Yeah! That's What I Said

People are going to hate this, but here it goes.

Try to run over a law enforcement officer and you will get shot.

Point a gun at a law enforcement officer and guess what? You will get shot.

It’s possible that these idiots were paid agitators thinking they’re exercising their first amendment rights with lawyers waiting in the wings to get them out once arrested . Welp! That did not turn out well for them.

I support the removal of all those that have come here illegally, especially most especially the ones committing crimes against the citizens of this country.

I have made a point of unfollowing all who support obstruction of justice and violence against law enforcement officials, be they federal or local.

Word to the wise. When ICE come for the people who are in this country illegally, stay the fuck out of the way. Let the federal officers do their job!!!!

I don’t understand how citizens of this country can support people who have not been properly vetted or have not gone through the legitimate process of immigrating into this country. The illegals have completely been unaccounted for, have no real way of support themselves without committing fraud, essentially do not contribute taxes (how can they without documentation?) and fucking reap the benefits that the rest of us legitimate residents have paid for.

People have become so, so fucking stupid.

Why the fuck should I allow illegal aliens to reap the benefits of my hard work while they continue to suck this country dry through unaccountability and committing crimes??

I’m a legitimate immigrant turned naturalized citizen btw. My father gave 20 years of his life to the service of this country in the US Navy. The fervor with which the libtards defend illegal aliens and idiots who attack law enforcement is a slap in the face to people like my father.

My parents expressed great resentment and hate towards all illegal aliens. My parents have served this country faithfully, making sacrifices to create a better life for us. They came to this country LEGALLY and swore in to become US citizens.

I find no greater disrespect to all legitimate immigrants than the support of ILLEGAL ALIENS and the actions against officials trying to make things right by removing said ILLEGALS.

It has been a while since I posted on here. I guess since then we have had my father‘s funeral, N has been going through chemotherapy because of her stage 4 LAMN. Myself C, N, and P have discussed our parents living trust with their lawyer. We had to share amongst the five of us. What remains of the estate what we had to decide is whether or not to sell the house if we wanted to keep the house and leave sue Marjorie Jane out. We would have to buy her out if C wanted to buy the house she would have to buy the four of us out. in any of those cases that did not seem feasible. on top of that, the house was a place filled with memories. It was in no way shape or form a desirable house. It was actually crappy house.

I was hoping to keep the house in the family so that during special occasions, we can gather at that spot well at the same time leaving out Sue Marjorie Jane. She has become someone we just cannot keep in our lives because of her share of the estate.

Sue, Marjorie Jane does not care about family at all. She did not really care about her parents (mom and dad). What she cared about is having a free place to stay and to do her drugs. She wanted and was eagerly waiting for her share of the estate.

We have decided that we will sell the house and split the equity five ways. That’s the only way. before the House changed hands, my sister C and her husband R and their kids need to find a place probably to rent as they cannot afford anything more than $400,000 and there is no Single detached home in the city of San Diego at that price.

What I truly would’ve wanted is for C and R and their family to remain in that house and of course, if they’re staying in that house, the rest of us are welcome to gather for any special occasions. the issue is having to buy out sue Marjorie Jane. thinking about it to be fair, C and R would have to buy out the four of us to get the house. that would amount to about $800,000 and that is beyond their budget. doesn’t seem fair. What would be nice is if we could just keep the house and not squabble over the estate. sue Marjorie Jane is definitely an issue.

If my parents had left her out of the living trust, we would’ve kept the house in the family if for nothing more than to have a place to gather to share memories. the house is itself a really horrible house. The only good thing about it are the good memories and that it sits as a place for us to gather.

It’s our wedding anniversary today. Got dropped off to work because Jun’s G wagon was in the shop getting a radiator replaced. Then I worked my butt off in the mouse room.

At 14:51 C texted

Dr. R says to bring him to ER.

From P

You there now?

At 15:08 On our way

At 17:05 Idk if they are just super busy or not seeing him as an urgent case.

17:51 Just in the back now in a treatment bed. Starting IV.

Looks like Dad is going back to the hospital. C has taken him to Sharp Memorial ER.

