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“My dom(me) can do anything they want to me.”

or

“My dom(me) has total control over everything in our relationship.”

Or

“I never question my dominant, I just obey.”

Or

“I always submit fully.”

Or most other statements that include words like always, never, completely, totally, other “absolute” words etc…

They usually are said within a context that includes mutual understanding that actually does put limitations on the scenario. They aren’t literal statements. Using the “Id do anything my dominant told me to” example…it’s really something more like…

“My partner knows my limits and has my consent to initiate different types of sex or play. I know they wouldn’t ask me to do anything that was against a known limit. I also know they are a moral, ethical person who has a lot of respect for me and for our relationship. I know they wouldn’t ask me to do something harmful to others or to myself. Plus, if they ever try to initiate a type of play that I am randomly triggered by or otherwise can’t do in that moment, I have a safeword that they would immediately and fully respect. So within this framework we’ve built together, it feels like they can pretty much ask me to do anything, and we find it hot to say they can do anything to me. But we both know if they asked me to do something that is a hard limit, asked me to harm another person, do something against my core beliefs, among lots of other things - that there are lots of things I wouldn’t be willing to do.” 

Sub (S): I think I'd be okay sharing some photos eventually, just not right now and nothing too revealing

Me (M): Okay, that's completely fair. You never have to show more than you want to!

*Ten minutes later, mid-session*

S: FUck, I'm so melted daddy

M: It's adorable how broken you've become so quickly

S: Fuck yes I'm so broken I'll do anything for you

M: Oh? Then beg to let me see what my new pet looks like

S: (Anxious) ...please, Daddy

M: Please, what?

S: Please let me show you, Daddy

M: Much better. Permission denied.

S: (Startled) Wait what?

M: You did very well. Permission denied.

S: (Now desperate) Please, daddy!

M: Please what?

S: Please let me show you, I need to

M: Aww how cute! Permission denied.

S: FUck I'm so broken, please please I need to show you how desperate I am how much I need you

M: Hahahah

S: Pleaseeeee

M: Well let's see...

*Fully wakes up the sub, makes sure they are awake, aware, not being affected, fully able to consent without pressure*

M: Now then, you certainly don't have to, but do you still want to?

S: Yes yes please Daddy I consent I consent I consent please let me show you

M: Much better. Permission granted.

This includes:

Nudes

Masturbation videos

Erotic audio

Stories about what you’d do to me