tullypilled starkcel

catelyn and edmure constantly at odds…catelyn being unable to let go of the fact that SHE was the heir presumptive for half her childhood, edmure unable to understand why cat resents his status over her bc she’s a woman of course she didn’t inherit…catelyn is outwardly disrespectful and even hostile to him at several points and knows it but can’t help herself, can’t help her anger & helplessness at the war and her losses lashing out at her baby brother, and edmure lets it happen bc he’s head of the family and even tho he’s the baby he can take the anger and the pain from his sister that’s his job….catelyn reaches for his hand at their father’s funeral, desperate for someone who loved hoster in the same way but edmure is far away, drowning his grief alone because that’s how a man must act, he can be emotionally in front of his wife but never a sister…and when he asks her if hoster mentioned him as he died, cat can’t bare to tell him that hoster and edmure were much the same, spending their days drowning in grief and guilt after a lifetime of being the Lord and staying emotionally distant from the people who need them most, so she lies to spare her baby brother’s feelings and says yes, he thought of his son, when all along hoster’s thoughts were on the daughter he failed….always this distance of a boy meaning more between catelyn and edmure