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k:

being in a relationship shouldn't take away your sense of self or your own life. that person is not your entire life.

loving someone won't make them choose recovery, nor can you force them to choose recovery. they have to choose it themselves. being in a relationship doesn't mean becoming that person's 24/7 therapist.

you deserve better. i deserved better than being hid by her family because she wasn't out yet. i deserved to be loved loudly and proudly.

don't give 80% only to get 20% in return. match the person's energy.

breakups can happen even if you still love each other.

breakups will always happen, it's not the end of the world. i thought i couldn't live without her, let alone breathe, but i can (even though it's painful).

your identity is not tied to the person you're in a relationship with. you should be able to be in a relationship AND have your own identity. if you lose your identity, then get out of that relationship.

you can't be in a lasting relationship for someone who cannot read/act your love language. you can't teach someone to read you when they're not even interested in learning your signals.

don't chase after people that let you go, even if they didn't want to let you go. just because they didn't want to doesn't mean you chase them--in the end, they did let you go.

you deserve someone who will go out of their way to love you loudly (or in a way that you appreciate/desire).

1. make a mug of tea, try to appreciate the silence. you can hear every bubble in the kettle if you really try. hold your cup gently, press it against your body. feel the warmth spreading. graze your knuckles against it, feel them sting. forget about it until its cold. sometimes tea isnt even about drinking it, it's just about having something to keep you company.

2. go out to lunch, because you decided you were going to. you dont need a reason to get your favourite food, youre allowed to do it! when the waitress asks you if you are waiting for someone, try not to cry.

3. realise how quiet lunch is when it's just you. you didnt bring anything to do, that was stupid. what was the plan? just eat too quickly, leave even faster. maybe next time bring a book or something, you know one of the ones youre always pretending you will read? yeah that one.

4. go see a movie! movies are a great way to pass the time. try not to look at the couples and friend groups. noone cares that youre alone, they probably dont even notice. try not to think about it. theyre not laughing at you just stop thinking about it.

5. take up a hobby, tumblr blogging or journaling or knitting or hoarding. it helps fill the time. arent the days just so long? its crazy how much time you have. youre looking at the clock too often, stop doing that! seriously, it just makes time go slower. why cant you just enjoy yourself? do you even like knitting? what do you like then? whatever i guess you can just go to sleep early.

hey mary take a sick ass photo of us

NEW DIGITAL ART COMMISSION SHEET!

fairly 2 reasons:

-i want to buy a house