At 20:48 C texted: They will be admitting him into hospital.

N: Any lab results yet?

Just drew urine sample. He didn’t say. Fingers a concern. Lips seem swollen. Started IV. Dr. Ordered antibiotics.

21:10. Anyone available to relieve me? It’s mi anniversary tomorrow. Btw…Happy Anniversary D n J!

At 21:51 K: Oh man sorry I just saw this. Any relief?

P at 21:53 I can’t, but you should go home and get rest. Dad will be in good hands.

N at 2213: I’m here for the night and most of the day tomorrow.

At 8:23 AM text from C

I called the home health office to tell them he’s not getting better. I’m going to message Dr. R again.

I don’t know what else to do

Reply from N

Let him rest in bed. Keep him comfortable. Pray 🙏🏽.

If this is it again. I need someone here everyday. Last time it was too hard. And I need to work this week.

I can be there Wednesday afternoon through Thursday evening

At 9:58 AM text from C

Talked to the first RN Morgan that saw dad. She is going to try to send a different nurse today.

She said to get an urgent appt with the primary tomorrow. And to decide what our goals are. I asked dad if he’s going to get better or fight to get better. He said yes but he doesn’t seem strong enough.

I don’t know how to keep things moving for my kids.

Son R has so many things coming up with his graduation. M had finals and move out in a few weeks. R2 other son seems to be distant from dad.

Time seems to be drawing near and C seems to be accepting of what we are all dreading.

My kids and I are like, he is dying and he should be allowed to go.

Do we sound callous? It doesn’t seem right to prolong his suffering though. GPa is not really living, he’s just alive and suffering.

Ok

At 11:56 C texted

He’s drinking a smoothie I made.

Frozen berries

BananaProtein powderCoconut milk

At 13:11

I can’t stand this nurse. He’s been declining and she never messaged the doctor

N answered

No freakin way

She claims they know he’s been WTF

Had an argument with her. Rho had to break us up

Text from K about Dad (her grandpa)

Slowly grandpa is unwilling and unable to use his feet & legs. Transfers to the toilet & couch are becoming increasingly harder. He also can’t comprehend how to place his hands when trying to stand or transfer.

We watched some gait belt Videos as a refresher to help aid him. Encouraging him to move his arms more often.

Tomorrow my hubbs and I will sit with Dad.

But first, I need to mention that N called me (probably on C’s behalf) to talk to me about Dad.

She basically said Dad is quickly deteriorating. She said he will be bedridden in a week and will not make it to his 88th birthday on June 6. N was probably trying to gage how much I care about helping C’s fam out with Dad and reporting back to that troll C.

To be honest C has become exhausting, overly demanding and annoying. She has no consideration for us folks who have to actually come to work in person. She believes we can drop everything, when she needs a break with Dad.

She totally misses the break she had last weekend when K and I each spent a couple of nights in the hospital with Dad. I hope she made the best of that free time.

It will all be over in about 2 weeks.

You may think that I have no love for my father or for C. But I’ve had enough of her trying to extend his life without it being a good quality of life. J tried to make his point about quality of life. But it all fell on deaf ears.

I need to say this out right: Dad never tried to help care for Mom when she needed him. But when he got diagnosed with prostate cancer, she took care of him to the best of her ability. When Dad was able bodied, he would run away in the minivan when things got tough.

Now he’s very sick. The woman who took care of him passed away. His youngest daughter has rallied the family to care for his incompetent, decrepit ass .

It’s not fair that the true caregiver of the family passes away before he does. It’s not fair that Mom gets stage 4 lung cancer and dies even though she never smoked. Dad smoked for about 20 years and out lives friends and family who did not! It is NOT fair.

May 21,2025

My thoughts

Text from A yesterday

How much longer do they wanna prolong gpa’s suffering?

GPa asked what he wanted: TO LIVE

Pretty sure only us and uncle J have this perspective so..we look like villains.

J and us are thinking about quality of life. Is it worth staying alive if your current condition is shit?

Text from Hubs to A

K is making herself look good and making it seem we are not helping enough. If you are able to volunteer some time to help. I will be the second person. Reply to the group so they know.

