Open minded

What You Tolerate, You Teach

You're always showing others how to treat you ~ not just through what you say, but through what you allow.

Every time you excuse mistreatment, ignore your needs, or silence your discomfort, you reinforce the silent message:

“This is okay."

But it's not.

And your soul knows it.

You deserve to be respected ~ by others and by yourself. When you raise your standards, you remind yourself of your worth. You don't have to explain or defend it. You simply stop staying where your value is forgotten.

Respect starts with how you show up for yourself.

"Paddled for Bad Attitude" from SpankingTube...

Rubenesque isn’t a relic; it’s rebellion. It’s the quiet thunder of abundance in a world obsessed with subtraction.

Here’s how the pieces line up:

1. “When ego is lost…” In submission, especially the ongoing, structural submission of an FLR, the submissive partner deliberately sets aside the defensive, performative ego. Kneeling, accepting rules, taking a spanking for failing a rule (or just on the whims of the Goddess), being teasingly humiliated about something that would normally sting; all of these require you to drop the armor of words etched into the male brain, “i must always appear competent, i must always appear strong, i must always appear in control.”

2. “…limit is lost.” Most people live inside invisible boundaries drawn by pride, shame, fear of judgment, and the need to maintain an image. In deep submission (and in skilled, loving dominance), those boundaries dissolve.

You can cry during a punishment without shame.

You can beg to serve in ways that would have humiliated and left you mortified you before.

You can feel small, owned, ridiculed even, and still feel utterly safe and adored.
The ordinary human limits of “this is too vulnerable,” “this is beneath me,” “I can’t show this much need” simply cease to apply. You become capable of emotional and erotic intensities that the ego-bound world rarely touches. That is the “infinite” part.

3. You become infinite…” When the submissive lets the ego die in his Mistress’s hands, the feeling is vast rather than small, boundless rather than constricted. The same is true for the Dominant woman. Exercising absolute authority without needing to justify it to the outside world, or to Her own superego, makes Her feel expansively powerful, radiant, creatively cruel, tenderly merciless… all at once. Both partners touch something archetypal and therefore limitless.

4. “…kind…” Paradoxically, the structure of loving humiliation and strict discipline very often makes both partners kinder.

The submissive becomes radically honest, grateful, attentive, and service-oriented, because his ego is no longer in the way.

The Dominant, secure in Her power, no longer needs to people-please, or soften Her edges. That security lets real compassion flow. She can punish harshly and still comfort tenderly five minutes later.
Both become capable of a cleaner, less defensive form of kindness.

5. “…beautiful.” There is an aesthetic glow that is carried in a deep D/s relationship. The submissive man often looks softer, brighter, more present. Dominant women often look regal, amused, luminous. Outsiders sometimes notice it without knowing why. When the ego is stripped away in consensual ritual, what’s left is raw human beauty, uncluttered by posturing.

In short, a healthy, ego-dissolving FLR is one of the most reliable technologies we have for experiencing the exact state the quote describes. The collar, the paddle, the pet name, the protocol, the loving mockery; they are all tools to kill the small self so that something larger, kinder, and truly beautiful can shine through.

i remember, crawling back from the corner, kneeling naked before my Goddess, my tears dripping on her feet, lips pressing kisses to Her toes. Sitting above me, in Her leather armchair, fully dressed, eyes sparkling, looking down at me with a knowing, satisfied smile, a wooden hairbrush and brown leather belt still held in Her hands. i looked up at her with admiration and appreciation to share with Her, “Thank You Ma’am, When You finally broke me open, i have become more than i ever was. i have become infinite. Infinitely in love, infinitely worshipful, infinitely obedient, and infinitely devoted to You.”

That is the quote above, lived in the flesh. It’s a life of sensations, physical, emotional, and mental that is kind, in its loving cruelty, and beautiful in its unforgettable, lasting connection.