FUNFORTWO

It's kind of a given that most people (both Subs and Doms) assume that in order to dominate someone you have to be Hard, or basically, in layman's terms, that you have to be this imposing rule enforcer that talks down to people. And yes, you can be that... But there's an art to it, you can't just bark orders and expect to have the Sub go with it. You have to measure the strength of your Voice™. Meaning that you have to know when your sub needs you to push on her, when to release, and when not to do so.

Also, there's one secret that sadly I see most Dominants, specially online, don't get the grasp of: Soft Domination.

Orders doesn't have to be told directly to be an order, casually mentioning your sub what you want them to do (or what you want to do to them), in a calm, warm voice, will make most subs melt. Having a moment of tenderness while you degrade them, mixing up pleasure signals in their brain, and affixing the idea that whatever you're doing is good for both of you.

Domination also means to be a guiding hand in their life outside of kinky stuff, and many Doms forget that, or just set out rules for their Sub's behavior and enforce punishment as negative reinforcement. But there's so much to that.

You can be a guiding hand while being soft, making them rely on you for asking you things, big and small. You are there to be their Pillar after all, it does not mean you have to just sit there and Lord over them.

True Domming takes effort, takes trust and needs to be tempered with the ability to flow into a more imposing form of dominance when your sub requires it, it's like a martial art, movement flowing like water, passing through everything and changing form as it goes... But also molding and shaping everything around it.

While waiting for my piercings to heal and my tattoo design to be finalized, Master decided to do a branding on His slave’s butt Himself.

Master did a branding on me several years ago with a violet wand and a special electrode (as i mentioned in an earlier post). It was actually quite effective - a single pass made the brand last for a year before it fully disappeared. Master decided to do the same way as the tools were there. i proposed to experiment with stencil and Master got this 1-inch set. It’s made of thick paper so not conductive of either electricity or heat.

Master put me on the spanking bench for good access and taped one stencil on my butt, then started to do “passes” over my slave skin exposed through the carved character. The wand buzzed loudly with sparks, and the room was full of ozone smell. The special branding electrode concentrated energy on a single point, and i felt like being stung with hot needles. It was painful but not too bad - at least not so much as a hot iron.

Master experimented with 4 passes on the first character, waiting a little time in between to let it develop and check the progress. The pain got stronger with each additional pass, probably because it burnt deeper into skin each time. When Master was satisfied with the result, He removed the stencil and move on to tape the next one, and the next one. i kept quiet and docile on the bench, enduring the burning pain while getting so curious about the result.

After another 8 characters each with 3 passes, Master completed His work on His property. The burnt characters swelled with a pink color around them and a rough surface of dead skin. The edge didn’t look sharp enough as intended at the beginning.

The next morning when i pulled off my pants and looked at the mirror, i got a big smile on my face. The characters turned into purple brown and became much more defined. 

After 5 days, now they still hurt a bit if scratched. A thin crust is formed on the surface and it looks like composed of thousands of “pixels”, which i guess are left by thousands of electric sparks. The branding may be still not permanent as it’s not so deep as a so-called 3rd-degree burn, but it will last for several years for sure - and the great part is that Master can do more passes on them any time or decide to burn deep enough to be permanent. How cool is that?!

Happy people value and choose:

1. Love over Fear: People, who are really happy, fear less and love a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.

2. Acceptance over Resistance: Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it. When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it. Instead, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better?

3. Forgiveness over Unforgiveness: Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to forgive and forget, understanding that forgiveness is a gift they give themselves.

4. Trust over Mistrust: They trust themselves and they can figure out who is trustworthy – and who they should avoid.

5. Meaning over Ambition: They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They’re not driven by the need to gain approval from others.

6. Challenges over Obstacles: Happy people see problems as challenges, and as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things.

7. Selflessness over Selfishness: Happy people look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves, and to make other people happy if they can.

8. Kindness over Harshness: They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.

9. Gratitude over Ingratitude: No matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, happy people have the capacity to see beauty where many would only see ugliness – and they’re quick to express their gratitude, as well.

10. Being Present over Being Disengaged: Happy people know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are.

11. Positivity over Negativity: No matter what happens to them, happy people always seem to adopt and maintain a positive, and upbeat, perspective.

12. Taking Responsibility over Blaming: Happy people take full ownership of their lives. They choose to keep their power and take responsibility for everything that happens to them.