Findom Management

There are so many girls joining this fetish, or wanting to be a part of it. yet so many come into it not having a clue what they are doing, or even understanding that is a part of BDSM. 

If you are new to the fetish or you want to explore it, let me clear a few things up for you. 

1. This isn’t get rich quick. You can’t join expecting to make hundreds right off the bat.  If you don’t have a job and you need money, don’t turn to Findom to solve your money problems. 

2. You are not a sugar baby. If you want a sugar daddy, there are different sites for you to use. If you go on Twitter using the hashtags #findom and #sugarbaby in the same tweet, others will find it and drag you. Those in the Findom community cannot stand it, because it’s a misrepresentation of who we are. 

3. You have to be dominant. You can’t expect to just tweet pictures of your ass and have guys throw their money at you. Show your dominant side, and if you aren’t dominant, you probably won’t last long. Subs can very easily pick out a real dominant from a fake. 

4. Don’t hit up every successful Domme asking her to help you. So many times new girls hit up your DMs and they ask “how do I get guys to pay me?” “where are all the paying subs?” Not only will she most likely ignore you, she will take a screenshot showing the community how pathetic you are. If you want help from another Domme, be respectful and don’t ask stupid questions. I am more than willing to help others out, but I’m not going to hold your hand. I googled everything about Findom before I got started. I looked at blogs and other twitter profiles and learned what to do from them. I didn’t go asking every single Domme who is successful in what she did. I have met other Dommes along the way and it’s been different for all of us.  What worked for one, didn’t work for the other.  Some of us just got lucky, while others were in the community for a good 6 months before they made anything. 

5. Make clips or videos. This has been the number one best way for Dommes to find subs and make money. That, and it helps to show your true dominant side.  A lot of Dommes make an OnlyFans page which is connected to twitter. That or iWantClips is another option. Both of them require your tax information, which is a great way to officially verify you. If you are afraid of others finding out what you do and you want to remain hidden, it’s going to be very difficult finding subs.  It’s possible, but a lot harder. 

Maybe you could try posting a couple free videos up on sites? At the start and end of the video have you name and all your social links and then you can post them to every porn site. This should definitely get views. Annoying as you put work into that video, but hopefully a good return.

As you’re selling videos there’s no need to censor your content as much like you would do selling nudes. So for every video you could take pictures from that video and short clips from it and post them around too.

Staying safe for online sex workers: You meet a lot of people in this line of work, and sometimes not very nice ones. These are a few ways on how to stay safe.

  Use a different name: An obvious one but people still do it.   Use a different location: You need to use a different city, its very easy to find people on Facebook when they know the location.   Use different pictures: You can reverse Google image search, and search the Internet for other places that imagine is. This is the biggest reason why sex workers get exposed, they used the same social media pictures on their sex work pages. Make sure all your pictures are different.  

Use a sex work only email: Some social media sites allow people to search for users if they the email address. You should be using a different email but turn this off just in case as well.

Looking to expand your kinks, to stand out from everyone else, offer new content and expand your audience? Here’s a list of fetishes to get involved in. Offering more will lead new buyers to your blog, and will also make you look more professional as well. This is especially helpful for people wanting to start selling videos. These are all popular fetishes, but higher demand kinks are in bold.

A)

Adult Nappy

Adult Role Play

Amateur

Anal

Anal Beads

Anal Fetish

Anal Masturbation

Anal Sex

Ass

Ass Grinding

Ass Humiliation

Ass Licking

Ass Shaking

Ass Smacking

Ass Smothering

Ass Sniffing

Ass Spreading

Ass Tease

Ass To Mouth

Ass Worship

Have a profile picture of yourself

Add your payment methods to your bio, Circle pay, Amazon and Google Wallet are popular. (not PayPal) Can also list deals, offers, fetishs in bio as well.

Text posts often don’t do too well in tumblr, always add a photo if you can.

Tags! If you have no tags or they’re shit ones, nobody can find you. Aim to get 20 on a post.

Don’t tag things like “pay me” and “buy my nudes”. Nobody is looking that up. Think about what a horny man is going to type in that search bar and tag that.

Try and have a wide range of kinks you offer. This will get you noticed by more people.

You will have to take more than just pictures of your feet.

I recommend using queue posts rather than relogging and posting immediately. This allows you to stack up lots of posts that will automatically go out, keeping your blog active while you’re away.

If someone messages you with an offer that’s too good to be true. It is.

Always have them pay before doing anything. Even if it’s a small amount. My only exception is if they are asking a respectable question. Nothing like “what would you do with me?”

Don’t use your personal blog as your findom one. I see a lot of people posting photos saying stuff like “I’m going to make you worship me” and they reblog like 10 pictures of Spongebob memes, or even worse pictures of their children…. Just don’t.