Text from the brown nosing K this morning

Hi fam

Wanted to take a quick moment to share my experience with grandpa & his current status. In hopes to shed

Last night I had a chance to visit grandpa since his last hospital stay. (There’s no way to soften this information); but he is very tired and very weak. His breathing is very labored.

He is dying. The flu, bone cancer, chemo, repeat UTIs are taking their toll on him.

He’s not eating much despite the encouragement and spoon feeding. He can’t walk independently and absolutely needs 2 people to aid him. At least 1 of the 2 people need to be able to lift & support his whole body weight.

Right! Because he is straight up dying.

The nurse says we should encourage mobility as much as possible but he is a huge fall risk- even when sitting down.

Damned right this is bad because he is straight up dying. And where is the wheel chair??? I relayed the PT’s advice about using it to get him around the house. Why are you all disregarding that point?

I had the opportunity to help auntie c get him ready for bed: potty, teeth cleaning, whole body sponge bath (YES that does include the privates), lifting his legs/ rolling him over, change diaper, change of clothes- everything! The whole Shibang.

I did too. I helped C and when it was N’s turn, I helped her. I didn’t see the point of advertising that fact. Nor did I make a big deal out of my spending the weekend in the hospital with dad.

It was exhausting as hell.

Truly- I’m not gonna edit that.

The emotion you need to hold and set aside & the physical labor (out of love), together it took a toll… and I was only there for a few hours.

Auntie c and uncle R ENDURE that 24/7.

It is a heavy cross to bear. And I believe this is not one they are supposed to bear alone.

This is the cross C made us choose to bear. Seems like the medical professionals haven’t the heart to tell C that he is at the end of his lifespan.

We’ve all made progress with more involvement, care & support. But I believe there can still be more.

We all have our baggage. Let’s put up in storage and DO what we need to do. Let’s cover each other’s 6 and mobilize equally.

The Burn Out is real. Let’s alleviate that as much as possible. 🙏🏻

Ooooh! Burnout is real. No shit! All care givers go through this. No shit they need help! Are you mad I did not get off work early yesterday. Again I did not advertise the fact that I too am sick. Despite my cough, I stayed in the hospital with the old crotchety man.

OK I’ve been taking my lunch break to journal and this bitch is anxious for me to leave. Welll! I’m not getting up until I finish here.

06:28 Nurse Emily blood sugar taken= 87. 2 units of insulin administered.

Breakfast given. Finished 1 pancake, 1 small piece of sausage (tough and rubbery), 1/2 apple sauce. Requested coffee NA Dan getting coffee, 1 cream and 1 sugar substitute. Almost finished coffee.

07:30 inhalers given by Respiratory Therapy

07:40 sleep

09:25 he really needs to poop. Already pushed nurse button. Nobody around.

09:35 got positioned on the bedside commode, blast of gas and loose stool. Offered to have him sit up in chair. He chooses to return to bed.

09:46 back in bed sleeping

12:31 blood sugar 134

12:43. 5 units of insulin to be given.

13:05 finished all chicken noodle soup, finished all baked tilapia, finished baked lay’s potato chips. Finished all but 1 piece of honey dew (from mix of cantaloup and hd).

14:12 PT arrives

Pulse 93; O2 98%

BP 119/67

Doing the short walk around the bed, pulse rises to 106. Walked from right side to left side, then sat on bed. Then got up and walked back to the right side of bed.

On a scale of 0-10 , 10 being so exhausted he could collapse and 0 not tired at all, he was an 8.

PT recommends wheel chair for distance more than to the bathroom and back (~10 feet)

Start with only short distance on walker 8-10 feet. Looks like if he wants to go to living room, will have to start with wheel chair.

14:45 falls asleep Got NBA game on TV Den vs OKC.

15:17 vitals good. 131/66 BP

15:25 administration of antibiotics thru the port (pic line).

Work on discharge papers.

16:45 blood sugar 129

Will have dinner.

