you're not a monster

“Learn to be alone, and to like it. There’s nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company.”

“Be brave enough to be bad at something new.”

“The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.”

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”

“It’s funny how humans can wrap their mind around things and fit them into their version of reality.”

“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered you will never grow.”

If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.

The reason it is not is because there are some very specific things that have been learned about ADHD impacting the frontal lobe - which plays a significant and outsized role in executive function. The same is not seen in autistics that do not meet the criteria for ADHD (and yes, this has been studied repeatedly, and no I do not have DOIs handy).

Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.

“My point is, there are a lot of people in the world. No one ever sees everything the same way you do; it just doesn’t happen. So when you find one person who gets a couple of things, especially if they’re important ones… you might as well hold on to them.”

I sympathise with everybody, damn it, and see why they are the way they are.

Millions of people have decided not to be sensitive. They have grown thick skins around themselves just to avoid being hurt by anybody. But it is at great cost. Nobody can hurt them, but nobody can make them happy either.

And then I felt sad because I realized that once people are broken in certain ways, they can't ever be fixed, and this is something nobody ever tells you when you are young and it never fails to surprise you as you grow older as you see the people in your life break one by one. You wonder when your turn is going to be, or if it's already happened.