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Loneliness is the biggest obstacle slowing down INFJs on the road to happiness. Overcoming INFJ loneliness is not easy. No other feeling causes so much anxiety and sadness. 

INFJs feel that one source of your loneliness comes from the knowledge that people they hold dear live many miles away // INFJs believe their full potential will only be fulfilled when they reach their dream and leave their current location. It will happen, but until then, feelings of loneliness and INFJs are stuck with each other.

INFJs often experience a unique kind of loneliness, because we want deep connections with others but we also need plenty of alone time // INFJs are naturally reserved and guarded when venturing out into the world. This tendency to hold back isn’t all that helpful if they are lonely and want to make connections with more people. 

Whether they initiated the conversation or not, many INFJs say that they have felt misunderstood by people when they tried to open up and expose who they really are // by simply expressing their true thoughts, feelings, and opinions, INFJs can intuitively pick up on the fact that many people don’t feel comfortable, interested, or familiar with what they are saying

For an INFJ, it is extremely tempting to want the ideal friendship to the point of being closed-off to anyone who doesn’t seem like a perfect match. Not only is it hard to find your kind of people, INFJs seem to be really picky on top of it because they know exactly what they want and expect from others. Settling or faking an interest in others so they can have more friends is not something that comes easy to them.