jung suggested: There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of a parent.

you will bloom if you take the time to water yourself