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First and foremost, communicate. You have to discuss boundaries and limits (soft and hard). Discuss why and how the Hotwife lifestyle interests both of you and what each of you gets out of the arrangement. If you guys can’t have discuss the tough stuff, then the lifestyle won’t work for you.

You have to constantly and consistently check in with each other. Don’t ever assume something about the other - especially when it comes to comfort levels and emotions. 

Second - consider joining SLS (Swing Lifestyle). It’s an online, private community devoted to swinging and the hotwife allure. You could also discuss posting profiles on Tinder or another dating app (you’d be surprised how many men are perfectly fine being “used” as a playmate). Meet people in the lifestyle.

Third - be emphatically and aggressively protective of the intimacy you share with your wife. Just because she is having sex with another man does not mean he is intimate with her. You know her; you understand her; you give her what she wants and needs; you are her True North. No one trespasses against that. It is the exact same thing on her end - she is that foundation for you. The second there are cracks in that foundation, go back to my first point and re-evaluate.

Fourth - have fun. Explore. Give into temptation and fantasies. Experiment. Step outside your respective comfort zones. Challenge each other. 

Fifth - reclaim each other. Sex with one another after an encounter is - well, it’s pretty fucking fantastic. You must always find each other again post-encounter; without the reclamation, the hotwife lifestyle flops. The hotwife lifestyle is in the reclamation.

Trust me on this, I may sleep with men who have bigger cocks than my husband but his cock is the only one that knows how make my knees give out, my muscles to contract in such deliciously sweet agony, and my mind to explode so spectacularly that the space-time continuum is momentarily shattered. YOU give your wife that - I guarantee it.