Sex Work : Taking pictures 

When it comes to taking pictures, there isn’t exactly a wrong way to do them. You can’t and won’t ever take a picture so bad you will lose engagement. So don’t be afraid to try something new and post it. However you can improve on them. Pictures are your number one key to building a following and getting people to pay you. People will always search their desired tag on tumblr, and the first thing they will see is the picture, then the caption. And you want it to be good enough for them to go to your blog and look for more, and then wanting more. In this post i’m going to split it up into the 2 major sex work roles sellers and findoms. Sellers to talk about improving angles, lighting and overall quality, and findom about how to involve kink into your content to get people’s attention.

Thank you to everyone who let me use their pictures in this post!

Seller:

Someone who sells pictures and videos of themselves. So we are going to talk about overall picture quality here as this is what people are wanting. Is your room tidy? Does your underwear match? Are you taking the time to pose for the picture or just taking a quick selfie in the mirror? These little things can make a huge difference, if you put effort into your picture, then it will show, and it makes you look way more professional too. Now for positioning and angles. It’s way better to prop your camera up and have it on a timer rather than holding the camera yourself. Again making you look more professional, but it also allows your body to be in many more positions. Holding your camera can be restrictive especially trying to take pictures from behind or anything below. All your content will end up looking the same. For example if you are someone who takes pictures of their feet a lot and you aren’t putting the camera up. Then I can guarantee all your pictures look the same, almost everyone has taken a picture of their feet looking down, but if that’s all you are doing your content is going to be very repetitive. I would question buying pictures from you as I know those pictures won’t be any higher quality than what you’re already showing.

Just like these two pictures below by @baddxst you can see two different angles, one on the left taken by propping the camera up and having it low down. On the right holding the camera and taking it from the front. With the left picture because its from the side you can see that curve a lot more easily. Because of the camera angle and light you can also see that shadow curving on her as well, and also adding in her heels just makes the picture very aesthetic. Really amazing picture. The right picture you can tell the camera is being held, it’s a tad blurry and her body is twisted trying to turn around. Again because of the direct angle its a little hard to see her curve and detail. An extra note is, notice how she is filling up the whole frame of the picture, getting really close to the camera. Her main focus of the picture is both legs and ass and she gets the both fully while having them in the center of the picture as well.

Another example of good angles is by @bellarobinss using the upward angle and looking down at the camera. You can feel like she is really stepping on you, and this good because she is now involving the view with the picture too (known as a POV picture) which is not easy to do. It’s really engaging seeing such unique view. If you were to buy something from her, you know what you will be getting is worth it.

Going back to the first point of making sure your background is clean and looks like you put effort in, @cantbeatamed takes that to another level. Making this beautiful backdrop for her photoshoot. Reminds us all that while you are the main focus of the picture, there is always more going on that can bring everything together. Would these pictures really get as much attention if it was the same outfit and pose but just done in a mess bathroom? Probably not. Putting in this much work for a photo really pays off. @cantbeatamed also knew that while having pretty lights in the backdrop, there will need to be a stronger brighter light facing her to avoid her being a silhouette and having an overall sharper image…

Lighting is really important too, you always want the light in front of you, if its from a window you can get very bright and natural light, you can use your room light which may give you a very soft and loving look to your pictures like with @baddxst picture. Or you could buy some professional lights, which you should do if you are living off just selling. It does greatly improve your pictures. Pictures will be a lot sharper and it also allows you to take pictures in more unique places like somewhere that doesn’t have much natural light. It’s also allows you to shoot at night. You can always tell if a picture is taken at night even if there’s lights on. You can also manipulate the light so it casts a light shadow over you, making your boobs and butts a lot more rounded too.They are not that expensive either like this Abeststudio light for £30.

Findom:

Someone who uses bdsm fetishes and controls submissives. Pictures can be taken much like sellers, propped up camara, good lighting, sexy posing.

However as you are a domme you can add even more into your pictures. You also don’t have to worry too much about teasing and censoring your pictures, a seller has to do that as they want people to pay for more. However as a domme what people want is you and to have a kinky session, not necessarily more pictures. So its ok to show off a little more.

Firstly you can add fetishes into your pictures, these can be simple things like putting your middle finger up, making the L shape, spitting, pointing down at your boots. Or if you have toys definitely show them off, chastity keys, dildos, strap-on, whips and so on. This shows you are confident as a domme, that you’re experienced and know what you’re doing.

For example @goddesskatzchen (left) looking very menacing holding the knife, you can immediately tell she’s in to what she is doing and what type of domme she is.

Also @sadistsclub (right) showing off her beautiful whip, again you can immediately see she loves what she is doing and you can tell she has a lot of experience doing it too. Put the effort in to look the part and to show she can play definitely the part. With both of them you know you won’t be let down, they are genuine with what they offer and not some insta domme. 

