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Chastity Rules

Basic Rules for beginners. The key is to be very strict and follow every rule.

1. Take control of his orgasms • He must wear a chastity device 24/7. • You should lock his chastity cage and only you should be the “KeyHolder”. You can also use a numeric padlock. • Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing. • Emphasize that he will never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm OR erection! without your permission. • He must experience ruined orgasms.  This emphasizes your control and stimulates his frustration. • He may only cum when wearing a buttplug and your panties. You may also gag him. • Peg him, make him cum like a real sissy • Milk his prostate • Always restrain his hands(handcuffs or rope) when letting him out of his cage. Many guys will resist after an orgasm or take control when you edge/ruin them.

Everytime you let him cum, you must ruin him. After that you make him eat his cum. You can edge him and forbid him to orgasm. You have to learn him that he may not orgasm. If he does then you have to make him eat his cum. 

Ruined -> Eat it Accidently -> Eat it

Only tease and edge! Edge every day!

2. Chastity devices • Make him buy secure permanent devices like the jailbird, holy trainer or metal cages with urethra plugs. Make sure you get the right size so he cannot escape. You can make many devices escape proof with medical glue. The best option is a PA. It is recommended to glue his foreskin with superglue so he won’t attempt to escape. This does not damage the skin but lays a sticky layer for 1 week. • The best devices can be worn 24/7 and only need cleaning every other day. He can clean it in the shower by putting soap in his cage and apply a full jet of the shower head right in the cage. it will clean his penis thoroughly. No need to take him out • Shaving can perfectly be done while wearing the device. Just move it a bit to reach the hard to reach spots. • If he has to clean his penis manually for a reason. Do it under supervision or tell him that only you may touch his penis. He is not allowed to play by himself. • Draw you name on his dick before putting him in the cage. That way you can check if he cheated or not! For him it is mind boggling not touching a body part for over a month when he used to touch it every hour.

3. Get into his head! • Learn his fantasies and what turns him on. • Tease him with his fantasies whenever possible. • Make him wear your panties all the time. Skirts, stockings, socks everything to make him remember he’s your slut at work or wherever he goes. • Make him sign these rules without letting him read it. He may experience the joy of chastity. • He must promise he will follow the rules strictly. You may threaten to leave him if he doesn’t. He will make up his mind soon enough. • Explain to him that he will only receive prostate orgasm. Sissies should cum like real girls. • Make him shave his WHOLE body! Nothing better then feeling a soft body next to you in bed at night. It will grow back so he has to maintain it.

4. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible. • Taunt him.  Dress sexy • Talk sexy and dirty to him. • Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating. • Fondle him or let him fondle you. • Make him wear a buttplug or prostate massager everytime you go out. • Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual. • Make him give you orgasms frequently. • Edge him • Milk his prostate

5. Make him do something humiliating and learn when he will do anything for you. • Tease him to the edge then command the most humiliating activities.  He will do them. • Make him wear a butt-plug for a time. • Train him to submit to your strapon.   • Make him be naked when you are not. • Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum after your ruin his orgasm no matter where it is deposited. Sit on his face after a creampie or feed him off your hand or french kiss him!

6. No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to taunt him. • Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private). • Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear. • Make him shop for lingerie or toys for you. • Leave notes with instructions like: “I want to see you caged and plugged with these when I get home”

7. Control your own feelings of guilt.

• He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your    permission. • If you feel he deserves an orgasm… Ruin it! • Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one. • Full orgasms should be for very special occasions (no more than 3 or 4 per year).

