-What is the company culture like here? (If you don’t ask this I will be HIGHLY worried. You need to assess the culture for wherever you’ll be working.) Additionally you could piggyback off of this like “If you could change one thing about the company culture, what would it be?”

-Could you describe day to day operations for this position?

-What makes someone great at this job instead of just average? (Shows you’re interested in excelling at the position)

-What makes you excited to come to work every morning? (Watch their answer because you will KNOW if it’s insincere or bad. If your interviewer hates their job don’t work there.)

-What is the biggest achievement this department/company has made? (Lets you know how often they outdo themselves. If the biggest achievement was a number of years ago they’re likely on a decline.)

-Would you mind giving me a tour of where I would potentially be working if I’m hired? (Allows you to envision yourself in the position and to make sure your area isn’t shitty)

-What is your vision for the company? (If they have no vision don’t work there)

-What does the onboarding process look like? How often can I expect to hear from you?

-Ask any questions related to the company that you’ve found out about, like their new merger or initiative or anything. Shows you’ve done your research. Most companies do have this information online.

-Does the company experience a high turnover rate?

-Would you like clarification on any answers I’ve given?

-If your future boss is interviewing you, ask about their management style. You don’t want any surprises.

Pay attention to EVERYTHING, all the textures and materials. You’ll want to stick with high quality woods, marbles, fabrics, and metals. Match them all per room if you can.

Kitchen: plateware, glassware (need tons of decanters and wine glasses), trays, fruits, teas, liquors, ice cream maker, blender, utensils, fun ice trays (if your fridge doesn’t have an automatic ice dispenser), comfortable but stunning rugs, cocktail mixer. Focus should be straight lines here—find the curves in interesting plateware and glassware.

Living room: card games, checkers or chess, coasters, plants, chaises and daybeds, instruments, books, art pieces, record player/gramophone, large area rug, aquarium, lamps, planetarium lights, ashtray (if you smoke), candles of all shapes and sizes, ambiance lighting, bar cart, dramatic curtains, throw pillows and blankets (fur, leather, or velvet). Keep the lines in this room curved.

Bedroom: decanter with two glasses filled with water (to drink at night), ambiance lighting, dramatic curtains, art pieces, couch or chaise if big enough, bar cart (for weed as well if you smoke), quality sheets, unique comforter, wonderful backboard, beauty area with its own seating, plants, large area rug, speaker or record player, trays and open shelving for little decorations, water feature. Play with furs, leathers, silks, and velvets. Lines in this room should definitely be a mixture between straight and curved.

-Kitchen: cocktail smokers, vintage recipe books, various salts and sugars, tannin removers, gastronomy tools, mini herb propagation garden

-Living room: Stündenglass gravity bong, stone lamps, fireplace (tabletop or a large mock version), bakhoor or large incense pieces, large collections of something (I personally have a budding ancient knife collection)

I’ve been reading like crazy lately, and these are things I think are highly beneficial for the future in these topics. There are PDFs for a lot of the books! I’ve also linked Youtube channels, products to buy if need be, blogs, websites, etc. There are far more resources I have but I don’t wanna share my good secrets lol. This is also enough in one post. I wanna put y’all on. 💞

Manifesting/Goddess Energy:

Jambalaya: The Natural Woman’s Book of Personal Charms and Practical Rituals

Powerful and Feminine: How to Increase Your Magnetic Presence and Attract the Attention You Want

Miss Pravala

Luck Manifestation Video

How to Change Your Frequency to Change Your Reality

Nine Steps to Mastermind Your Life

Road Opener

Five Laws of Feminine Power

Evoke Your Power Course

Dating/Marrying Rich:

The Manhattan Madam’s Secrets to Great Sex

Uncensored Sales Strategies: A Radical New Approach to Selling Your Customers What They Really Want - No Matter What Business You’re In

Lucrative Love: The Insider’s Secrets to Marrying Millions!

