Bigwig Returns

Baleen Whale Fall

That thought isn’t helpful right now.

Now is not the time to think about it. I can think about it later.

This is irrational. I’m going to let it go.

I won’t argue with an irrational thought.

This is not an emergency. I can slow down and think clearly about what I need.

This feels threatening and urgent, but it really isn’t.

I don’t have to be perfect to be OK.

I don’t have to figure out this question. The best thing to do is just drop it.

It’s OK to make mistakes.

I already know from my past experiences that these fears are irrational.

I have to take risks in order to be free. I’m willing to take this risk.

It’s OK that I just had that thought/image, and it doesn’t mean anything. I don’t have to pay attention to it.

I’m ready to move on now.

I can handle being wrong.

I don’t have to suffer like this. I deserve to feel comfortable.

That’s not my responsibility.

That’s not my problem.

I’ve done the best I can.

No relationships are perfect. Some days are happy, some days are tough. There will be joy and celebration, but also misunderstandings and pain. As your relationship gets longer, most of your conversations become shorter, and some of the nights get heavier. You will discover their flaws, and they will discover yours. But at the end of each day, both of you mush choose to stay—because that’s what love is all about.

So stop searching for someone who will be perfect for you. But choose to love the person who you are willing to spend the imperfect days with, for the rest of your life.

The long awaited transformation is finally here! Asking Jude has officially moved to our own platform at askingjude.org. Though our Tumblr will remain active, we highly urge you to create an account, so you may receive 24/7 support from the Asking Jude Team and its community members. 

Our platform is better than Tumblr’s. 

On askingjude.org, you will receive the necessities the Tumblr Staff refuse to address. These include the following: 

Receiving notifications when your submission has been added and answered 

Speaking with, receiving help from, and/or helping community members at Asking Jude 

Assurance that your submission will not be deleted or lost by buggy software 

Uninterrupted conversations with our team of peer counsellors

By joining our new platform, you indirectly support our organization and the belief that mental health care should be free and accessible. 

Since most of you are unable to donate to our Patreon, our new platform provides you with an opportunity to support us without spending a dime. Through the luxury of advertisements, your visits will turn into mini-donations for myself and the Asking Jude Team. By supporting our free mental health services, you will support free mental health care. 

Click here and create your account at Asking Jude and join the family today.

Are you confused about how to start? 

Follow this simple guide: 

1. Go to askingjude.org. Click outside the donation popup obviously.

2. Click “Ask Jude” at the top menu.

3. Click the “Ask Jude” thread.

3. Click on the thread MOST related to your question.

4. Type your question and explanation and click “Submit.”

5. You’ll be prompted with a sign-up page which will allow you to create your account and receive notifications when your question has been answered! Use an anonymous (or actual) name and an e-mail that you use frequently to ask questions and be notified!

Questions from there take priority over questions from the Tumblr inbox.

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