fatally falling for you

I don’t want anyone to feel upset that what they sent is public, and if I do post an ask that you meant to have me respond to personally, then please message me. I will try my best to take it down as soon as I see your message. I’m not on here often so it might take longer then preferred, so please be aware of this before you send an ask

I'm not in a relationship currently but it's not something I'm seeking out atm. My mindset is that it'll happen when it's meant to happen, and I'm perfectly content being on my own for now : ) I'm also in a much better place mentally which is great

I see that there's still some activity on my posts. I'm happy to see that some folks are still relating to my quotes and feeling less alone with them!

A main factor in why I didn't post for so long was because I moved on from my past crushes and didn't have feelings again for anyone until a couple years ago. It lasted several months, and caused a lot of confusion and emotion for me since they reciprocated but ended up ghosting later. I didn't get the closure I needed until months later when they reached out trying to be friends and that quickly went poorly haha.

Pro tip: don't let someone back in that ghosted you lmaoo

I've have a couple minor crushes since then but they went away quickly so nothing worth writing about tbh. Anyway, it's been nice to reflect on my life from when I wrote these posts compared to now.

Hello anon! I’m extremely sorry for not responding sooner. I’m sure this advice would’ve been more helpful a lot sooner but hopefully this can help any other people in the same situation as you.

First, remember that it’s totally okay that you’re feeling this way, and your feelings are valid. You can’t control the way you feel about someone, so please don’t feel guilty for the way you feel.

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I know it’s easier said than done, but I think you should just tell him. It’s cliche, but honesty is the best policy, and I’m sure he’d appreciate hearing the truth about your feelings sooner rather than later. It’s best to tell him now, take some time to process everything, and move on. It may sting now, but it’ll save both of you the trouble of future heartbreak before he gets more invested in the relationship than you.

I understand wanting to protect his feelings, especially because you say that he’s such a good guy, but I believe that the best decision is to ultimately end things now. You have to focus on your feelings and what will be more beneficial for the both of you.

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I see it this way: do you think he’d prefer to know that you’ve fallen out of love with him now, experience the emotions of a breakup, and then move on with his life?

Or

do you think he’d prefer to be blissfully unaware that you don’t love him the way he loves you, have him spend days, weeks, months, or even years thinking that you’re enjoying the relationship just as much as he is, only for him to find out further down the line that you were pretending for some time that you still loved him and enjoyed staying in the relationship?

I’m sure that most people would prefer the first choice. Like I said previously, it’ll hurt now, and I totally understand that. I also understand that you don’t want to hurt him, but you have to rip off the band-aid and save yourselves the time and effort of staying together. You shouldn’t feel guilty for this since it’ll most likely be better for you both in the long run.

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I’m sorry for not posting for about 6 months, I haven’t been feeling any inspiration for things related to crushes/love/relationships/etc that I can write quotes about. Hopefully I can get some inspiration soon and make more quotes for you all to read!

I always give in

to give you it all”

Hello! Sorry if this is a late response

It’s gonna be tough, I’m sure you know this. Feelings are really difficult and can take some time to get over.

I understand that you want to keep him in your life but that probably isn’t the best for you. It won’t help trying to get over him if you’re both constantly talking. It’s like “Out of sight, out of mind.” If you’re not interacting with him, he should stop showing up in your mind after some time. Yes it might be tough at first but you should move on faster if you’re not talking with him.

If he’s bringing you sadness, then you shouldn’t make yourself go through that. Even if he wasn’t someone you loved, you don’t wanna surround yourself with people that make you feel down. It’s not good for your mental health and isn’t helpful in trying to let go. If you want to stay friends then it should be when you’re over him because it’ll just hurt you if you keep acting like everything’s all fine

Make sure you let out your emotions, write them down, talk to people that you trust, cry it out, take care of yourself, whatever will help. Let yourself feel the feelings because bottling it all up will backfire in the long run. I’m sure it hurts that he doesn’t feel the same but it’ll get better. It might not seem like it right now but trust me, you’ll get there :)