Love life.

When you finally let go, it is like opening your front door and seeing yourself standing there again. Welcome home, it’s been so long.

Some men push the button as far as saying that porn is actually ‘feminist’ because women make more money than men in the industry. To which I reply that men in porn are paid to orgasm, while women are paid to suffer, which is why they deserve and receive a higher monetary compensation. But money is a bad substitute for dignity and body integrity. I am tired of men who, by wanting so hard to justify their porn use without acknowledging the harm done to women, over-rationalise some aspect of it while closing their eyes to the obvious. And when we ask them if they would like to be treated like the women in porn, they say ‘of course not, but that does not mean that those girls don’t, it is not because YOU won’t like these things to be done to your body that THEY do not like it’. Because ‘those girls’ are so different then us, regular human beings… The fact is that women have been brainwashed to think that enduring pain is an integral part of their duty of performing femininity. Women harm their feet to walk in high heels. Women voluntarily submit themselves to painful surgeries to have bigger breast. They go through painful waxing procedures. Women are good women when they overcome their pain with a smile. And now, thanks to porn, girls are seeking advice on the internet about how to give deepthroated blowjobs without puking and how to make anal sex less painful. Men are never expected to do such things…

"Cancer/mental illness/disability affects rich and poor alike."

Social determinants are the most important part of your health.  Any disease affects people with a lower socioeconomic status moreso than those with a higher SES.  Everyone should watch the documentary Unnatural Causes.  Gordon's "tips" for better health:

"John Lennon Syndrome"

Sometimes I remind myself that I almost skipped the party, that I almost went to a different college, that the whim of a minute could have changed everything and everyone. Our lives, so settled, so specific, are built on happenstance.

bellecs:

When someone tells me they're "not political"

We do not escape into philosophy, psychology, and art—we go there to restore our shattered selves into whole ones.