⋆𐙚 ̊. probably why you’re stuck in a loop of not shifting
disclaimer! i’m not here to tell you that THIS is the only reason you’re not shifting, because fuck those kinds of posts! this is just my perspective on things and how i personally recognize when i’m back in the loop!
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𑣲⋆ how do you react when a method or your affirmation doesn’t seem to work?
most people would probably search for another method or change their affirmation to something better or stronger. but from my experience, that’s usually how you keep yourself in the loop of not shifting
because let’s say you’ve been affirming “i shift effortlessly.” you go to bed, do your thing, and then wake up here again the morning after. what’s your reaction to that?
do you move on with your day and continue to affirm that you can in fact shift effortlessly, or do you immediately return to the identity of thinking you need to do more? this is just one example of many, but the outcome is still the same:
what are you telling yourself when something doesn’t work?
because when you affirm throughout the day and then, right after waking up here again, you immediately think, “oh that didn’t work, i need to do more.” guess what you’re returning to?
𑣲⋆ why switching things can keep you in the loop
i’ve noticed that whenever something didn’t work out the way i wanted or when i’ve been affirming for days with little to no results, i immediately want to switch to something slightly better. and that’s what i’ve been doing for as long as i can remember
i’m not letting my method or affirmation stick and get familiar, because i keep changing whenever it doesn’t seem to work. and i think that’s where many of us accidentally sabotage it for ourselves because we don’t persist in our technique before replacing it with something else
every time we think something doesn’t work, we’re just reinforcing the belief that we still haven’t found the thing yet
every time i changed something, i was basically starting over mentally. i never really gave it a chance to become my default because of the fact that i kept replacing it with something else. how can something become familiar if i always change it? how can i build trust in myself if i keep trying to find something better?
𑣲⋆ the endless search for the answer
it’s almost like this constant search for the next solution is what gives us enough dopamine to keep going in our shifting journeys, instead of just sticking to one thing. there’s always thoughts like, “maybe this is the method that will work.” or, “maybe this is the affirmation that will click.”
that excitement is what motivates you. it feels exciting because you’ve found something that might finally be the thing!
but once it doesn’t give you immediate results, you’re back on square one again, searching for something else. and when that doesn’t work, you search for another method. you do that again.. and again.. and again. that’s the loop
you find something new, feel excited, wake up here again, then question what went wrong. you find something new, feel excited, wake up here again, then question what went wrong
i think at some point it stops being about the method itself, but more about the habit of looking for something better
if most of your unsuccessful attempts makes you think that you need something else, then you’re just reinforcing the mindset of always needing to find something better
𑣲⋆ identity
i just need to mention that there’s nothing wrong with experimenting and trying out new things. the difference is your intention behind it
are you doing something else because you’re curious and genuinely enjoy exploring, or, are you doing it because you think what you’re doing isn’t enough and that this might be the thing that will finally click? think about that next time
however. you can use the exact same method or affirmation for two weeks straight and still be stuck in this loop. why is that? shouldn’t it have gotten familiar at that point?
but look. if every morning starts with, “why didn’t it work? what more should i do?” you’re still identifying as someone who’s trying to find something that will finally work instead of someone who trusts what they’re doing is enough
that’s why i think it’s less about how long you do something, but more about what you keep returning to outside of it
𑣲⋆ what do you return to?
before anyone jumps to any conclusions, yes, you’re allowed to feel disappointed and frustrated every time you open your eyes and find yourself in your cr. you’re still human after all, you’re allowed to feel
in fact, i think the best approach is to let those emotions out instead of forcing yourself to feel positive about being here. the goal isn’t to never feel disappointed or frustrated, it’s more about what you return to after those moments
at the end of the day, i don’t think the loop is created by a few disappointing mornings. we’ve all been there. i think it’s created by repeatedly returning to the belief that something must be missing and that we need to find something else
what you keep returning to is what you keep building
so, ask yourself: what am i returning to every time something doesn’t go my way?