5 units of insulin in upper right arm

17:00 starts eating. Only 1 small piece of chicken and no more. I think he has difficulty chewing meat. He claims the chicken is dry. Says he ate a lot but only ate 4 pieces of melon , 2 spoonfuls of mash potato and gravy and 1 small cut piece of chicken. “A little bit is good enough”

Only a tiny bit eaten. Says he’s full. Said one time he felt sick. Does not have good appetite.

My dad’s cancer Journey journal

5/17/25

GPa might be released from the hospital today.

06:54 blood sugar 95 not high

06:58 IV bag replaced.

09:15. Dietician took order for lunch, dinner and tomorrow’s breakfast

Dad’s Cancer Journey Journal

Breakfast -

Has appetite but meal came cold requested food to be heated

Drinking fluids

Ate fruits

RT came and administered inhalers

NA brought fresh breakfast, hes eating the oatmeal 👍🏼

Eggs & potatoes are still cold for him 😔

Gpa will keep asking for sugar but he can only have the 1 sugar free sweetener provided with meals.

9:30-

Tamaflu, singular & anti acids were given

10am- struggled but did poop

Back to napping- pooped after poop

Type B flu - a bit more mild

11:21am - Dr. Brian Lichtenstein (hospitalist) checked on him. Lungs sound clear

Flu treated for 5 days

Infections for 7 days

2 different antibiotics, 1 for each ailment

Labs & vitals look good

Blood sugar is 130

Dr says at least one more day stay. Looks better than yesterday.

11:45am

Priest came by to pray the sacrament of the sick and receive holy communion

1:50pm

Late lunch. RN did a good job on heating his food, dove right into the soup.

2:52pm

Poop #2

Note: remind nurses he’ll need a bath

I arrive at 17:45

Also Dad gets dinner. Started out with pureed food (wrong tray) but ate some. Had some jello. Kept the apple juice.

Got a regular tray of fish, potato wedges, green beans and zucchini. Beans were not good. Did not touch fish.

19:15 he kicks off sheets. I asked if he’s hot. He’s actually cold. I covered him with sheets and tried with blanket. He pushes away blanket. Fussed with sheet.

He seemed just a little irritable.

Now messing with the blanket edge like there’s stuff on it or something wrong with it.

Keeps asking if there’s rain.

Why does he act weird when I’m here?

20:35 nose bleed. Before that he kept pulling on his foley, trying to free the bag?

20:44. Blood sugar 126

Continue tamiflu

21:15 NA offered bed bath and left

Been waiting 30 min

Fell asleep.

He was bathed and linens changed.

Journal of My father’s Cancer Journey

Texts from Cindy

He (Dad) threw up and almost collapsed (15:05)

At 15:20: Going to Sharp memorial by ambulance. Slight fever 100.8

At 17:22 : Sorry. My texts weren’t clear. I called 911 because grandpa kinda collapsed but I pulled him onto me on to the couch. And then he started vomiting and all I saw was red coming out and I thought it was blood. So I told Rizal to call 911.

The ambulance arrived and took gpa to Sharp Memorial. We are in the ER waiting. They said he was going to be treated for sepsis on the ambulance ride. But we are still waiting for someone to come in and treat him.

At 19:06 Gave him tamiflu

At 19:07: He has the flu and a uti.

At 19:35 They ordered a cat scan of his head because of how he locked up and stopped responding and to us

At19:37: no pneumonia

At 21:31 : He’s in room 545, Sharp Memorial, probably same unit as last month.

Cindy my have a double whammy. She is taking antibiotics for strep-throat and then she texts

Went back to urgent care today for shhh'ngles. Gettn hit when lm down

Dad tested negative for strep. 😮‍💨Tomorrow is Jay’s mom’s viewing

Patricia Calloway passed away from kidney failure on April 11, 2025. 2 days later Dad almost joins her.

The specialized team of nurses were able to get Dad stabilized.

Gabby, Alyssa and I are coming down with something. We all have Sore or scratchy throat and a mild fever. I felt malaise at work and maybe even psychotic. I thought the ground was shaking.

Also, the campus internet went down.

From my sister in the group text:

Good morning family. I’m not feeling well still. I just got a prescription for antibiotics for strep throat.

