CARPE DIEM

Doing the nice things are different from doing the right things. At times, we tend to do the nice things thinking that it would be noticeable to people, Doing nice things impresses people. (Plus most of the time it’s also convenient for us) 

Now we really want to do nice things for people, especially for people who matters the most to us, people we care about. Let’s admit it, we like the way it feels when the feedback we get from doing the nice things are positive. Now this is where it gets tricky. Now doing the nice things for people or for whatever reason we tell ourselves and others… It becomes a cycle. And at times, that’s the thing we mostly put our focus on.. and we sometimes defend it as doing things for people the people we care about. But these nice things are different from the right things. Sometimes when we face a choice between nice things vs right things, we tend to choose depending on the feedback that we would get. And mostly, good feedbacks are from doing the nice things. And sometimes doing the right things even gets you in some sort of trouble. 

After that, we tell ourselves that next time, we will be better in making the choice between  the nice things and doing the right things. Until we tell ourselves that line again and again.

Love is blind. You know what they say right? Because you can’t really choose the people you love? I don’t get it personally. I just don’t. If there’s something to make out of this saying is that, sometimes, or at some point, love makes us blind. 

Love blinds us.We can’t seem to see clearly when we are in love. Or maybe we can see but chooses to ignore it and let it go. But nevertheless, some kind of blindness. We can’t seem to see the bad things that people do because we are in love? Or we can’t see the bad things because it is getting covered by love? Or maybe we can see  the bad things but to a very much lesser degree because it is getting filtered by love? 

And as love fades, or gets consumed, THE bad things are now starting to pop up everywhere like playing whack a mole. And sometimes the bad things are overwhelming us because the love is not enough to filter the bad things, not enough to cover up for the bad things. 

I think what I’m saying is that, maybe we the both sides. We should really see the good things when we are in love, and also see the bad things when we are in love, especially the bad things, And love them! If we can love the bad things about the people we love, then that would be great.