This makes it especially glaring that something is wrong in Mike and Jane's relationship for after at least six months of them dating, Jane still doesn't know how to tell what she likes. Personally, this comes off very weird to me, as making-out is intimate or an advanced relationship activity, and while it can be read as romantic and I don't think Mike and Jane ever did anything and I would not like to speculate on this, it can also be seen as a sexual activity. Jane does not know what she likes until Max teaches her, and I don't believe it's a stretch to assume she doesn't know what consent is either. It seems obvious that they did not teach it to her in the lab and given Hopper's reaction to having to talk to Mike and Jane about making-out, I don't believe that that would be a conversation he would have, especially given the time period. On that note, while consent was not as heavily emphasized as it is today, and Mike and Jane were both young so honestly there's a good chance neither of them knew too much about consent, it's something that needs to be explored in-depth, can be an uncomfortable topic, and most importantly, not knowing what it is it does not lessen the impact that occurs when someone does not feel comfortable doing an activity, even if it's explicitly romantic. Consent is important either way, and as people watching Stranger Things, a show set in the 1980s, we can acknowledge the time frame while still acknowledging that it's not right, even if it makes sense for them not to know better.
Mike objectively knows more about relationships than she does, and that's not ableist. It is ableist to assume that disabled people cannot consent, cannot know as much about relationships, or cannot form their own opinions. Everybody, however, SHOULD know what they're getting into when they're doing something with their bodies.
There's also a point to be made that in season one, Lucas says something about Mike liking Jane because, ""[Mike] likes that a girl isn't grossed out by him for once"". And while that might have been fueled by emotions, Mike (nor the rest of the party) seem to have any other friends, and they're all boys.
The Duffers have described Stranger Things as a show about outcasts, for outcasts, and using this statement, we can infer that Mike, you know, IS an outcast. He feels different and weird and Jane is a girl that seems to like him. That's normal. Feeling normal/not inherently broken can be euphoric, and being an outcast can be miserably lonely, even if you have friends or family that support you. I won't say he doesn't love her, because he definitely does at some point, but if we assume that Mike is in the closet, it has a lot more depth, and makes a lot more sense for the way he treats her, especially in the later seasons. You talk about Byler fans wanting Mike to "change his sexuality", but I'm assuming you've had the privilege to not know what compulsive heterosexuality means.
Compulsive heterosexuality is when a gay person denies they're gay and engages in heterosexual behavior to cope with it/further their denial. This is especially common in homophobic environments because there is an inherent risk to being gay. Even today, with more acceptance, there is a chance that by coming out as gay you may lose your home (be kicked out) and your family. Being gay means you can be hatecrimed or discriminated against, and I can only imagine how much more common that was in the 1980s. I'm also assuming you've never had to be in the closet but it can make you kind of a dick because you're unhappy, whether you know why or not, and even if you do, you can't do what WOULD make you happy, because again, there's a risk to being out that it might not be worth it to take, even if you're miserable hiding. That's the truth.
So yeah, pretend it's homophobic all you want, but for Jane's sake I hope Mike treats her badly BECAUSE he's gay and not just because that's how he treats women. If that's just how he treats women/his girlfriend and they stay together, what do you think that implies for Jane? She'll be with someone who doesn't treat her like a person after being dehumanized her entire life. I don't think that's the happy ending you think it is.
Also to address your original point, I have seen a popular Byler theory that Jane and Mike never got back together at the end of season four (I think it was Will that mentions on the rest of the way to Hawkins, Jane didn't speak to Mike once, over the course of two days, sharing the back row of Argyle's van). The theory draws on that and the Mike and Jane dynamic shift (season three, his hovering and the current season where she doesn't seem to be his top priority anymore), and the fact they discuss the party's future together, which is primarily a FRIEND group. Regardless of this is true or not, the popular acceptance of this theory implies that there's an unspoken common acceptance that their hypothetical breakup was amicable. So it seems like you're just making people up because this is a common theory and it seems like people are already chill with them being friends if they had/have broken up so there's really no need to cart Jane off anywhere away from their friends. Even if Mike and Jane don't end up staying together there is no denying the fact that they do indeed care for each other, but as a couple Mike at least seems to have trouble expressing that. I really do believe they work better as friends.
I want Jane to have a relationship where she is seen for who she is and not some idealized version of herself.
INDEPENDENT of that, I also want Will to have his happy outcast ending. I want to feel like Mike wasn't just emotionally unavailable because that's just the way he is. I don't want Byler to happen at the expense of Jane, but I genuinely do not think this relationship is what is best for her, because she shouldn't have to settle after everything that has happened to her.
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