Dr. Masacrik

Somewhere out there, theres a little kid who keeps getting in trouble because he doesn’t understand how to play nicely with the other kids and keeps hurting peoples feelings on accident. He doesn’t know why all the adults are so angry at him all the time. He’s not a bad kid, not on purpose. He doesn’t want to be a bad kid. He’s trying so hard and keeps making everything worse.

Somewhere out there, there’s a teenager getting into fandom spaces for the first time and every time she sees a post about her favorite character, who has trouble with emotions, just like her, it’s always something negative. It’s always a post telling others to stop redeeming them, or mocking them for no reason. She’s old enough to understand that she’s different from other people. She’s old enough to know that despite that, she’s still doing her best to be kind. And she’s old enough to know that the real reason everyone hates her favorite character is because they don’t understand low empathy works. She hates herself because she knows if she ever tells anyone how she feels, she’ll be hated too. It’s a good thing she learned how to pretend. Nobody will abandon her if she says the right things, has the same expressions, uses the proper tone.

Somewhere out there, there’s a young adult who can’t understand emotions. They get annoyed when they hear people crying, they don’t understand romance in books and movies, and they still remember how it felt as a child when they watched their whole family fall apart when a relative died, and they didn’t care. They remember how they didn’t LIKE that their grandmother was gone, but they didn’t linger on it either. It didn’t shatter them the way it shattered their mother. And most of all, they remember how their mother looked at them when she figured it out. How she screamed that they were a monster she couldn’t ever love. They think maybe the world would be better if they weren’t a part of it.

People with low empathy may not understand things like grief, or why others feel things in the first place, but if they want to participate, they have to have coping strategies. Some are better than others; sometimes you get a psychopath or a sociopath.

When you put an entire group of people in a box, you are in fact reinforcing stereotypes. In this case, you are reinforcing INCREDIBLY DANGEROUS stereotypes about people like me.

The idea that a single person (you) can define what makes a person ‘good’ is a flawed concept to begin with. You have decided that in order for a large group of people to fit your PERSONAL idea of good, they have to constantly pretend to be something that they simply are not. I am assuming that you are not a low empathy person based on the fact you clearly view us as less human than you, so I cannot expect you to have any idea how truly exhausting that is. A persons actions do not reflect their ability to be empathetic. An abuser could be a low empathy person or a very empathetic person. Simple as that.

Also, I’m unsure what you ment by “there are consequences” ? I’m assuming you just put that there to feel like you just dropped the mic and the whole entire room got up and clapped, but I would love for you to elaborate on that if there is a actual point there.