Extra sissy rules:

• A sissy must wear panties. He does not own any male underwear. Take away his underwear and replace it. • A sissy may wear a bra and pink or brightly colored tights or leggings. Leggings and nylon are mandatory! • A sissy must sleep in lingerie. If he does not have any, he must sleep naked. • When alone, a sissy must dress as a girl. Good sissies wear lipstick while alone. • A sissy always keeps himself free of facial hair, and is otherwise well groomed. He must always be presentable, ready to please.  • Good sissies shave their legs • A sissy must never touch himself sexually without explicit permission from his Master or from his Muse • A sissy must wear as many lovely pink girly things as possible • Sissy must be in panties and a bra minimum at all times. • Sissy must keep shaved clean below the neck at all times. • Slave is not to masturbate with out permission, and when permission is given, it must be done in a slutty humiliating sissy way that reinforces my position.   

Some text to make him horny:

‘I love thinking about your cock in that cage

I’m thinking about you inside me right now, maybe I’ll let you tonight

Fancy a blow job? He replies yes. Shame you’ve got that cage on.

How are you going to convince me to unlock you tonight honey?

I’m really horny. Come and give me an orgasm, at least one of might as well

a list of tasks with ‘unlock cock’ as the final one lol

Chasity is a game of tease AND denial. If you are not teasing regularly with the denial, then you are just denying. And just the act of denial is neglect.

denial does not mean the absence of sexual activity. denial is specifically the denial of release and or orgasm. In fact, you should be participating in intimate activity regularly in order to keep Chastity game interesting for both of you.

If you’re having a hard time of thinking of things to do, here are some ideas:

Whenever you want in public or in private, make him pull out his cage so you can inspect it. Don’t just look at it. inspect it. grab it. take a picture of it. Kiss it. fondle it. put it away. This could be done at home while he’s driving or out in public.

When you’re apart, make him send you a picture of his cage.

If you’re out at dinner, play Footsy with it.

If you’re out dancing, grab it and play with it while you’re dancing

Give him a caged blowjob . In the bedroom, but other places too like while he’s driving. Or maybe crawl underneath his desk while he’s working and give him a cage BJ there.

Make him wear a butt plug for a certain period of time during the day. Tell him it’s to get ready for later when you plan to peg him or just tell him to wear it for fun even if you’re not gonna take him later it’s just fun to watch him walk around with it.

get a remote controlled but plug and use it at dinner, or use it like a service bell to let him know you need something.

Make him wear lingerie underneath his clothes when he goes out! There is nothing cuter than a pink cage, surrounded by a garter belt in stockings. Take a picture or a video to keep in your phone. This is especially fun if he’s going somewhere with his friends. Imagine his embarrassment while he has to wear his cute pink cage with a garter belt and stockings while he’s golfing! 🫢🤣 ⛳️

Put on your strap on and walk around the house displaying it. Then you can either use it or not either way it’s going to drive him crazy with anticipation. Maybe you just make him give it a blow job and then put it away. You could even watch TV while he does it. No need to interrupt your day.

Next time you’re going somewhere tell him that you’re going to drive. Surprise him when you pull out your strap on dildo and make him give you road head. (Maybe just drive around the neighborhood so it is safe). Take a video!

have him clean the house, naked and nothing but his Chasity cage. Or for extra bonus fun, making him dress up like a slutty maid and wait on you hand and foot. Have him get you a beer while he cleans waits on you while you catch up on your shows. Make him your little house wife. Use the remote controlled plug to beckon him for a refill. At some point bend him over the counter and give him a reward. make him wear a strapon over his cage. Jerk off his strapon or even give it a blow job.

ask him if he wants to be allowed to jerk off. When he says yes, have him put his strapon on and he can jerk off his strapon for as long as he wants.

Have him lay naked on the bed. Sit on him reverse cowgirl style and bounce back and forth on his cage like you were having sex and just make him watch. This will drive him crazy!

Bend over the bed in front of him and let him try to fuck you with the cage. Make a collection of photos of him in compromising situations (caged, dress in outfits, give you a bj, getting pegged, etc) and randomly text these photos to him just to remind him of his position as your slutty chastity slave.

does he use his phone too much? Make him put one of these pbotos as his background when he unlicks his phone. It will remind and humiliate him ever time he opens his phone but i guarantee it will also keep him from using his phone a lot more. Which is good because he should be focusing on you and his chores!

