Musings of a Faerie Doll

At one point I said, "Dude. You were raised Catholic, for fucks sake. Do you not remember how to perform an Act of Reconciliation?"

He did not. He thought that saying he was a bad person was all that was required. So I reminded him:

Admit that you did something wrong.

Explain that you understand what you did wrong and that you are sorry you hurt someone with your choices.

Make a plan to reconcile with the person you hurt. What can you do to make it up to them? What will mend the broken trust, or restore the damage?

Sometimes step 3 becomes "leave the offended party alone." Accept that you might not be able to reconcile.

The reason why this process was codified into a religious ceremony was to teach this practice!!

It's not a "what you are" conversation, it's a "what you did" conversation.

And here's the best presentation about it:

[Image ID: The Destiel confession meme edited so that Dean answers 'JK Rowling posted upskirt photos of a woman on Twitter' to Cas 'I love you'. /End ID]

No one doing this should be allowed to call themselves a feminist.

Here's what I need you to do:

If you see a post with a "mature content" label, and it's 2026, DM me a link to the post.

Yes, that's really it.

I am hoping to collect several thousand such posts, so that I have a decent sized dataset. I do not care what the post is about; if it's labeled as "mature content", I want to add it to my dataset.

What's your hypothesis, OP?

I am not talking about that unless I have results to share. That would bias the results.

I did write them down and I did share them with a trusted contact who can prove that I wrote them down the same day I made this post. (While I did so before I made this post, I am not sure they will be able to provide proof of that, because I did so on the same day.)

OP are you interested in...?

Do you have to click through to see the post? Does the clickthrough contain the words "mature content"? Then yes.

OP are you interested if the post is about...?

Should I reblog this for reach?

Yes, please. I felt really silly when I noticed I forgot to include that in the original post.

Is it okay if I send you my own posts?

Yes, those are perfect for what I'm looking for. I actually need to do some processing on a post to make it useful for testing my hypothesis, and this makes it easy.

Are you looking for "potentially mature content" also, or just "mature content"?

I want both, please. Anything that throws up a blocking screen that you have to click through. The distinctions between them are one of the things I am hoping to study.

Does it matter when the post was made originally?

Technically no. There's no way to respond to this without introducing some bias in the results, and I don't want that. However, I do collect some data on a post as part of making it useful to me, and that data is easier to collect if the post is recent.

What if I request content label review on a post after I send it to you?

I need to see the mature content label to be able to use the post. Because the mature content label hides the content of the post, it is very hard to use a post that no longer has a mature content label. You could send me a screenshot, but people could use that to lie to me.

Basically, it's more work for you to make it usable to me.

OP are you a transphobe? It would ruin the experiment for me if you're a transphobe.

and I made this within 5 minutes of returning. so I think that sums up my thoughts on it. (though im willing to rant more if ppl want it. cause I have COMPLAINTS)

OP is absolutely correct. If you think you know which cup is 1/3 cup and which is 1/4 cup after the marks are gone just by glancing at it, you are wrong. You will be digging out every measuring cup you own and stacking them together like a toddler toy and doing weird math in your head.

I know this because it happened to me. I've been baking since the 1970s. I've been baking unassisted since the 1980s. I bought a measuring cups/spoons set in the 90s. It was my first complete set purchased on my own. And one day I saw that two of the cups no longer had their markings on them. Eventually they all lost their markings. They are chaos incarnate.

(since I can't throw things away, I still have them; I use them as scoops in places like the big rice bag or the flour canister. But we do not measure with them.)

When my eldest kiddo went to college I offered any of the sets of measuring cups/spoons from the kitchen, except the blank ones. And that became the lesson; only buy the kind with engraved/raised relief measurements on them.

Also saved in our archive

I blasted away all the peer pressure vulnerability years ago. It was one of the ways that the bullies were hurting me. I was in a cave, bleeding and wounded and having ridiculous demands being made, so I built Iron Man armour and blasted my way out of there.

Here is his baby picture:

it installs a user-login-time "startup" executable that ignores any windows directives to disable it on startup. doing so only removes the even-more-malicious taskbar-icon-creating advertisement-notification-creating process. no matter what you do, the sleeper "updater" process starts when you log in, and runs perpetually

it sends & receives encrypted network traffic both periodically and non-periodically. both are bad, both are suspicious, and a program doing both is more suspicious than the sum of their parts. and to boot: acrobat will polymorphically edit its code after such network activity

this isn't new: it has always done this. now, it does not even do the thing it is meant to: provide a way to interact with documents, which is amongst the very first features computers were built to provide. you can merely open PDFs and read some of their content in the narrow space between the requests for adobe to give them your money, and interface for features you cannot use (because you don't) or do not, have not, and will not ever need

adobe and microsoft would very much like the user's cultural norms around computers to allow for advertisement built into the local software and even operating system itself. the web being 100% advertisements was not enough! sure enough, acrobat will hijack the windows notifications system thing to give you the 2026 equivalent of pop-ups

i don't really know enough about windows software equivalents, so i'll paypal $20 to the first person that reblogs this with a list of 3-5 PDF reader/editor/etc acrobat equivalents that meet the following criteria:

open source, locally-built executables must match checksum of prebuilt distributed executable

no paid features/premium version/subscription/whatever

not a toy hobby project thing, must be windows-users-proof

KDE Okular: is a decent viewer and can also do basic annotations, and is so not-a-toy that you can even download it on the Windows app store.

And from this I’ve always drawn two conclusions:

To always distrust Mr. Beast and his ilk who always want their acts of charity done on film, because the people who really want to do good and have no motives to do it besides the doing it never want recognition for it, and