How to ACTUALLY become a Dream girl.
today i’m going to tell y’all how to actually become your dream girl, aka your desired self.
one thing i HATE about “dream girl” tumblr is how judgemental they are! they have so many stupid rules, saying that to be a dream girl you can’t be this, you can’t have that and spew a lot of hateful rhetoric that is rooted in bigotry. (i.e misogyny & classism.)
first of all, this is your reality. as in, you can do whatever you want. so using that logic, we can be whoever we want.
first things first: decide who your dream girl is.
i want you to imagine your desired self. go beyond your wildest dreams. who is dream girl? what does she look like? what does she do for a living? ask yourself questions like these to start your imagination, and either type out it on a device, or write it down on a piece of paper.
feeling uninspired? watch tv shows, go out with friends, read books, watch youtube videos, scroll on social media. whatever makes you feel inspired! i would really recommend making a pinterest board. pinterest is AMAZING for inspiration.
if you’re really stuck, let me ask you some questions!
what does being a dream girl mean to you?
what does this woman look like?
is she single or in a relationship? if so, describe her partner in detail.
what does she do for fun?
how do others perceive her?
what is her personality like?
how is her relationship with her family like?
what are her friends like?
describe the average day of the dream girl.
don’t feel pressured to desire a certain thing that you actually don’t want. you are unique. your “dream girl” is unique to you. just because you see 834778393893 blogs talking about how they’d like to live the hedonistic high life surrounded by materialism, doesn’t mean you have to. i mean if you want to live that way, be my guest!
the “dream girl” isn’t a fixed aesthetic. this isn’t about anyone else. this is about YOU. so if your dream girl is you living in a pretty cottage in the middle of nowhere surrounded by art – that is YOUR dream girl. or if your dream girl is a woman who wears suits and is a ceo – that is ALSO a dream girl.
anyone can be a dream girl. and i mean, anyone. don’t listen to those stupid ass blogs that say shit like “you can’t be fat or skinny if you want to be a dream girl.” “you must act like this or you must have this” oh my god, PLEASE SHUT UP. i swear to god if i see another post like that i will lose my damn mind. don’t listen to those blogs! you are beautifully & wonderfully made. :)
the big secret, how to actually become a dream girl.
okay, if you have been following me for a long time, you know what i’m about to say next. there is no secret. HA, FOOLED YA!
the only requirement to be a dream girl is that you think you are a dream girl.
yup, it’s that easy. just assume that you have everything you want. do not see your desired self as a fantasy, but as a reality. as a fact. wishful thinking will not do you any good.
as neville goddard once said:
“health, wealth, beauty, and genius are not created; they are only manifested by the arrangement of your mind-that is, by your concept of yourself, and your concept of yourself is all that you accept and consent to as true.”
affirm for your desire. and when you affirm, affirm from a place of knowing. don’t view affirming as some kind of technique, but as present fact. at the end of the day, your assumptions manifest. so assume you are your dream girl.
“i will be is a confession that ‘i am not’ the father’s will is always ‘i am.’ until you realize that you are the father (there is only one Iiam and your infinite self is that i am), your will is always ‘i will be.”
when affirming, you can either use separate affirmations like:
“i have the perfect boyfriend”
you can use general affirmations. i personally find these easier because you only need one affirmation, because they cover everything you want. and don’t worry! your subconscious knows exactly what you’re talking about when you use a vague affirmation, because we assign meaning to our thoughts. if both you and you friend used the same affirmation, you would both get different results because you both want to manifest different things. understand?
that being said, here are some of my fav general affirmations:
“everything in my life is perfect”
(oh, and one last thing. you don’t even need to believe in your affirmations. affirm & persist anyway, until you have your desire. so for those of you who struggle with belief, it is okay to be sceptical! don’t be so hard on yourself. you can be in the shittiest mood, have intrusive thoughts and lack belief — but as long as you are persistent in your affirmations, you’ll be fine. after all, that is the law.)
you don’t have to affirm if you don’t want to. i know affirming isn’t for everyone. instead of affirming, here are some alternatives:
placebo effect (yes, you can use it to manifest)
manifestation techniques (369, 5x55, etc)
so here you go, folks! remember, the only requirement to be a dream girl is that you think you are a dream girl. no, you don’t need to lose weight, buy a prada bag or invest in chanel.
you already are your dream girl already!
here are some nice posts by me, relating to the topics, as linked below. happy manifesting, my loves!
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