Tell him that you told one of your friends about his cage (or actually do!) but dont tell him who. He’ll constantly be wondering who it is and be so embarrassed around all of them. Schedule a text message with a picture of him sucking your strapon that will send to one of your friends in 1 hour (or whatever time) if he doesn’t get one of these chores done by that timeframe. You’ll never see a man move faster!

make him shave his whole body and keep it shaved (except during summer where others will see his shaved legs).

Paint his toe nails with gel nail polish (he wont be able to get if off even if he tries) or make him keep his own nails painted. get temporary tattoos and make him wear ones that say bitch, sissy, slut, princess, caged, a queen of spades symbol, or some other embarrassing thing. Make him give you naked massages every night.

wear the key to his cage around a necklace. Let people see it. If they know, the know 🤷‍♀️

hook the key to his cage around your garter belt or panties when you are having sex. Let him see it but not touch!

Make him watch you masturbate. make him show you his porn collection.

make him wear a strapon and jerk off to his porn collection.

(Taken from Chrissy B’s blog, but worth repeating!!!)

If you are into male chastity, it isn’t hard to find lists upon lists of the benefits of male chastity. As someone who loves the game of chastity there are some very serious side effects of chastity that some men experience that they don’t tell you about on those lists. Instead of a fun and kinky game, it can get dark and bitter FAST. This happens when chastity is done wrong.  What I say won’t apply to every situation or person. But if you are new to key holding, this might help you.

But first some highlights of the proven benefits of male chastity:

1. His desire for you will skyrocket

2. His libido doesn’t crash

3. Male masturbation is evil and this stops it

4. He’ll stay faithful to you

5. He’ll be more helpful around the house

This is the top 5 but you can easily find more. But we are here to mainly discuss the basis of every problem with chastity right now.

IGNORING HIM RUINS EVERYTHING

Yep. If you want chastity to work it means a lot more sex. A LOT more! But it isn’t the traditional type of sex. It is talking and tasks and receptive sex on his part. If as the key holder chastity is some kind of sexual oubliette where you throw your partner and forget about them then you are begging for problems and pain. The benefits of chastity only happen when you replace what you have taken away from him, with something more enticing than orgasms. And remember, that for most guys, they are biologically wired to do almost anything to cum! Mother Nature dedicates whole parts of the brain to sex and desire (for most all people) so you are working with some strong bio-magic. Be aware of what you are getting into. It has the power to raise sexual skyscrapers you didn’t know were possible but it can also ruin and destroy people and relationships. You know the phrase…. “With great power there must also come – great responsibility”.

So on to how we make those benefits a reality.

If you lock up his dick and then expect him to just start doing more house work you are a fool. Taking away a joy in life isn’t going to make someone more helpful. And it is just an abuse of the kinky relationship. Kink is about fun, house work is about necessity;

Now, how to do it right.

If you are in a male chastity relationship, make it part of the fun. Be explicit about what you expect and why. And tell him often…. more than that…. even more than that… Yes, daily, hourly. Whisper it in his ear, text him, email him, phone him at work….You get the idea. And then give him reasons to do more chores that relate to chastity. Trade time out or release for the floor waxed. Or he doesn’t remember the dishes and it is a ruined orgasm for you. You get the idea. Whatever your style looks like, use it. But for the sake of all that is kinky, play with it! Don’t ignore it. Don’t make them wait in silence for a someday. Follow through on what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it. And if that is more than 24 hours away, you are doing it wrong. An inconsistent or forgetful key holder is a bad key holder. And bad key holders make very bad chastity boys.

Now, how to do it right.

Use your words. Make a role-playing game out of it. Talk to him, often (see above) about how you love the power over his orgasms he’s given up, Talk to him about his poor denied cock or how you look forward to your next pegging session! You know your man and what buttons to push to make him excited. Use it. And use it often. If he isn’t getting to play with his dick then you need to play with his head. And far more often than he ever played with his dick. Whatever you do, help him remember why he made a vow to you and why you are worth the chastity.

