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Disclaimer: here I am talking about things like shows, music, series, books, and not idk like HUMAN RIGHTS OR POLITICS. I know those things are intertwined and can be questioned too (which can be very interesting discussion), but here we are talking about things that can be argued and not idk if you are a fucking fascist.

So now that you read my disclaimer we can focus on the things we gathered here to talk about.

And just like that let's set one thing straight. People are different, in the sense of opinions, in their likes and dislikes. We are not the same, because we do not live the same lives and we do not experience the same things. Our livelihood depends entirely on socioeconomic, cultural and demographic context. That's why in the cause of discovery, people, or mainly, sociologists, such as myself, study subjects one by one. By subjects, I mean, cases or any other fancy word you think is adequate to apply to your study.

By studying or learning new information we have to accept that we read perspectives, we do not only read facts (except maybe exact sciences and even then not all of them), we read opinions, and we choose which opinions are relevant to us. In sociology, while studying different aspects of different things we do not tend to moralize the study subject, which is from time to time is extremely hard thing to do.

And even then, most of the sociologists choose their area of research and stick to it as it's not easy to be opposed or questioned almost in everything. So, that's why in this paper we will stick to the chosen position from the get go. My main point is to discuss what happens to us, humans, when we hear, someone close to us, someone we care about, not liking something that we chose to like. Something that we invested a lot of time in, something that makes us smile. From the research that I have done online there is not really a clear response to what should we or should not do.

Do we have to justify our opinion? Do we seek validation? Do we find the root of the problem, and try to argue it? What would be a correct response in that situation? How do we even react? From what I have seen online there are various steps we should take in order to what? Not to care anymore? But would that be a correct response? What if something that our friend tells us he dislikes in our interest is completely true? How do we deal with that?

And just like that, not taking anymore of your time (a lie) we shall dive deeper into that.

I, from what you probably already gathered, I do not like to be incorrect in my opinions. Not as a sociologist but as a human being. But as you grow old, there is something that you learn. You are almost never correct, because you are almost always know nothing. Of course it variate from person to person, but you get it. We are small beings in this world and even smaller in the whole universe. Lets go step by step:

We like something, we liked it for a very long time, we know our interest from the front to back and from the back to the front. We even know the negative points because we can't stay ignorant, because in our current world it's not something we can't afford to be. __ Are you following? …Good, good. Do not forget about how small we are.

We acknowledge the negatives in our interest. We do not dare defend it, because it is true and you don't want to seem morally wrong or you, yourself can't accept to be morally wrong. We know the faults, we do not excuse them.

And here comes the argument "but …….. but ………. but" from people.

What should be made out of our position. Everything starts with the way people talk to us. We may seem careless or maybe even weak in conversation but we do not let anyone take advantage of that. We try but it's hard, because you do not want to seem defensive but you know something is wrong in the discussion, you just not now what yet. We fear the worst. And let me tell you what fear it is.

We fear being stupid, looking stupid, we fear them being smarter we fear them being right. And so, in the grand scheme of things nothing like this matters. If you know you are going against your values, and you have no arguments to give, you should quit your interest. It is not worth stressing over. But if it gives you comfort that you can't find anywhere else. Read carefully, it is not your job to make someone like the same things you like, it is not even your business if they don't like something you like. You do not need validation from people who argue just to seem smarter. You do not argue with people who consider themselves morally high. I know you already thought it through in it's entirety, weighting the good and the bad, so stop feeling guilty for someone's feelings because if we reach just a bit deeper we find something that can break us down. We find hate. And if we find hate, we start hating. And there is just no coming back from there.