I have informed dad’s doctor and they will be testing him.

Just and update: Dad has been ornery, stubborn and very difficult since arriving home. Please be aware that dad requires at least a two person crew. You will need additional partners/helpers when you are with him. Pls plan accordingly. Great opportunity for you and the other members of your family to spend time with him! He tries to get up without any one and he’s still very wobbly.

What Dad may have

Post-Hospital Syndrome:
This term refers to the increased risk of rehospitalization, readmission to the hospital, or death within the first few weeks after discharge. 

Anxiety and Fear:

Patients may experience anxiety about their health, the future, and their ability to cope with daily life

Frustration and Anger:

Patients may feel frustrated with their inability to regain their former level of function, or angry about the delays and challenges they face during and after their hospitalization

Changes in Self-Perception:
Patients may struggle with their identity and self-esteem, as their ability to perform everyday tasks is limited by their illness and the effects of the hospitalization. 


Post-hospital syndrome is caused, in part, by ongoing effects of the original illness. For example, someone who has been hospitalized for pneumonia may experience lingering fatigue, reduced strength, foggy thinking, or constipation after leaving the hospital.



N said she will take him to Urology tomorrow. I will message them to order a urinalysis also. We can help N to bring him.

Because of dad’s status, I think we will unfortunately have to miss the viewing Thursday. N’s mother in law

However Friday, we don’t have coverage for dad but plan on bringing him pending his wellness that day. A and partners we will need you around 5pm for coverage.

Saturday, we will be needing D and partners in the morning and until late night to watch M’s show in Irvine.

With a heavy heart, I have to say My husband’s Aunt’s husband passed away at 1:30 PM

We called him Uncle Ray. He was 94 years old.

Uncle Ray would be the only white guy in the pictures.

Another pic of Ray and Auntie Fe. Happy couple they were.

Ray was a colon cancer survivor. This past 2 years he had lost a lot of mobility and had to have hiss bed in the downstairs family room. He couldn’t make it through the stairs anymore. He relied heavily on Auntie Fe his wife to care for him. It was very difficult as she was in her 80’s already. Her sons were upset that Ray refused skilled nursing care, placing the burden on their mom to care for the stepfather. But Auntie Fe continued doing her best despite all the challenges she faced.

Weeks before his passing, Uncle Ray was hospitalized with severe pneumonia. His health spiraled downward until his passing.

RIP Uncle Ray. Condolences to Auntie Fe and the rest of the fam. Auntie Fe now transitions from the challenges of providing elder care to the challenges of being a widow. I wish she could live with one of her sons, instead of in a big empty house.

They are up in Fairfield and we are down here in SoCal. I think my husband will be the only one to make Uncle Ray’s funeral.

These past 3 weeks were just gutting us. First my father’s biennial severe acute illness requiring hospitalization; inlaw Mrs. C’s passing from kidney failure; the passing of the Pope on Easter Monday; Uncle Ray’s passing on the 26th.

Everything was great years ago when everybody’s alive and well. We had gatherings and parties every chance we got. We knew the end would come, so we MUST live and celebrate each other as much and as often as possible. I hate the cliche’ “tomorrow is never promised”. But alas! It rings true.

Live Life To The Fullest

Love Your Hardest

8:15AM. Care (of my father) notes so far:

04/25/2025

Normal meds. Started Erleada. Finished oatmeal.

N came over. I took little R to urgent care. Got meds. Went to work.

Finished Lauya. Lunch.

4pm- radiation.

5pm-P came. Made him burger. 🍔 finished. Napped.

No poop.

Meds. Acted kinda weird. Mimicking me and trying to get a rise out of me. I just kept on going.

Bedtime. Bed bath with wipes and moisturizer ointment.

04/26/2025-

630am asked me to empty his bag. Emptied and went back to bed. Called me again. Got him up around 8am.

Meds. Forgot mylanta. Finished Ube Champorado.

12:30pm: Woke up and moved to the living room. Insisted on sitting on the couch. Asked for lunch. I told him there was no rice for the lauya. He asked for it without rice.