How to fix this?

Welcome to the reoccurring theme of a fun, positive and kinky replacement. You are locking him up and taking away the right of orgasm. And like anytime someone locks up a natural animal you become responsible for their care and maintenance. You get to control when, AND HOW, he releases. It could be never. In that case, you have to find a suitable replacement that is applied at least as often as what you are taking away (i.e. masturbation… which can be multiple times a day for some guys). This replacement could be submissive acts, kinky words, edging, pegging, etc. And then the occasional ruined orgasm or miliking or prostate release. Whatever you do, make it fun (even in an evil way) and make it very frequent. And if it doesn’t result in frequent releases (kinky talk, submissive tasks, etc.) then it has to be as frequent as his normal masturbation schedule (if not more so).

DO NOT IGNORE HIM. Don’t forget him. Absence DOES NOT MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER. Constant teasing and torture and playing and edging and whatever other fun kinky things you do will. If it is done often it WILL make his libido skyrocket and bring out the fun, kinky side of him. He may get super submissive. He may beg. Plead. Claim he’s dying. :-) But he won’t be mad, depressed, and violent or feel forgotten. He will feel loved, owned and played with.

As the keyholder you have to uphold the illusion that:

you may never unlock him again and you couldn't care less if you ever do. their penis is unnecessary.

not only is their penis unnecessary but it is inadequate. it cums too quickly, it is too small, and it cannot compare to his tongue and doesn't even come close to matching his strap-on (which you should remind him, never cums too early and is much bigger and better)!

you prefer them locked in chastity bc they are a better man (more caring, more affectionate, more compliant) while their worthless small cock is locked away. unlocking them will only unleash their ego and ruin all the benefits of chastity that have taken so long to build.

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as a locked husband, he has to uphold the illusion that:

he is being forced to remain locked and will not ever be unlocked until (or IF) his keyholder allows it and there is nothing he can do about it.

he must obey her EVERY command no matter what.

he will comply with all of these things in order to earn an unlock (even though he probably really prefers to remained locked longer!).

It might be hard to understand, but for someone who wants to play this game, they don’t want to be unlocked. They want to be teased and denied relentlessly. That is the goal. The game that will be played is that you will constantly ask and beg and do things to become unlocked in hopes that the keyholder will not unlock you, and instead be mean tease and deny you. they get sexual gratification from this in and of itself. it sexually charges them and keeps the running at 110%.

he now derives his sexual gratification and pleasure from providing YOU with sexual gratification and pleasure.

it is important for you BOTH to play the game properly because you will both feed off of each other. a weak and inconsistent keyholder will breed an obstinate and defiant locked partner; a defiant and obstinate locked partner will undercut and demoralize a keyholder.

I edge my husband because:

-It’s what his body wants, whether his mind knows it or not -It’s more pleasurable for him to be edged and denied than for him to cum – simple biology -I can do this every day, and he’ll stay aroused and excited every time -He makes the sexiest noises when I edge him -I love watching his mind go numb with pleasure -He gets so stiff and hard for me, I can’t resist touching it, and I want him to stay that way as long as possible -He stays in a hypersexual state, always eager to pleasure me any way I want -It arouses me to see him lost in bliss -Edging him is so easy, and it gets easier every day I do it -I want him to be happy, and he’s obviously happy when he’s on the edge -I love that he trusts me with his most intimate, natural reflex, so I trigger it as often as possible (or almost-trigger it!) -He fucks me so hard after I edge him for a few days – he’s like an animal, I fucking love it! -He thinks of me all day and texts me the sweetest things -He works hard, doesn’t get enough respect, and deserves to “zone out” for a -while in my hands or mouth -It makes him dream about me, so I’m part of literally every moment of his life

And more, and more…