Of course the more fetishes you offer, the wider audience you are going to attract. And if you’re going to start doing more fetish based pictures, definitely take a bunch of one type of kink. If a submissive sees a picture of you holding chastity keys, but then can’t find anything else about it, they may go off and find someone else anyway. So always keep a collection. You can also edit your pictures in some other ways, often sellers wish to be cute and bright, however as a findom you may be interested in a darker setting, harsher shadows, black and white pictures ect.

Onto outfits now, almost everyone skips out on this part and just takes pictures in the underwear they wore that day. Which if you’re good at taking pictures its ok. But if you’re taking a selfie in your average underwear, well so is everyone else. You may struggle to get a good audience.

But here we have @phoenix-findom-goddess with an amazing example of how to do it. She was the first person I thought of when it came to clothing and I was going to to try and feature another person. However it was really hard to find anyone who also made an effort to look the part. Is this the reason why is a popular domme? Certainly not the only reason however definitely got her very noticed in the findom community. It’s a simple outfit too but looks very domme and seductive. That’s exactly what a domme does, remember your audience is submissive. Would they rather see women in her underwear or someone in leather jacket holding a whip? Again like I have said many times in this post, if you put the effort into your pictures, you look the part. You will look way more professional and you will get a lot more attention.  

for everyone in my asks wondering what’s going on, please spread the word that as of December 17th Adult Content will no longer be allowed on tumblr.

A catalogue of popular tags to use:

Bdsm roles:

Femdom, dominatrix, mistress, dom, domme, alpha, master, sexy mistress, hot mistress, strict mistress, female domination, female supremacy, female superiority, female power, goddess, findom, findomme, financial domination, queen, ebony goddess, owner, daddy, mummy, pet, slave, submissive, sub, little.

Findom:

Findom, financial dom, financial domme, financial domination, paypig, pay pig, pay piggy, cash cow, atm, human atm, cash slave, finsub, money slave, finslave, sugar baby, wallet rinse, tribute.

Feet:

Feet, sexy feet, hot feet, foot fetish, toes, foot worship, foot licking, heels, shoes, high heels, soles, barefoot, socks, boots, foot dom, smelly feet, dirty feet, trample, trampling.

Ass:

Ass, butt, butts, big ass, big booty, sexy ass, hot ass, bubble butt, bubble bum, ass worship, round ass, asshole, rimming, ass licking, tight ass, twerking, facesitting, smother, smothering, butt plug, anal, gape, gaping, spread.

Boobs:

Boobs, boobies, tits, tittys, big boobs, small boobs, big titty, tiny tits, hot boobs, sexy boobs, topless, nipples, tease, pierced nipples, breasts.

Body:

Nude, naked, legs, thick, thighs, hips, belly, curvy, lips, pussy, tight pussy, hairy, blonde, redhead.

Clothing:

Boots, heels, high heels, latex, leather, fishnets, lingerie, corset, tights, yoga pants, leggings, parties, underwear, pantyhose.

Fetish:

Humiliation, degrading, degrade, torture, forced, denial, punishment, bondage, spanking, pegging, strapon, strap on, dildo, cbt, ball busting, spit, spitting, censored porn, teasing, diaper, blackmail, expose, exposed, public, watersports, hardsports, human toilet, human furniture, human ashtray, mind fuck, hypnosis, mind control, brainwashing, flr, edging, goon, gooning, gooner.

Sissy:

Sissy, forced fem, forced feminization, feminization, crossdressing, femboy, cuck, chastity, chastity cage, caged, locked up, male chastity, keyholder, tease and denial, sph, cei, sissification, jerk off instruction, joi, forced bi, bimbo, bimbofication, bimbo transformation, snowbunny, blacked, queen of spades, BBC.

Other:

Cute, hot, sexy, teen, fit, young, beautiful, captions, fetish, bdsm, ddlg, petplay, kink, kinky, horny, bitch, whore, slut, wet, milf.

Tags not to use:

Paypal, pay me, buy my content, selling, selling nudes, but my Snapchat, serious buyers only, message me, pay pigs wanted.

Staying safe for online sex workers: You meet a lot of people in this line of work, and sometimes not very nice ones. These are a few ways on how to stay safe.

  Use a different name: An obvious one but people still do it.   Use a different location: You need to use a different city, its very easy to find people on Facebook when they know the location.   Use different pictures: You can reverse Google image search, and search the Internet for other places that imagine is. This is the biggest reason why sex workers get exposed, they used the same social media pictures on their sex work pages. Make sure all your pictures are different.  

Use a sex work only email: Some social media sites allow people to search for users if they the email address. You should be using a different email but turn this off just in case as well.

I make the men submit and the girls jealous.