I do a lot fucking more for the trans community than the example on their website. I actually do the work, I educate people, I do public speaking, I talk about the struggles faced by the trans community, I am in contact with my local queer advocacy groups and I do quite literally everything in my power to educate about both trans & intersex issues in real life. As in, I actually talk to people and don't rot in my bed all fucking day. I do this activism in addition to working two jobs, sometimes up to 70 hours a week depending on scheduling. I do this stuff because I LOVE MY COMMUNITY. I LOVE MY FRIENDS. I LOVE TO IMAGINE A FUTURE WHERE WE ARE ALLOWED TO EXIST.

But no, I guess I deserve to be ostracised and silenced because I had the audacity to... Let's see.. acknowledge the material reality of trans men, as reported to me by trans men? Talk about intersexism from perisex trans people? Condemn community infighting? Advocate for letting queer people speak for themselves and not yelling over other groups? Not believe any trans people have male/cis privilege? Not believe in 'AMAB privilege' or 'AFAB privilege'? Voice my thoughts about how demonizing certain groups of queer people is bad? Being inclusive of queer Identities that are difficult to taxonomize? Having a weird relationship with my cis/trans status due to being intersex? Yeah, all of these sound comparable to this.

No wait, I see it. It's because I think misgendering nonbinary people and calling them 'theyfabs' is in fact, bad. And intersex people regardless of AGAB can do whatever the fuck they want to express their lived experience. Yes, including being transfeminine 'despite' originally being assigned female. The devs are showing their entire ass for that one, refusing to acknowledge the fact that "AFAB transfem" is not a label but rather an intersex lived experience which was co-opted by TERFs and turned into a troll dogwhistle. Instead of attacking the co-opting, perisex trans people have decided to just group intersex people in with TERFs. The same thing happened with cistrans and other intersex experiences/identities, I wonder when they'll come for transfemmasc, considering, you know every transfemmasc intersex person is by nature of being both transfem and transmasc & having an AGAB is either AFAB & transfem or AMAB and transmasc. I wish people would stop believing TERFs when they talk shit about us, co-opt our language and experiences, and attempt to speak for our community. Do you know how many times I've heard "but I thought intersex people didn't want to be included in the queer community" from a trans person in real life? Too fucking many! and do you know where that comes from? That's right! TERFs! This asinine lie is actually what caused me to start talking with my local queer advocacy group about intersex inclusion; they were contacted by a little-known TERF group which claimed the intersex-inclusive flag was offensive, and urged them to take it down. Infuriatingly, they listened, having no intersex people to consult about it. So I changed that.

This extension being used to create rifts in the community is something I saw people predict when I first started using it, right when it came out a few years ago. I had a lot more hope in my heart that this wouldn't happen, but you know. Humans will be humans.

Everyone who has the extension, you can leave a review about its potential for misuse and developer bias; don't just give it 1 star and leave the review blank, as then it looks like bigots review-bombing it. Chrome web store link:

Firefox version:

This isn't just people misusing the extension either. The guidelines for marking someone red are explicitly intersexist. The extension itself is designed to be used this way.

Telling people you have a sex variation or a hormonal condition is not safer than telling people you are trans. It is callous to attempt to use us as a shield and then claim it doesn't harm anyone. So many of those in the queer and trans community know nothing about intersex oppression or how we are being killed too and it hurts.

I am both intersex and trans. These communities are siblings. Watching one sacrifice and then neglect the other over and over pains me. We are siblings, yet you use the intersex community when you think it suits you, and then you are silent when intersex people are screaming for our rights and for help. We have been fighting our oppression all this time, and it feels so often as though we are doing it alone. It especially hurts when the trans community, the sibling to the intersex community, claims the great harm we are facing either does not exist or that it is "not nearly as bad as what the trans community faces". Or, worse, erases us entirely by calling us "cis people with a disorder" rather than intersex.

When you claim to be intersex "for safety", you actively participate in erasing the unsafety we as intersex people face every day. Claiming you are intersex is no safer than being trans, and when you say it is safer, you erase how my community is being slaughtered, the laws that are pushed against us, the intersex babies that are mutilated at birth, the constant harassment, the high risk of sexual assault or violence when someone learns you're intersex, the medical malpractice and forced medical procedures, the way we are isolated socially, the insults, the mockery, the fetishization, and so on, and so on, and so on.

I understand the need to feel safe as an oppressed minority. However, saying that you are intersex "for safety" is not actually any safer at all. And when you claim it is, it harms my community. It works against the visibility of intersex issues that we have been trying to bring up for decades.

Yes it's technically true, but ask yourself what the intention of the statement is; what are you intending for people to believe about you? -> That you are a cis person whose natal puberty was atypical (which would be intersex).

The fact that you're calling intersexism exorsexism is really telling.

You do realize that doctors especially are prone to enacting violence on intersex bodies right? You do know that plenty of intersex people (myself included) were forced/coerced into hormones to "fix" our intersex variations, right?

It's not about moral selflessness, you're just denying intersexism, making it seem like less of a problem, and implying that trans people are in more danger than intersex people. You are not. Intersexism is a very severe issue and victims of it often don't make it out unscathed.

Like one of the main perpetuators of intersexism are medical providers. It's 100% safer to disclose your trans status to a doctor than it is to disclose the fact that you're intersex. There are doctors who are accepting of being trans and even specific doctors that provide medical care to trans people. But currently, the main way to deal with intersex people that is accepted and encouraged in the medical field is to treat our bodies as disordered. 99% of doctors either don't know the word intersex or actively refuse to use it and are more than willing to coerce you into taking hormones to fix you.

