Musings of a Faerie Doll

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GOD, I wish more doctors were more like this redditor's dad

Maybe the most damming thing about Nolans odyssey is i haven’t seen a single gifset from it

I'm always seeing this sentiment of "I have got to make my art weirder" or people begging for weirder art but here's the thing, Weird is not a brand. You cannot rack your brains trying to figure out the "Weird" formula. You don't get weird art by artificially forcing whatever you think is "weird." You get weird art (and I think "weird" is sometimes people groping for a way of saying non-corporatized) by figuring out what you like, deep down, even (especially) if you think it's embarrassing and wallowing in it like a pig

And on yesterday’s topic of personal grooming, at the risk of sounding like a looksmaxxer, you really do feel better when you feel like you look better. Putting the slightest bit of effort into your appearance can do wonders for your mental health. There is a reason every single culture on earth has grooming and styling standards and cultural forms of personal adornment and (often) bodily modification. I’m autistic and chronically ill and depressed and it is something I’ve experienced first hand. Not having the strength or desire to put effort into my appearance is demoralizing and then I’ll get dressed and style my hair and put on jewelry and a little glam rock makeup and realize it does make me feel better. These are things in my control, my appearance, things that I can change and tweak to make me feel better about myself even when the changes run counter to societal expectations and trends. There are a lot of men who feel like they are ugly (or have a sense of toxic masculinity that makes them feel like they shouldn’t groom themselves because it is somehow only for women) who would feel better if they just got a haircut and a new shirt. Not only is practicing basic hygiene when going out in public and dressing appropriately for events common courtesy but it does make you feel better about yourself. Get that haircut, get that tattoo, get that piercing, wear something weird.

And on the topic of a friend’s ugly boyfriend, I want to say that a lot of what I think makes these people hideous isn’t inborn characteristics they cannot change. Ugly has a more nebulous definition in the south. A friend’s ugly boyfriend shows up to meet his girlfriend’s friends for the first time with a terrible haircut and unwashed hair, wearing an unwashed Marvel shirt and cargo shorts not because he had no access to a shower or a laundromat but because he felt no need to put any effort into his appearance and try to make a good impression on her friends because he truly does not care. People who care about a new partner try to impress them, they try to groom and style themselves to be more attractive, they do the bare minimum and take a shower before going to a convention. Cishet men in straight relationships tend to be more likely to severely drop the ball on grooming and styling habits when it would be common decency to make an attempt to look good. It is sad when a woman spends hours getting ready and doing her hair and makeup for a date and picks an outfit she thinks is cute because she wants to look good and she wants him to like her and the guy is a total slob who wasn’t trying to be appealing and wasn’t willing to inconvenience himself enough to put on a clean shirt. Jesus fucking Christ, take a shower, put on a little cologne, style your hair and wear a nice shirt or something. Your dad was doing it in the 80s. There are YouTube tutorials if you don’t know what to do.

Imo the best type of system for children to grow up in would be one that assumes the birth parents/primary guardians won't do shit and takes care of every aspect of childcare that's essential for their wellbeing and development, collectively.

But I'm just a guy who only learned how to brush his teeth properly and got glasses as a child because we had both a dentist and a doctor come to school on a regular basis. The dentist would have us all stand in a circle with our little toothbrushes and show us how to brush and correct our technique. The doctors would give us general health assessments and then have the teachers contact our patents and essentially peer pressure them into getting us any health intervention we needed. My parents only reluctantly got me glasses because they knew the teachers would judge them if they kept seeing me sit in the very front row and still squint to see the chalkboard. So I'm biased.

see also family abolition, and youth liberation .

Also sometimes parents become disabled or die and family can't always be counted on, and sometimes there isn't other family

[ID: excerpt from an article reading: One of my favorite stories, which should drive anyone who has every played in a band crazy-- there’s this bassoon player who has sat next to the same clarinet player since 1988. She’s convinced he plays half a note4 flat on every note he’s every played. He denies this. /]

Ebroiderers are to be feared, for their precision, dedication, and patience to stab something many MANY times.