The Seduction Mystique

Trophy Man: The Surprising Secrets of Black Women Who Marry Well

Being a Woman: Fulfilling Your Femininity and Finding Love

Simply Irresistible: Unleash Your Inner Siren and Mesmerize Any Man, with Help from the Most Famous-and Infamous-Women in History

The Social Tigress: Dating Advice for Women to Attract Men and Get a Boyfriend!

Shanghai Girls: Uncensored & Unsentimental

Etiquette & Upgrading Yourself:

Finishing Touches: A Guide to Being Poised, Polished, and Beautifully Prepared for Life

Emily Post’s Etiquette, 18th Edition

Debrett’s A-Z of Modern Manners

Debrett’s Guide to Entertaining Etiquette

Bellemocha

Art History Classes 

The New Elegant Black Woman

Tonya Leigh

Toastmasters

How to Get the Raise You Deserve

The Happiness Planner

Finances & Business: 

Margin of Safety: Risk-Averse Value Investing Strategies for the Thoughtful Investor (don’t sweat about the price, it’s $13 for the Kindle version)

Never Eat Alone, Expanded and Updated: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time

Learn Foreign Exchange

Fundrise

Five Year Plan to Upgrade Your Life

these are my favorite brands as of right now! agent provocateur and la perla and alla dem are included ofc but i wanted to include pieces that’re less known.

FOR TIMELESS PIECES (SILK, LACE, SATIN):

chantal thomass cristina aielli askasu blue gonzales underwear bao tranchi coco de mer catherine d’lish colette and sebastian bluebella pleasurements behind the scenes lingerie dbleudazzled

FOR UNIQUE PIECES (ROPE, LEATHER, LATEX, OR BONDAGE ORIENTED):

creepy yeha ludique lingerie fleet ilya atsuko kudo melissa tofton leather

FOR BOTH:

I got an anon about the topic but wanted to make a masterpost since I would be able to add a readmore to it. I’ll touch on every possible topic about looking polished that I know of, sorry it’s so long!

FACE

I keep makeup simple but it can be extravagant, whatever you wish. As long as it’s something you can stick to everyday, you’ll be fine. I would suggest having a signature look, like red lips, good lip gloss (which is one of mine), or a certain blush. I keep my makeup simple because I’m not a fan of beating my face. The Chante Caille Future Skin foundation has such a natural look with great coverage, it’s crazy. I use their concealer as well. I use Tarte’s Amazonian Clay blush, Diorshow Blackout mascara, and I switch up everything in between. I’m not a big fan of eyeshadow unless I’m going somewhere important. I think it is important to note that you don’t need a beat face to look polished, a good tinted moisturizer can take you places. I wear Chante Caille’s! (I love them)

As for skincare, do it RELIGIOUSLY! Keep your face looking rejuvenated, moisturized, exfoliated, and healthy. You don’t have to follow any sort of special regime (i.e. the Korean skincare laws), just make sure it works for you. Don’t listen to those Twitter threads on how to get rid of skin issues because none of them know your skin personally. Try things out and see what works for you! The more natural a product, the better. If you have acne or any major skin issue don’t worry about people judging you for it, because no one honestly does. I’m a big advocate for making the natural face look as good as the beat face. If you want longer eyebrows, get a product that’ll grow your eyebrows (I’ve used Revitabrow in the past). If you want longer lashes, do something to make them longer. When I neglected to do this, I began to prefer my beat face and became very insecure without makeup on. Find what you like in your beat face and try to make it your natural face :)

HAIR

As a Black girl, hair to me means my natural hair and my weave, but something to note for both is that you should have it perfectly cut, no uneven or split ends, and know how to keep your hair in place. Also, make sure that whatever texture you want is the texture you have in your hair. For example, if you want curly hair for the week, keep it curly and try not to let it frizz. If you want it straight, keep it straight and try not to let it frizz. Don’t leave an amateur look. I don’t care about hair color or keeping it a natural color, I personally have to because of my clients but I’ve gone rainbow in the past. If everything else is together who the fuck cares about hair color! Keep it fun!

