alexandria

If you’re safe inside your homes and don’t live with an abusive person, consider yourself blessed. Please.

I don’t wanna look at anything else now that I saw you... I only see daylight.

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@taylorswift, I know it must’ve been heart shattering to write ‘soon you’ll get better’ but thank you for being so honest and sharing yours and your families story with us.

As I listened, I cried as it brought back Khlo’s own battle with cancer. I personally have never related more to one of your songs than that one. It beautifully captured the fear and anxiety of that devastating fight.

The “you have to” in the chorus is exactly how it feels to watch someone you love battle something so brutal. When Khlo fought, our minds would go to dark places at every low point but we would always say, “she has to get better”, and the harder part would be believing that so we didn’t spiral. We had to believe with everything in us that she would get better because then we wouldn’t be able to properly be her support and bright light in her fight.

Khlo is my niece, but she’s also my best friend. And she calls me hers (I’m so honored she calls me hers). Hearing the line, “who am I supposed to talk to? what am I supposed to do? If there’s no you” absolutely broke me. Thinking of losing her when she was fighting was an inevitable dark thought that comes with that battle and I would always think, “what would I do without her? She’s our world. She’s our heart. She’s our everything.” I’m grateful every second of every single day I didn’t have to find out.

Khlo’s story had a happy ending. It wasn’t a perfect happy ending because when is life ever? It’s like Dermot Kennedy says in one of his songs, “So you want fears? We still got several. At least the killer’s dancing with the devil.” Our life was forever changed by her fight and the fears and anxieties attached to that fight never leave, but Khlo is alive, healthy, and happy and on September 23rd, she will celebrate FOUR YEARS CANCER FREE. That’s the truth that we let occupy our headspace. We can’t let cancer have a permanent grip on our life just because it once had its hands around our throats.

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