How to determine if a kids injury is serious or not
offer them “medicinal chocolate” if they stop crying it’s fine if they carry on crying/refuse the chocolate then it’s serious
From age two apparently^^
Oh wow I never heard this one.
German edition: offer the kid to blow away the pain. If it’s better afterwards it’s okay, if they refuse or still screaming it’s serious
Also a lot healthier than giving your kid chocolate everytime they cry tbh
It’s not everytime they cry it’s only if they get injured and you’re unsure if it’s serious because they are screaming but you can’t tell if they are overreacting or not
For things that are clearly a minor bump we give kisses instead
And before anyone thinks if a kid is screaming it’s not an over reaction
My kid fell off their bike and skinned their knee. Just skinned it that’s all and they went into full on scream/crying hysterical because it was bleeding and they hadn’t had an injury where they bled within their memory
It wasn’t so much the pain as the blood that made them hysterical.
In that case we could see it wasn’t serious but the chocolate helped them calm down and then I got them to tell me about Terraria until they were calm and their wound was dressed
It was absolutely an overreaction to a skinned knee but it was also an understandable one
Kids don’t have experience or pain tolerance we do and sometimes it’s hard to tell if it’s something that requires a trip to the hospital or not
Kids have to be TAUGHT how to self-regulate. Kids aren’t born knowing that being hurt, scared, or angry doesn’t literally mean they aren’t in life-threatening danger. As infants, our threat response system isn’t good at telling the difference between “my caretaker is in the bathroom peeing” and “I have been abandoned for the wolves to eat”, or between “I fell and bonked my head” and “I am being actively mauled by a mountain lion”.
Because in both events, a child’s stress response system initially responds the same way to both scenarios. They produce roughly the same levels of stress hormones for both events. It’s only after hundreds, sometimes thousands, of repetitions of “Being hungry and unattended for a little bit ends with someone coming to feed me” or “experiencing pain does not mean I am about to die” that children’s stress systems begin to learn what’s worth freaking out about, and what’s not.
So little kids who are past infancy often have the brain wiring that can go, “Okay, this is not an emergency, I don’t need to freak out,” but it doesn’t kick in very naturally when they’re hurt or scared. They need to be reminded that it exists by the attention of a trusted adult, or the reminder of physical actions or objects (food, comfort objects, kisses) of all the times it’s been okay before.
remember when my sisters arms got dislocated and my parents didnt understand why she didnt wanna raise her arms so they could pull off her shirt. tried with offering her candy but eventually understood she was actually injured
v true abt the emotional regulation too. as someone who went through abandonment and neglect at a very young age, i just gotta say that i……… really wish i was taught that stuff lol cus emotionally when triggered im pretty much a little child in a grown woman’s body well well