Haircare is really important for me and it’s something people don’t care about as much compared to skincare which really baffles me. I use Briogeo’s kale shampoos and conditioners which is god tier, and occassionally Functionofbeauty’s handmade shampoos and conditioners that’re tailored to your hair. Make sure you’re not using any bad gels in the hair, no relaxers, nothing with sulfates or preservatives or dyes. The more natural a product is the better your hair will look! Do hair masques to restore the hair if you’re dyeing or using heat often.

CLOTHES

BUY QUALITY CLOTHES, STEAM THEM, TAILOR THEM TO YOUR BODY! Fuck Fashionnova, seriously. Looking polished is all about the details. Quality clothes don’t have to be expensive, it is simply a matter of material. It’s better to invest in a few quality stores than a bunch of cheap shit that’ll fall apart very fast. Read the labels of the clothes you buy. You want clothes that are made of natural fibers, like cashmere, wool, 100% cotton, and silk. When I say that it doesn’t have to be expensive, I mean it. A lot of these high fashion companies source their material from lower-end companies, meaning they use the same high-end fabrics but for less.

Tailoring is very important. If you have the range, go for it. Nothing looks worse than a fit that doesn’t look good on your body at all. This goes for slouchy clothes too. No sweatpants all of the time when you’re going out if you want to look polished. This was the hardest thing for me to do honestly because I love to feel comfortable but it don’t look good. Steaming is needed! Crinkled and messy looking clothes will never look polished or put together. I’m not good with the iron so I steam and it works the same, lol.

Now I’m about to get technical with it (if I could put a readmore inside of a readmore I would):

1) Statement pieces are a MUST. I swear by understated jewelry pieces.

2) Pay attention to things like your bag matching your shoes/belt/jewelry. It’s something that you won’t overly notice but it makes all the difference. Keep the metals of your bags and jewelry match. I hate a silver/gold clash.

3) Buy classic, staple pieces in neutral colors. I hate my closet being boring though so I rarely follow this rule myself. I’m a very vibrant dresser. 

4) Be fitted for your bra somewhere besides Victoria’s Secret. Trust me on this. Also invest in your underwear. You can have lazewear, just make sure it’s like…silk robes, not old ass t-shirts that make you feel lazy as hell in them. Something about the difference of material changes my mood!

5) Lint rollers are NEEDED. I hate them but you NEED one. Especially if you have animals.

SHOES

Keep your shoes clean! Take them to the cobbler if you must to fix them up. No scuffs, no worn places. Also, I watch the types of shoes I buy & wear. I only wear athletic sneakers if I’m about to work out, casual sneakers for when I feel chill, and all else for different moods and weathers. Don’t just wear athletic sneakers everywhere if you can help it. I’m not saying to wear heels, flats are just fine.

PERFUME

The thing about perfume is that it depends on your personal scent and how it meshes with you. Try a sample and wait about 30 minutes for it to mesh with your scent, and then you’ll know if it works for you. Do anything that makes you feel good, but don’t overdo it unless you want to give people headaches. Put some behind the ears, the wrists, the neck, and your clothes (if it’s not oil based). That’s all. Just make sure the scent isn’t too overpowering, that’s the difference between a cheap and expensive perfume.

PURSES

Your purses don’t have to be expensive. There is a difference between a quality purse and a cheap purse, and the main difference is material and structure. Slouchy bags never look good. Get a good leather (or any other material if you’re looking to be fun) bag that’s classic and can match everything. You don’t want to have only one staple bag that might not match everything you wear. A good example of an everyday bag is the YSL Sac du Jour. You can find plenty of purses around the $50-$100 range that have the same structural set up!

NAILS

I prefer to keep my nails low and clean because I’ve never liked acrylics. I get gel, and get very fun designs in them sometimes, but I stay away from acrylics. It doesn’t matter though lol. Just make sure that you toes and your nails match! That’s all.

JEWELRY

Keep nothing that looks cheaply made (as if I haven’t said that 500 times already lol). Don’t overdo pieces, keep a watch on ya wrist and earrings on your ears and you’re good. Necklaces here and there if you’re feeling them; they irritate me so I only put them on when I know it’ll absolutely elevate your outfit. I like to keep prosperity jewelry on me, like certain stones to boost my luck & such. You don’t have to though, just something I do.

