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Are worth one of these:

The answer is I don’t know. No one knows. Everyone’s way is different.

But what I do know is that:

You have to want it. You have to 100% want it.

You won’t always feel like you want it. And it’s okay. Your mind is playing games with you. 

Relapses are normal, relapses are okay. But you have to pick yourself up again.

You will have days when you feel like you’re 100% recovered and then week later you just want to restrict/starve/purge again. It’s okay. Remember how far you’ve come and don’t let yourself down. 

It will be an emotial rollercoaster, but much more pleasant than ED itself.

It is 100% worth it. Noone ever said “I wish I didn’t recover.” 

This chibird charged the 2021 good luck charm by drinking warm tea, humming Animal Crossing music, and watching videos of baby corgis. ✨ There’s no way it’s not effective! I’m wishing you all a bright start to the new year. 💛

I’m not trying to be like “ohoho look at me I’m such a good friend”, I’m saying the second I stopped going “I wish I had friends who would invite me to tea parties” and just. hosted the tea parties myself? I still got to do the thing. I still got to see my friends. I still got to be happy with them.

It’s a lot of energy, I get that. Especially if you’re putting in all this effort, but not getting any back.

But I think that’s the reason no one does it. I mean we’re so worried we’ll start doing all these things and our friends won’t like it or won’t be into it, so we just don’t.

Only last week my friend messaged me, asking if I wanted to go stargazing with her. When I forget about our weekly virtual tea party, another friend called me to ask if I wanted them to host it this week.

I’ve been invited on hikes and picnics and pie making competitions over zoom, and it all sort of started with me going out of my way to be “that friend”.

Christmas is coming so here are some tips you may find useful. Can be used for any occasion, not only Christmas! 

Some of them I did myself and they made the reciever very happy. Have fun with this, inspire yourself! 

Handmade:

Bottle filled with their favourite candy  

Homemade nutella

Painted mug with mug cake recipe and tiny bit of ingredients inside

mermaid blanket made from 2 blankets (it IKEA they have very cheap blankets)

Cute handmade stuffed animal (lots of easy tutorials on youtube!)

Homemade cookies in a pretty jar 

Voodoo doll keychan 

Succulent in painted flowerpot

Bag/backpack from old clothes 

Tiny envelopes with nice messages/memories

CD/tape with your own playlist

Bullet journal

Tiny book with small things to be happy about

Homemade skincare products (scrubs, masks) 

Pillow (you can paint the cloth)

Surprise box (there are loads of great tutorials on youtube)

Cookbook with your personal favourite recipes (you can write it in nice notebook or sew your own book from quality paper) 

Pretty painted invitation for a coffee/movie etc. 

Using your pictures and photos:

memory game from your photos

Your photos in painted frame

Little book with pictures with your comments to them 

Mug with a photo (Better than T-shirts, they usually don’t look nice)

Collage on a notebook 

Puzzle from your photo (you can cut a big photo or get it done somewhere) 

Bought:

Go through second hands, you can find nice stuff there - then you can make for example nice winter set - gloves, beanie and a sweather. Make sure to wash them! Also don’t buy underwear or socks at second hands. 

Candle set - there are a lot of nice smelling candles that you can find for a very good price, take some and with a little decorating and nice packaging you got yourself a candle set 

Nail set - again, you can find good and cheap nail polishes, some file and nail clippers, stickers etc. 

Art set - art supplies can be very expensive, but if your friend isn’t a professional, some coloured pencils and antistress colorbooks will are a cute gift

Bathing set - bath bombs, scrubs, soap,..

Honestly set of any kind, they can be found very cheaply and you can play with the packaging to make it look nice 

Look through secondhand bookshops! 

Phone case (you can also paint it)

Fairy lights (cheap at dollar store or pepco in Europe)

I'm allowed to make a big deal out of things that feel really big to me

I find this stuff fun so why not, haha.

Tell me:

Your story

Your zodiac sign

About your crush

Your pets name

Your favourite colour

Your favourite time of the year

About your day

Your secret

Or anything else!

Ask me:

This or this?

Mfk

Would you rather…?

About the best/worst day of my life

About something awkward that happened to me :D

Literally anything! haha

Send me:

Picture of your pet! 🐱 

Your favourite song

Your favourite meme

Your favourite TV show