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my water tile in white, cause I was messing with it and figured it could be useful to have it in a neutral colour.

My mother also talked about periods to my brothers.

When I first got mine I had terrible cramps. Crippling cramps. I once was camping with my family and a few of my big brother’s friends when my period came. My cramps were so bad that my mom gave me a full pain killer ( I was 13 and before that she only gave me pills cut in half).

I literally laid down on my parents’ air mattress and cried in pain for an hour before the pill kicked in.

My brothers friend came in to the big tent and I was just curled up and sobbing. Now, I was quite the tomboy and was known to rough house with my brothers and their friends and made sure I wasnt seen as just “a little girl.” So my brother’s friend was confused to see me openly weeping in the fetal position (seriously, these were the worst cramps I have had in my life. My vision went white). He asked what was wrong with me.

My big brother stood up immediately and suggested a nice long hike. During this hike I am sure he had a pretty awkward conversation with his friend explaining menstrual cramps, because when they got back the pain pill had (mostly) kicked in and I was sitting up at a table when my brother’s friend sheepishly asked me if I was feeling better. I said I was better, and he said good.

When we made s'mores that night my brother and his friend kept me well supplied with chocolate.

Making sure sons know as much about periods and menstruation as daughters makes them better brothers, better sons better fathers, and better men. A man that understands a period will not lightly accuse a woman of “being on her period” if the woman is in an argument.

When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). 

I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. 

Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable - ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. 

They will grow up completely untrusting with a general sense of sadness and guilt.

Manipulation includes:

- “I just wish [something passive aggressive involving your child]”

- “You do whatever you want to do.” and then getting mad when they make the “wrong” choice

- Not believing them when they tell you something someone did or said to them, including their friends, your friends, family members, or even you

- Doing something shitty and then pretending you didn’t in hopes they’ll forget?

- Getting upset when they open up to you. About anything. Even if it’s something angering or disappointing. Don’t show them it’s dangerous or counterproductive to talk to you.

- Making them feel bad for the friends/significant others they choose, career path (or lack thereof), school choice (or lack thereof), gender/sexuality (or lack thereof) literally anything that either they didn’t choose or that they would be miserable without

- Do NOT EVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES pressure them to talk to you about personal things.

Things you’re going to need:

A phone that can update to the latest os to be able to run Pokemon GO

A good pair of walking shoes. You don’t want your feet to get tired!

Water! And lots of it, gotta keep hydrated!

Sun screen. Protect your skin from UVs when you’re walking around cause the sun WILL KILL YOU

Optional things:

Pokemon GO Plus. You know, the button accessory thing.

A solar charger. Your phone is going to be eating battery, no need to stop and charge at a fast food place or whatever if you’ve got a portable charger! X X X X This one is kinda expensive: X Related, external batteries: X X From what I’ve read, a big issue is the battery usage. Seriously consider getting some sort of external power source.

A backpack to carry around supplies. This can be small: X Or large: X Or one that also carries water: X X Or a fancy one with charging tech: X Though I suggest an ergonomic backpack, one that isn’t going to stress your shoulders out: X X X

Snacks! I don’t really need to provide links for this, but try to go for something like trail mix.

Umbrella for rain. X Related, rain boots: X

Parasol for the sun. X

Pokemon music! X X X

Breathable clothing X X X

Flash Light for night. X

Reflective clothes for night. This is important so you can be seen by passing cars at night. X

Baseball cap. X

A map print out so you can mark where you found Pokemon.

Things to prepare:

What team you’re going to be on. In the beta there is red, blue, and yellow teams. Get together with your friends and decide which to join so you can help defend your gyms together!

Look up local national parks! X

Plan a day to walk around with friends! It looks like with the beta that there will be a Pokemon on every street corner or so. It’ll be a lot more fun to walk around with friends!

Plan a road trip! If it turns out that there is going to be a rare Pokemon, but it’s a little far away, put together a road trip with friends and bring snacks and music. You’re bound to find Pokemon along the way. Hopefully one of you knows how to drive.

Find local “interesting” spots that might have rare items if you visit them. There really isn’t any criteria for it, but it looks like it will be things like libraries, churches, museums, and statues.

Safety:

Tell someone if you’re going out alone. It can be dangerous if no one knows where you are and can’t contact you.

Be aware of your surroundings. It looks like Pokemon are along roads like in google maps. This means the possibility of cars all the time. Don’t get hurt!

Don’t go into areas blocked off. Like power plants or water management places. These places are restricted for your safety.

Don’t go into a graveyard at night. It’s illegal! I know a ghastly would be interesting to catch in such a place but be respectful of the dead people!

About Pokemon GO from what I know so far:

You start out with 20 pokeballs and possibly a starter

You train by going to Gyms which you can either attack or defend from other teams (red, blue, and yellow)

Pokemon have two moves, a quick attack and a special attack

The trainer gains experience by catching and training

The levels a trainer has can influence some things like how many Pokemon you can store

Only gen 1 Pokemon right now

You catch Pokemon by throwing balls at them. The difficulty to catch might be indicated by the ring around them when catching. Not sure about how to influence a better catch rate

There is a small variety of items you can use like potions, x attacks, revives, and pokeballs

Some Pokemon require 10 duplicates to evolve. Meaning you’re gonna have to catch a lot of Pokemon. X

By my estimates, you will have to capture almost 1000 Pokemon (987) in order to have enough evolution shards to have all the Pokemon.

You hatch eggs by walking.

Some information about Pokemon GO:

Evolution

Beta gameplay

Pokemon GO Beta Data Mine

DIY Modular Outdoor Seating

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