Imagine feeling unwanted and misunderstood your entire life and then you meet a beautiful boy who looks at you and only sees you and he's so perfect you think he's too good to be true and then you find out that actually he is real and then he tells you he likes you and then you kiss him and then he tells you you were amazing after a game u actually tried at for him and then you lose him in a fucking deadly riot and you start to realise slowly that he has been hiding something from you this whole time and now he's going to die and you're neither getting him back nor your answers and you're stressed and you're panicking and so you ask ur best friend where he is and what's been going on hoping for a clue to start from and then your best friend goes "you were always going to lose him" Andrew Minyard you are so valid you were Not crazy for that i applaud your restraint actually

this is true for many btvs dynamics but part of the reason that buffygiles hits so hard is that their relationship is lovely and sweet and also pretty bad a lot of the time for a variety of reasons, but mainly that they're both incapable of expressing how much they actually care about each other. in an age of tv where every character is using therapy speak to perfectly communicate to the audience and to their scene partner exactly how they're feeling, realistically bad communication between two emotionally constipated weirdos, one of whom is a very traumatized young person and the other is a middle-aged british man, is honestly pretty refreshing.