When you’re starting out, you have to price yourself to the location. Unless you’re marketing to a specific area, or if you’re in a huge city, you’ll probably have to start out a bit lower. I would recommend starting lower (not low!) just to get a feel for escorting. High-end is a different game and no one really taught me how to play it until three months ago. Now I’m playing it by ear. Higher quality clients don’t do hourly bookings and I didn’t realize that until recently either. Big spenders want full GFE for hours on end. Trust me: don’t say you do GFE but only want them to fuck and leave. You need a good persona & to immerse yourself in it.

If you’re not sure about advertising (I’m not either because of all of the stings), you can freestyle. Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. I have a good friend who pulls clients off Tinder. If you have a good bio and know how to market yourself, you’re gold. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though. Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford. If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays when no specials are being run to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. I do the same when I’m chatting up a stranger who looks well to do and could be a potential client. I personally don’t mention money when I’m freestyling anymore because it’s hazardous and I see that now. I’d only attempt it in Monaco. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. :-) How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it. However, from experience, it’s better to have a few regulars than barely any regulars and a lot of new cats coming in.

The key to keeping steady clients if you’re doing GFE is to make it the best damn experience they’ve ever had. Plan it out like it’s an event! Make it special for them. It sounds cliche but they truly just want to feel cared about. If you feel like a girlfriend to them, they’ll keep coming back. So beyond sex, just talking with them, going places with them, massaging them, or even cooking for them (real shit, I knew a girl who did this) makes them feel like the money was worth it. I have regular and VIP prices. My VIP prices include things like a massage, penpal services, or any skill I have that would make them feel loved. Regular prices are GFE of course, but not as specialized. If you have any similar skill put it out there!!! Make yourself truly unique. Like, my cursive is beautiful, so after an overnight, if I’m tryna shower and he’s still asleep, I’ll write a note to him. Something cheeky. I lay it on THICK. I even remember all the details they tell me so upon our next meet I can ask them about it. I’ve made some cookies and bought them gifts (under $100, it’s nothing compared to what they pay me tbh) personalized to their tastes. They like to feel like you’re present. Like a genuine girlfriend they can travel with and spoil without baggage. That’s where the big money comes from, and it’ll keep coming if you treat them like the love of your life when you’re together.

As for tips: make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. I prefer books, adds to my erudite profile. Don’t forget screening at ALL. You need to know exactly who they are. Real clients know you aren’t about to dox their information or anything. Zabasearch and Stud or Dud should be some of your best friends. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach. That’s why I have a heaux apartment I rent out—because there will never be a camera in my own place. I bought detectors for that. Stick to your persona as well! Make sure you don’t contradict yourself. If you have to write down the fake shit write it down, but keep it in your brain. Keep a hoe phone, hoe number, hoe name, hoe email (protonmail is key). Make sure your photos don’t show ANYTHING identifiable. Some girls don’t use the blur feature well enough. And don’t host your site or servers in the US, that’s foolish with SESTA/FOSTA. Just ensure that whatever information you’re putting out can’t be traced back to you at all. Keep a taser, knife, or gun on you and know how to use them. Always let someone you trust know where you are so they can check in with you.

As Google has worked to overtake the internet, its search algorithm has not just gotten worse.  It has been designed to prioritize advertisers and popular pages often times excluding pages and content that better matches your search terms 

As a writer in need of information for my stories, I find this unacceptable.  As a proponent of availability of information so the populace can actually educate itself, it is unforgivable.

Below is a concise list of useful research sites compiled by Edward Clark over on Facebook. I was familiar with some, but not all of these.