You do realize that these nurses you are lying about being intersex to fully believe your body is disordered and needs to be fixed, right? You're opening yourself up to so much potential shit because there's doctors who will refuse to treat you unless you accept the "treatment" they've offered for your disorder they assume you have. There's also doctors who will 100% just straight up fucking lie to you and prescribe you medication and not tell you the real effects of said medication, specifically so they can trick you into mutilating your body for the sake of adhering to the sex binary.

I mean trans men who look indistinguishable from cis women and trans women who look indistinguishable from cis men and they're happy like that. Who have no intention of changing their style, presentation, or even pronouns.

Some women don't look like the stereotypical idea of "woman" and it's the same for men. But they're still men and women. I need you to understand that gender has no bearing on appearance and people's comfort in their own bodies is more important than the fictional idea of what manhood and womanhood looks like.

And, yes, some people can't transition due to disability or funds or whatever and they're included in this, yes. But you need to accept people who don't want to either. Who willingly make the choice to not transition in any way because that's how they're the most comfortable.

A trans person who doesn't transition is just as much their gender as anyone else of that same gender. Please get that through your head.

To any trans men who don't want to transition or change their appearance in any way: You're a man. You've always been a man. You will always be a man.

To any trans women who don't want to transition or change their appearance in any way: You're a woman. You've always been a woman. You will always be a woman.

This post is also relevant to nonbinary people and the OP has decided to get extremely upset about somebody gently saying this in the notes instead of just saying yeah I should have mentioned nonbinary people, because this post is literally not fucking exclusive to binary trans people.

And it's literally just exordexism to pretend that this is only an issue that binary trans people face and deal with.

Non-binary people are constantly ignored and erased when people are talking about trans issues, this post and the topics it deal with are not in any shape or form exclusive to binary trans people, the only reason non-binary people aren't mentioned is because of x or sexism. Opie, you're being non-binary does not make this apparently purposeful exclusion of non-binary people from this post any less bigoted, and I was going to fucking ignore it until I saw your absolute fucking flip out in the notes from somebody literally just saying don't forget non-binary people.

If you are making posts about trans people, literally just put in 2 seconds of effort to remember that non-binary people besides yourself exist. That we exist. Almost every single fucking post about trans people on this website is always about binary trans people, and yes you are in fact directly contributing to the erasure of non-binary people by not mentioning us on this post that also applies to us just as much as it does binary trans people. It doesn't matter that you are also non-binary, that just means you should know better.

Not every post on this website needs to apply to everyone, and that's literally not what anyone is fucking arguing, but this post is literally applicable to all trans people, and it is literally x or sexism to not mention non-binary people. It literally fucking is. And if you are more upset by somebody literally just gently saying don't forget non-binary people then you are the fact that you wrote this whole fucking post and didn't mention non-binary people once, I don't know what to fucking tell you You're just extra sexist and contributing to extra sexism that is rampant on this website.

If the post is talking about a topic that is exclusively dealing with something that only binary trans people face, then sure go ahead and do what the fuck ever but there are hundreds of posts on this website that talk about issues that all trans people face like this one that make no mention of non-binary people at all because people are extra sexist, and you are not magically excluded from being extra sexist because you are also non-binary

Your response to the person in the notes just gently asking people not to forget that we fucking exist is you being extra sexist. All you had to do was say yeah you're right. But you instead flip out and pretend like it's a fucking hate crime for somebody to ask you to include non-binary people in your posts about trans issues that affect literally all of us. You are acting like non-binary people are just demanding absolute perfection and all of this bullshit by literally somebody just asking don't forget non-binary people. In a post you made about trans issues that affect all of us where you only mentioned binary trans people

If you want to actually fight extra sexism and transmisia, you do have to put in the fucking effort to remember that non-binary people exist, yes, even if you fucking are one. Because your response to that person's simple fucking statement is completely over the top and is literally just extra sexism.

You do not get to act like non-binary people are just demanding so much impossibility and so much impossible difficult things by literally having somebody to say don't forget non-binary people on the post that literally applies to all trans people and you fucking did not mention non-binary people once.

All you had to do was say yeah you're right. And just edit the post or add every blog that says and this also applies to non-binary people too. That's literally all you had to fucking do. But no. You just had to go and be a fucking exorsexist acting like it's an impossible demand to include non-binary people and act like you being non-binary makes this behavior okay somehow.

And yeah in the replies the OP literally says that this post is explicitly not about non-binary people at all and doesn't apply to non-binary people so I guess we don't deserve the same basic respect as binary trans people! Cool. Great. So fun.

Also, all I said was that it was rude and annoying for people to constantly go "don't forget about nonbinary people" when that just was not the topic of the post and I'm a non-transitioning nonbinary person. It's frustrating as hell constantly having people try to "correct" my posts with things that they think I should have added or should have talked about instead while completely missing the point of the post.

Are people just not allowed to talk about specific things? Do I have to make an addendum every time I post that says "hey this also applies to XYZ group" or whatever? Can I seriously not just make a statement like the original post without people doing... This? Really?

You do realize intersex people are discriminated against, right? What you're implying when you say that is that intersex people do not face public discrimination or violence. Which is an extremely intersexist thing to say because you're denying our experiences.