dungeon méchoui

Nobody has made me feel safer or more respected than the filthy perverted freaks I was warned about.

"Punishment works!!!" We're drowning in three to four generations of people so pants-shittingly terrified of ever being wrong that half of everyone has constructed a worldview wherein they never even consider the possibility that they could be wrong and the other half behaves like one wrong move will make anything or anyone explode violently into a million irreperable pieces. I don't think it works guys

I know this might be a bold take but maybe teaching everyone from a young age that ever making a mistake will be met with unimaginable pain and misery doesn't actually encourage learning or correct behavior. If anything it creates a sense of terror so powerful it completely suffocates curiosity and exploration, thus leading to people knowing absolutely nothing but whatever is brought directly to them, which is a big problem in a world where information is so tightly controlled that a very small number of very powerful people basically have complete power over what people see and hear on a day-to-day basis when not actively seeking new and rigorously verified information from diverse and trustworthy sources.

if any of this sounds like you, start by looking up the definition of words you've heard and are pretty sure you know what they mean, but haven't actually double-checked for yourself. Just like, whenever it occurs to you. Great first step

This post goes out to the "we need to bring back bullying" crowd. Just because you aren't hitting someone physically doesn't mean you aren't being punitive. Maybe it isn't actually healthy to believe it's necessary to harass and humiliate anyone who makes you upset or uncomfortable. That sounds like a you problem actually.

Anyways, breaking the cycle of abuse starts with you and how you treat yourself. You have to give yourself grace and room for error or you'll never be able to cultivate a healthier mindset than your trauma left you with. It's not easy, but you have to trust yourself that whatever seems kinder than however you usually treat yourself is probably a good enough start. Doesn't need to be perfect, doesn't need to be The Correct Answer, just needs to be a step in the right direction, y'know? We'll figure out the details along the way.

there is A Lot in dunmeshi that hits hard in various ways but for me, one of the top things of all time is the outfit laios chooses when he becomes king. you know his whole life he's probably tried to be more like other people so he fits in, putting on the Human Façade i'm so familiar with putting on myself. and when he becomes king he instead wraps himself in a literal monster skin, made from his own monster form which is his true idealized form. do you see? when he puzzled out "how can i make them take me seriously," his ultimate answer is to stop masking completely and appear more as himself than he ever has. for me that is such a powerful character growth moment and i really really love it.

the wisened fujoshi knows better that they would never want their ship to become canon. canon can never compete with whatever is going on in the fujoshi's mindscape