⁂

Google is so powerful that it “hides” other search systems from us. We just don’t know the existence of most of them. Meanwhile, there are still a huge number of excellent searchers in the world who specialize in books, science, other smart information. Keep a list of sites you never heard of.

www.refseek.com - Academic Resource Search. More than a billion sources: encyclopedia, monographies, magazines.

www.worldcat.org - a search for the contents of 20 thousand worldwide libraries. Find out where lies the nearest rare book you need.

https://link.springer.com - access to more than 10 million scientific documents: books, articles, research protocols.

www.bioline.org.br is a library of scientific bioscience journals published in developing countries.

http://repec.org - volunteers from 102 countries have collected almost 4 million publications on economics and related science.

www.science.gov is an American state search engine on 2200+ scientific sites. More than 200 million articles are indexed.

www.pdfdrive.com is the largest website for free download of books in PDF format. Claiming over 225 million names.

If a man doesn’t give anything to you in the beginning, he won’t give it to you later.

If you and your husband have to split all the bills, he’s not your husband he’s your roommate.

If a man is stingy with spending his money on you, just tell him, “I got what you want and you got what I want. It can’t work out if we can’t get what we want from each other.”

If a man likes/wants you, he will let you know right away.

Action speaks louder than words. Pay more attention to what they do and act towards you than focusing on their words and “promises”.

If you’re with a man in the beginning stages of the relationship and he’s more focused on looking or talking about other women, drop him.

A real man will protect you, look after you, and give you what you need/want.

If you ask a man for money and he says something like, “Don’t you have a job”, don’t do shit for him (especially sex) or drop him because he’s not that into you.

Anybody can be good in bed, if that’s all a man has to offer or that’s his only “redeeming” quality, drop him. You can’t spend all your time in the bedroom.

Good, generous men all have city jobs.

Men in the military are the biggest cheaters.

Women should never chase a man.

When you’re starting out, you have to price yourself to the location. Unless you’re marketing to a specific area, or if you’re in a huge city, you’ll probably have to start out a bit lower. I would recommend starting lower (not low!) just to get a feel for escorting. High-end is a different game and no one really taught me how to play it until three months ago. Now I’m playing it by ear. Higher quality clients don’t do hourly bookings and I didn’t realize that until recently either. Big spenders want full GFE for hours on end. Trust me: don’t say you do GFE but only want them to fuck and leave. You need a good persona & to immerse yourself in it.

If you’re not sure about advertising (I’m not either because of all of the stings), you can freestyle. Freestyling doesn’t always have to be in person. You can freestyle on Tinder, Hinge, OKC, Pure, Niteflirt, Fetlife, anything that isn’t strictly for escorting. I have a good friend who pulls clients off Tinder. If you have a good bio and know how to market yourself, you’re gold. Watch who you’re matching with for telltale signs of a cop though. Set your location in areas that cops can’t afford. If you’re freestyling in person like at a bar, the way to avoid stings and to avoid lower end clients is to go to highly expensive areas on weekdays when no specials are being run to places that aren’t known for hoeing. Don’t dress indecently. Befriend the bartender, they know where the regular big spenders are and when they go. Tip them well and chat them up. When it comes to speaking to a potential client, you don’t always have to allude to something sexual either. You can talk freely (with your persona on of course) with a few flirts here and there and give them your card with your site on it. I do the same when I’m chatting up a stranger who looks well to do and could be a potential client. I personally don’t mention money when I’m freestyling anymore because it’s hazardous and I see that now. I’d only attempt it in Monaco. Men who’re interested in you will look up your site and see what you’re about, and nothing was illegal about that exchange. :-) How many clients you get based off of this is directly correlated to how much work you put into it. However, from experience, it’s better to have a few regulars than barely any regulars and a lot of new cats coming in.

The key to keeping steady clients if you’re doing GFE is to make it the best damn experience they’ve ever had. Plan it out like it’s an event! Make it special for them. It sounds cliche but they truly just want to feel cared about. If you feel like a girlfriend to them, they’ll keep coming back. So beyond sex, just talking with them, going places with them, massaging them, or even cooking for them (real shit, I knew a girl who did this) makes them feel like the money was worth it. I have regular and VIP prices. My VIP prices include things like a massage, penpal services, or any skill I have that would make them feel loved. Regular prices are GFE of course, but not as specialized. If you have any similar skill put it out there!!! Make yourself truly unique. Like, my cursive is beautiful, so after an overnight, if I’m tryna shower and he’s still asleep, I’ll write a note to him. Something cheeky. I lay it on THICK. I even remember all the details they tell me so upon our next meet I can ask them about it. I’ve made some cookies and bought them gifts (under $100, it’s nothing compared to what they pay me tbh) personalized to their tastes. They like to feel like you’re present. Like a genuine girlfriend they can travel with and spoil without baggage. That’s where the big money comes from, and it’ll keep coming if you treat them like the love of your life when you’re together.

