heaven can wait

nobody even knows how normal i am on account of my being obviously crazy

an under-reported benefit of retracting energy from painful relationships that no longer serve you is no longer having to go through the draining and distressing experience of failing to perform the role expected of you. you get to spend more and more hours of your day as something other than a failed daughter, or a failed friend, or a failed servant.

or rather, you enter a state of stable failure? the status of your acquired failed state is flat; it has no peaks and valleys, there are no sudden spikes of increased failure, the relationship is just done. on pause. a save file you will in all likelihood never return to.

best tactic you can steal from therapists to help your loved ones is to give them loving respectful advice based on what they actually need to grow and thrive not on what you need to say to protect the status quo in the relationships you all share together

it will also require taking sides and exerting active agency during conflicts and identifying and maintaining your values no matter what you stand to gain from abandoning them…..

cuz girls is players too

I have a creeping suspicion some of you guys are not taking "idk man sometimes it depends" to heart

reblog for easter

Getting high on open window air

does being misogynistic help you pass as a man better... probably yes in some situations... however and this should be obvious, you still shouldn't do that. hope this helps.

the universal transgender experience of in-group signifier ❤️

being transgender is about [CONSUMER IDENTITY]