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 Extroverted Intuition (Ne):

Motivated by feelings of interest or boredom

Attracted to novel ideas or different ways of seeing things

Has an unusual often sarcastic or off-color view of life

Good at making people think in different ways

Prone to intense interest in something for a limited amount of time

Easily distracted when disinterested, with random thought patterns

Boredom with too much ‘sameness’ of thought / no new ideas

Working on something or doing something most of the time

Tends to get things done very quickly once they start

Follows spur of the moment ideas

May adopt the role of a devil’s advocate

Irreverent, sarcastic, or witty sense of humor

Senses others’ greater potential and prefers thinking the best of them

Reads between the lines as to people’s motives, intentions, or behaviors

Often indecisive and hesitant to make firm decisions

Introverted Feeling (Fi):

Emotional but finds it difficult to ‘share feelings’

Prioritizes people’s emotional reactions in decision making

Desires a positive outcome for everyone involved

May hide true feelings behind sarcasm, wit, or humor

Believes in personal responsibility and fairness

Motivated through their sense of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’

Conflict-avoidance and dislikes aggression or confrontation

Uncomfortable when ‘forced’ to emote on demand

May be passive and hide from problems rather than confront them

Extroverted Thinking (Te):

Keen on accumulating factual knowledge on subjects of personal interest

Good at setting personal goals and reaching them (where interested)

Seeks organization but may struggle to be organized on their own

Prizes efficiency, hard on self for own inefficiency

Often explains the justification behind his/her actions/decisions/choices

Attracted to competent or logical people

Introverted Sensing (Si):

May be unaware of how self is impacted by bodily sensations

Peculiar preferences or tastes he/she is unable to understand or fulfill

May prefer the ‘familiar’ due to having positive associations with it

May make the same sensory mistakes all the time

Wants to be attractive but may lack a natural grasp of sensory appeal

Unaware of their own needs (exhaustion, hunger, etc) when working

It isn't easy, because they struggle with "sloth" (not doing what needs done because everything can wait a little longer).

But 3s know what they want from life and are driven to get it; they set and reach goals through steadily working toward that end. To strengthen your line to 3 means learning to identify what you want, creating a goal, and then forcing yourself to stay on track and/or do something to get closer to that goal, every day, even when it discomforts you, in the knowledge that what you want lies at the other side of this discomfort. Discomfort is necessary for personal growth -- it means you are actually getting somewhere, so instead of avoiding or pushing away from it, take a breath and lean into it.

To be honest, when someone says I can't find my wing, it's usually because they're not the type they think they are, or they don't know what the wings are doing. Some 9s have access to both wings, but I think the crux of your question lies in... why does the 9 feel they have to justify being angry? Anger is just a state of being, a normal reaction to a situation, and does not necessarily lead to crying, even in rage.

"Crying" does not mean regret. It can mean I'm furious right now.

So, WHY is the person being assertive to avoid their feelings?

To numb themselves out? 9.

To escape from an emotion that they do not want to sit with? 7.

9w1s have a wing that tells them GOOD PEOPLE DON'T DISRUPT THINGS FOR OTHERS OR CAUSE A FUSS UNLESS IT'S FOR THE GREATER GOOD (1 wing, measuring all I do by whether it is justified and whether my anger is being channeled into a useful correction of others).

9w8s don't have this super-ego; they are just angry, and if you get upset about it, that sounds like a YOU problem, because you transgressed my boundaries and pissed me off, so I shoved you back into your literal or proverbial lane and now want you to leave me alone.

Your ask sounds more 9w8 than 9w1, for sure.

Your wing gives a specific "flavor" to your core type, and is why you differ from others who share your type. 9w1s are flavored to super-ego and moralizing, but in a quietly disapproving way; 9w8s are "I ignore you until you upset me, and then I explode to make you back off."

And I didn’t want to mix media/posts with the other types but I can’t help myself. So here’s a little series of quotes from film/TV for each type #.

Type One.

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Type Three.

Type Four.

Type Five.

Type Six.

Type Seven.

Type Eight.

Type Nine.

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