《Family Headcanons—— !! 》
《@rubldus sent: 💕😤⚰️🌟 //U KNOW I HAD TO DO THIS also saru hates all of his family but?? i'm interested in who he hates the least??? 》
What are your muse’s thoughts on parenting and being a parent even if they aren’t one?
Fushimi’s thoughts on parenting as a whole are rather ABSENT to be honest. He doesn’t really have much of an opinion. Like some people might be inclined to be wary of moms or dads because of their own experiences with a bad parent but he isn’t despite coming from a household with TWO differently abusive parents. This is mostly because he himself knows that it would be wrong to hold this comparison to others’ and he’s met caring parents before that loved him ( i.e. Yata’s mom ). At one point he even WONDERED what it was like to have a parent because his own were so horribly absent that it simply didn’t feel as if he had any— one was neglectful and the other abusive. Fushimi’s disconnect from them goes so far as to never call them mom or dad but instead “ that woman ” and “ that man ”.
Overall his thoughts are that one shouldn’t have a kid unless they’re READY and actually want one. Although he’s incredibly negative and has stated before that kids should learn heroes that come to save them AREN’T real, he also doesn’t believe they should go through what he has. They should be raised with love.
As for his thoughts on being a parent if he WERE one, well... He thinks it’s a mistake. Fushimi firmly believes that if there were anyone that shouldn’t ever be a parent it’s himself. It’s all due to how he was raised and how he IS that leaves there little belief that he would be a good dad. The truth of it is that he’s terrified of messing up— of fucking up the kid(s) and leading them to be the same as him or WORSE ! He knows he has issues and that things aren’t wholly right in his head even if he functions relatively well. Apart from the trauma his father gave him, there’s the fact he would see hallucinations of the damned man !
It’s a quiet hope for the kids to please, PLEASE not be anything like him.
He would truly love it if his kid grew up a little angel and overall the complete opposite of himself but that’s probably such a SLIM chance. It’s sad to think about how much Fushimi doesn’t want to be like his father. It’s practically the one thing in life that he wants and it would be a prevalent FEAR if he had a child. Honestly, he’d never forgive himself if things went wrong but the fact is that he wouldn’t be a bad parent ! Even if he thinks it shouldn’t be allowed of him, he’d be so insanely protective and just a little bit spoiling and you’d see this INCREDIBLE gentleness no one knew was possible of him. But there are other areas he’d lack in that would need his partner’s aid such as anything emotional. He’d try but...well he’s just not a sympathetic person and struggles immensely with others’ emotional situations.
How would/does your muse handle unruly, difficult or dangerous behavior from their children?
It’s not that Fushimi is a mean parent but he strikes me as the kind where one word is all you need to KNOW that you’ve fucked up ? It’s that natural ‘ no nonsense ’ and intimidating look that he has along with his lack of patience. If his kid is misbehaving he’ll put them in line quickly whether it means taking something away and NOT giving it back no matter the tears or restraining them himself until they calm down and stop making a fuss. He tries his best to not snap at them due to his constant fear of being a bad parent and BELIEVING that if he did, it would set him on that path. It’s hard. And were it any GROWN person he absolutely would have let them have it. He tries to correct them from the moment they start acting up so that it doesn’t continue or stick, but if his partner insists it’s okay in moderation he may allow it.
I’m not too sure what qualifies as dangerous behavior, but like I said before he’d be extremely protective of his kids. If they endangered themselves in any way or if something happened he’d be so SHAKEN and that could be displayed in a multitude of ways. It’s one of the only times he might actually yell at them. Afterwards he’d keep a close eye and probably limit what they’re able to do whether in his sight or not before he can TRUST they’d be okay on their own again. He doesn’t deal with these scares too well.
How would the loss of a family member affect them? Does it vary based on type of family member?
Well we do see how he handles his own father’s death which was... Not the best thanks to his hallucination at the time but overall Fushimi just DIDN’T care. Iirc his only thing against it was that he died from ridiculous circumstances ( not eating right ). He’s so far removed from his family that any one of them could pass away and not affect him in ANY sort of manner. The only reason he has lasting effects from his father’s is because the man abused him for YEARS. There’s the trauma and psychological aftereffects but that’s it. He’s not mournful and he’s not inclined to care in the slightest. If his mom were to die, maybe he’d show up to the funeral out of customs, but he wouldn’t shed a tear. This certainly doesn’t vary from family member to family member since again—— he’s so REMOVED from them. He doesn’t know anyone so personally to give a crap and he’s not sorry for it either.
Aya is probably the only one Fushimi would have some kind of reaction to since, as I stated in another hc, she’s the one person he hates the LEAST. But even her death wouldn’t have him crying or thinking over it for very long.
Who is your muse’s favorite family member, why?