Watching OKC vs. Memphis

1:15pm: he asked about J’s mom. I told him she passed.

3:20pm: big poop. Back to the couch

After he ate R followed him back to the bed to take a nap. N arrived. Still napping when we left.

Not long after this entry, all the home care notes were deleted from the “shared notes”. There is a “new notes” that is blank. C probably figure out that I have been copying the notes to post elsewhere. I have copied all the notes to a journaling app. So glad I had backed these up.

C doesn’t have to stress about this. I did not share this with the monster.

Addendum to C’s homecare of Dad notes:

4/24/2025

7:30am- empty bag. Got him dressed. Helped him out of bed. Still always using the gait belt. He is still very weak on his own. Walked to living room. Took meds. Tried to check blood sugar but no supplies for monitor and no battery 🪫 messaged VA. Saline nebulizer and mass.

Finished bfast.

1030am- VA social worker home visit.

Pooped when social worker came.

She will order bed pressure mattress cover for hospital bed and look into if there is better hospital bed available. Referral for patient planning and home nurse care (once a month) after Sharp home health ends.

Finished lunch. Napped.

530pm- leave for Radiation. ☢️

Home for dinner. Nap.

845pm- saline nebulizer. Aerobika. Meds.

945pm- brush teeth. Empty bag. Clean diaper rash and foley cleaning. He said it hurts near his tail bone. Asked if there was a bruise. No bruising but there is rash. Hope it’s not tailbone pain. Changed clean clothes. Moisturize rash on arms. Could be radiation rash.

He looked like he could slip off bed. Rizal helped me move him up in bed. He still flips to his side. Emailed VA Sw to see how if we can get another fall pad on hospital bed railing for lower part of bed.

Too tired to shower and too afraid to get into shower and he might need me. Just gonna watch him on monitor and try to close my eyes a little. My back hurts.

He doesn’t cough when doing Aerobika. But is hacking up a storm in bed.

04/25/2025

Normal meds. Started Erleada. Finished oatmeal.

Nancy came over. I took Rizzy to urgent care. Got meds. Went to work.

Finished Lauya. Lunch.

4pm- radiation.

5pm-Primo came. Made him burger. 🍔 finished. Napped.

Meds. Acted kinda weird. Mimicking me and trying to get a rise out of me. I just kept on going.

Bedtime. Bed bath with wipes and moisturizer ointment.

04/26/2025-

630am asked me to empty his bag. Emptied and went back to bed. Called me again. Got him up around 8am.

Meds. Forgot mylanta. Finished Ube Champorado.

N takes over at 10:30AM

12:30pm: Woke up and moved to the living room. Insisted on sitting on the couch. Asked for lunch. I told him there was no rice for the lauya. He asked for it without rice.

C’s additional notes from yesterday

04/24/2025

7:30am- empty bag. Got him dressed. Helped him out of bed. Still always using the gait belt. He is still very weak on his own. Walked to living room. Took meds. Tried to check blood sugar but no supplies for monitor and no battery 🪫 messaged VA. Saline nebulizer and mass.

Finished bfast.

1030am- VA social worker home visit.

Pooped when social worker came.

She will order bed pressure mattress cover for hospital bed and look into if there is better hospital bed available. Referral for patient planning and home nurse care (once a month) after Sharp home health ends.

Finished lunch. Napped.

530pm- leave for Radiation. ☢️

Home for dinner. Nap.

845pm- saline nebulizer. Aerobika. Meds.

945pm- brush teeth. Empty bag. Clean diaper rash and foley cleaning. He said it hurts near his tail bone. Asked if there was a bruise. No bruising but there is rash. Hope it’s not tailbone pain. Changed clean clothes. Moisturize rash on arms. Could be radiation rash.

He looked like he could slip off bed. Rizal helped me move him up in bed. He still flips to his side. Emailed VA Sw to see how if we can get another fall pad on hospital bed railing for lower part of bed.

Too tired to shower and too afraid to get into shower and he might need me. Just gonna watch him on monitor and try to close my eyes a little. My back hurts.

He doesn’t cough when doing Aerobika. But is hacking up a storm in bed.