As for tips: make sure you always get the money first and make sure it’s real. Have them give it to you in an envelope, book, or card inconspicuously. I prefer books, adds to my erudite profile. Don’t forget screening at ALL. You need to know exactly who they are. Real clients know you aren’t about to dox their information or anything. Zabasearch and Stud or Dud should be some of your best friends. Never let them tie you up or put you in any position you can’t get out of. Bring your own condoms, they might poke holes in theirs or they might be expired. Check periodically to make sure the condom’s still on. If they’re trying to position you a certain way again and again, there may be a camera in the room. Make sure to check for one and ensure that both of your phones/laptops/whatever are off and far from reach. That’s why I have a heaux apartment I rent out—because there will never be a camera in my own place. I bought detectors for that. Stick to your persona as well! Make sure you don’t contradict yourself. If you have to write down the fake shit write it down, but keep it in your brain. Keep a hoe phone, hoe number, hoe name, hoe email (protonmail is key). Make sure your photos don’t show ANYTHING identifiable. Some girls don’t use the blur feature well enough. And don’t host your site or servers in the US, that’s foolish with SESTA/FOSTA. Just ensure that whatever information you’re putting out can’t be traced back to you at all. Keep a taser, knife, or gun on you and know how to use them. Always let someone you trust know where you are so they can check in with you.

Yes! The personal branding class taught me that branding will not include all of my essence in its core. It is simply about the parts of me that my clients will most enjoy. That’s no slight to the self, but that’s simple marketing. You have to envision your perfect client. What do they look like? What do they like to discuss? To eat? What are their likes and dislikes? What do they pride themselves on? After you’ve figured this out, do your research on your area. Figure out how many of your perfect clients exist near you. Find everything they dislike and throw it out. Find everything they like and amp that up. For example, my perfect client I know would dislike any references to or about pop culture because they’re moneyed and ~cultured~. If my client hates pop culture, there is a good chance he will hate outfits that are not sophisticated and smart. So fast fashion and cheap-looking lingerie is out of the window. I know my perfect client would read Forbes, travel magazines, and investing magazines. The first and last items are business related. While he’ll want to discuss them (and while I have the range to discuss it), I am trying to be his getaway. So I will focus primarily on those travel magazines. Read those. What hot spots does your perfect client enjoy? Is it rustic, classic, or modern? What does he like to do in these hot spots?

This is what I based my pictures off of. I chose different settings and stages that will appeal to my ideal client’s getaway–things they would never do on a daily basis but enjoy wholeheartedly when they can. None of them were inherently sexual, just an awful lot of teasing. I am leaning towards the companion branding and carefully wording later on that “sex during our date is probable if the chemistry is right”, lol. As for color theory, I noted which colors I saw most saturated in those travel magazines; which ones convey serenity and/or unadulterated passion. Reds, yellows, blues, whites/creams, pinks. Any colors you see along the European coast are colors I used in my shoot. I want to blend with the image of a getaway so that their minds associate me with luxurious peace. I got tired of having to write that I expect only top tier hotels, gifts, and donations. Now my pictures reflect it. The fabrics I used were the soft fabrics–silks, tweeds, velvets (sparingly). I wore my diamonds as well. Kept everything soft and feminine. 💞

South of France (always), ladies who lunch areas (Luxembourg, Marbella, Milan, Monaco during ‘on’ season, Geneva, Zurich, Ibiza, Cyprus), Mykonos, Dubai, skiing locations heavy on apres-ski, Singapore, Hong Kong, Macau, Tokyo, Osaka, and Eliat.