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me when i am on my mutuals' blogs 👀👀👀 #LetsTakeALook👀 #Observing👀

A large part of the reason families were bigger in the past was because marital rape was not considered rape and birth control/abortion methods were ineffective, dangerous and/or illegal. We can dance around this and act like our great great great grandmothers just loveddddd being mamas so much that they decided out of their own free will to have 11 children. We can pretend that they DECIDED to have big families because it was a financially advantageous decision so they could have more labor around the farm. But a lot of children in the past were fundamentally unwanted and not conceived out of love, children were not a choice women got to make. We need to admit that and stop pretending historical women were inherently more maternal because they were impregnated at the age of 15 and kept having babies until they were 40. That did not make them loving mothers, it did not make them ‘the divine feminine’ and it sure did not make them happy.

It’s literally like…… help!! lol. help me!!!! haha.

and i am sure these people have substantive critiques of taylor and that's really fine that does not upset me but it's just like i cannot find peace.................. every time i complain about this, really well-meaning people show up to be like 'you just have to tailor your algorithm <3' and like yes i do that, that is important, but it does not solve for the ever-present 'this person whose commentary completely unrelated to the music industry i generally really respect has some kind of personal vendetta against taylor seemingly because they simply don't like her general vibes and have decided that means she's the perpetual butt of the joke' and perhaps i'm just a little baby for being so annoyed about it but that is my cross to bear in this life i guesss lol