Three Ways to Improve Your Condom Demonstrations
Condoms do so much for us! They help prevent unintended pregnancies and transmission of sexually transmitted infections ā no small feat. They deserve to be celebrated once in a while! Ā February 14th is National Condom Day ā a day to show a little appreciation to condoms. Ā If you teach sexuality education, National Condom Day is a great opportunity to refresh your condom lesson and demonstration. Here are three tips for taking your condom lesson to the next level.
People donāt have sex to wear condoms. Ā Instead, many people are having sex for pleasure and because itās fun. Your message about condoms will be better received if you acknowledge pleasure. The Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) includes pleasure in its description of a sexually healthy adult (Bruess & Schroeder, 2014). Since young people report wanting accurate, nonjudgmental information about pleasure, itās important to include discussions about pleasure (Cameron-Lewis & Allen, 2013).
Incorporating discussions about pleasure into a condom demonstration can be as simple as talking about lubricants, condom style variations, and finding a proper fitting condom. Acknowledge young peopleās concern about condoms decreasing the pleasure of sex because of reduced physical sensation or because of potential awkwardness.
dfusionās newest HIV intervention app, 3T, includes pleasure in the condom demonstration through gamifying the condom steps and by including information about lubricants, tips to increase sensation, and ways to talk about condoms with a partner.
COVID means that most everyone is wearing masks. There are so many styles and shapes and versions. Brands are promoting their face coverings using messaging like āThe best fit for people with glassesā or āvoted best face covering for professionalsā. Just like people can try out a bunch of masks and find the right one for their face, people can try out different condoms to find one that feels and fits best. And fit and feel are not just about choosing the one that brings the most pleasure ā itās also about finding the fit and feel that wonāt lead to the condom breaking or slipping and therefore not effectively reducing the risk of pregnancy or STI transmission.
Have you had a student brag that no condoms will fit them? You might have responded that condoms are designed to fit everyone. You might have even gone so far as to blow up a condom like a balloon or slid one onto a foot to demonstrate. While condoms are designed to fit most penises, this studentās comment provides an opportunity to acknowledge that condoms do come in different sizes both length and girth. In a soon-to-be released mobile app for Trans Women, we have a customized activity on finding the right condom based on material, size, texture, thickness, and shape.
In a recent study, about 18% of surveyed sexually active young people reported that a condom broke once in the last 3 months and about 12% said a condom had slipped off in the last 3 months. Often breakage or slippage can happen because a person did not put the condom on correctly. Ā But breakage and slippage can also occur because the condom was not the correct fit. If a condom is slipping off, the condom may be too wide or loose and the person should find a narrower condom. If the condom bunches up at the base of the penis then the condom is too long. A condom that fits correctly should unroll to the base of the penis, cover the entire shaft, but not have extra material. Helping learners recognize proper or poor fitting condoms can help them avoid a condom break or slip.
So often, the focus of condom demonstrations or condom lessons are just on the person who is wearing the external condom. But usually, condoms are worn when there are at least two people in the room, each of them playing an important role in safer sex. And that safer sex can look very different for different people. Use gender neutral terms and phrases. Avoid assuming that the condom is being used for pregnancy prevention purposes or for vaginal sex. Using phrases like āpeople with penisesā or āthe person wearing the condomā is more inclusive of trans women, non-binary and gender non-conforming folks. Step up your inclusivity game by including conversations about lubricates for everyone involved. Lube helps increase pleasure, can prevent problems caused by dryness, and can be an opportunity to increase communication among partners. Ā For example, in both 3T and Trans Women Connected apps, users have the chance to role play talking about lube and condoms. When educators also talk about lube, it lets your learners know that you recognize that people have different types of sex and have different needs in bed, some of which may benefit from a little lube.
Do you work in a place that prohibits using condoms in a condom demonstration? Or maybe your online condom demonstration just needs a new prop? The award winning ConDEMO is here for you! With oversized yet realistic condom packaging, the nylon ConDEMO can be used on a standard-size water bottle (or a foot or arm) to show every step of using a condom including checking for the expiration date and unrolling the condom in the correct direction.
We want to hear from you! What ways have you found to add spice to your condom demonstrations?
Barrett, M., Laris, B. A., Anderson, P., Baumler, E., Gerber, A., Kesler, K., & Coyle, K. (2020). Condom use and error experience among young adolescents: Implications for classroom instruction. Health Promotion Practice. https://doi.org/10.1177/1524839920935431
Breuss, C. & Schroeder, E. (2014). Sexuality education: Theory and practice (6 ed.). Burlington, MA: Jones and Bartlett Learning.
Cameron-Lewis, V. & Allen, L. (2013). Teaching pleasure and danger in sexuality education. Sex Education, 13(2), 121-132. doi:10.1080/14681811.2012.697440