Fladorkstud

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to shove you when he’s angry.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to call you a dumbass or a bitch when you’re in an argument.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to threaten to leave the relationship every time you defend yourself.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to invalidate your feelings.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to not tell you who he’s with or where he’s going.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to keep making the same detrimental mistake over and over.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to use your insecurities against you.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to make you feel guilty for having desires and needs.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to tell you that you’re stupid when you cry.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to cheat on you because he’s “just a stupid guy.”

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to rely on you when he doesn’t do a thing for himself.

it’s not normal for your boyfriend to hurt you intentionally.

please stop normalizing toxic romantic relationships. it’s not healthy for your partner to upset you and behave recklessly as long as he apologizes later. apologies mean nothing after he has repeatedly disrespected you. kisses and hugs mean nothing after he has repeatedly disrespected you. public displays of affection mean nothing after he has repeatedly disrespected you. promises mean nothing after he has repeatedly disrespected you. it is not okay for him to hurt you physically or emotionally because he said he’ll change. he hasn’t. he won’t. get out now because THIS! IS! NOT! NORMAL! other couples do not go through this. other couples did NOT have to go through this to be in a happy, wholesome place.

YOU ARE •smol and cute •beautiful •special •important

YOU DON’T •owe yourself to anyone •have to make yourself feel bad about anything •annoy everyone–tons of people love you, for who you are

*swaggers*

*pounds chest*

What’s with this rash of ‘Think you can take this?’ and ‘I’m too much for you, girl’ posts and commentary?

First, you’re not too much. I promise you’re not. This fantasy you’ve crafted exists solely in your noggin. And while your attitude is definitely palpable, I assure you it’s nothing anyone needs special gloves for.

Second, I really hope your potential victims partners view those statements for what they are: flags. Maybe not red, but definitely pink. Or a hearty shade of magenta. Because anyone who warns that they are ‘too much’ for someone to take/handle is very clearly stating they have:

Poor understanding of the Dominant/submissive dynamic

Poor understanding of relationship dynamics, period

Low ability to gauge other’s reactions to stimuli and adjust accordingly

Little to no desire to have a mutually fulfilling experience

Naivete as to what constitutes a mutually fulfilling experience

An embarrassingly elevated sense of self and subsequent ‘accomplishments’ (e.g., ‘I ruined that pussy!’)

And, quite possibly, poor or nonexistent boundary awareness and/or maintenance

I get it. You’ve been online awhile now and you know what gets the ladies steamy. The side-eye and snarl. The knowing smirk. The mystery. The thick and unyielding darkness of it all. Plus - and let’s be honest here! - your penis is MASSIVE. (I have a smartphone, I know what’s out there.)

But please understand that the type of person who says things like ‘You couldn’t handle me’ in regard to his 50 Shades of Staggeringly Intense Domliness™ almost assuredly has no clue how to wield either effectively.

Hello unicorns,

I see these for littles all the time. There are things CGs love and need to hear, too! Here’s my list! Feel free to add to it ♥ Do not interact if you believe little space is inherently a kink! ♥

“It’s okay to take time for yourself.”

“I know you love me.”

“You’re not a bad person.”

“You’re not too needy.”

“You’re a great Mommy/Daddy/Caregiver!”

“I love your big space.”

“There’s nothing wrong with you.”

“You make me feel safe.”

“I’m okay!”

“Stop worrying!”

“Thank you.”